When a friend of yours starts a discussion about their star rating...

By Leca
@lecanis (16664)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
April 19, 2007 10:53am CST
Do you check their profile and look for reasons they might be getting rated negatively? Do you offer advice about how they could improve their rating? Or do you just say "Oh I'm sorry it's like that" or "I think you're a 10!" Do you not respond to these kinds of discussions at all, even if they're started by your friends? I've responded to a few of those discussions now with theories about why people might be getting rated negatively, and I wonder if people appreciate it or just think I'm an annoying know-it-all! I really do want to help, but I know that often people just want someone to listen to them rant, and not offer suggestions.
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11 responses
@aissha (2036)
• India
19 Apr 07
hi there lecanis , unless like discussion i never go for friend offer and whoever offers me for friend i immediately aprove it.i never do -ve rating as i feel this is wrong frustration taken out at wrong forum,every one has opinion and all rights to express itsooo... so star for me hardly matters and so are the earnings ,because i'm sure here i'm for sharing opinions and nothing else and doing that.now i hope u are not picking on me thru this discussion as i did mention that star thing but that was just a way of discussion.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
I wasn't picking on anyone, aissha. I'm sorry if it came across that way! I started this discussion because I've seen a lot of discussions about the star ratings, and I was just wondering if people who started them really wanted advice or just sympathy. I do often give advice on these discussions, but I was worried it might be taken the wrong way. I agree with you that rating negatively just because you disagree with someone is wrong. It's very annoying to me when I hear about this happening, and I would never rate anyone negatively unless they were being very very rude.
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@aissha (2036)
• India
19 Apr 07
hi lecanis ,i'm glad u responded positively since u start good discussions so i wanna reamin friends with u.lol dear friend.how is ur fever?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
Thanks for your concern! It's better, but we still don't know exactly what caused it. My doctor things it might be related to my lung problems, because I mentioned my chest pain being more acute when I went in with the fever, in a couple of hours I'm headed to the hospital to have a test done. I won't know the results for a few days, but hopefully they'll shed some light on the situation. If my lungs aren't the problem, then it was probably just a bug or something, but the doctor wants to make sure since I have chronic health problems. Thanks again for the kind words!
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
I think I am answering to the same discussion with you because I also see your replies there.I will try to give them a general advice like if they are writing with one line, I will ask them to write longer. You are right, people do not really any suggestions sometimes, may be they are just not happy about the downgrade and need to shout out. I will check their profiles to see whether they are answering with short answers that lead to a low rating.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
Thanks for your response! It probably is the same discussion, it just got me thinking about the whole thing. =p I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who does this!
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
19 Apr 07
Yeah, it is the same discussion (mine) and she gave me the same advice. Thank you both, I've started a discussion against saying "thanks" but this doesn't mean I don't feel grateful when someone helps me, and even more when you actually don't have to do so for a specific reason...
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I think if they are asking that in general they probably want advice on how to raise their rating, or are unsure why it is so low. If I asked, I would want real answers and would appriciate you taking the time to edjamacate my ignorant self. That being said, I honestly don't care about my star rateing and I'm surprised it's not at a 2 by name with all the people I must offend on a daily basis. In fact during those replies I often point out I'm expecting a "star rating hit," as a joke, even though I think it is petty that people will give you negative ratings just because they don't agree with you. But I digress...
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
21 Apr 07
haha I don't really care much myself either, but a lot of people do, hence my interest. What's important to my friends is important to me. =) I keep expecting those "hits" too... it amazes me sometimes what I get away with without getting them. I feel a little left out... all my friends experience these once in a while! I think it's petty too, by the way.
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@denden (803)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
When a friend of mine here starts a discussion about their start rating is i give complements about their ratings or if there is something wrong with their ratings then i will give advices.I will help them.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Apr 07
Thanks for responding! That's nice of you!
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@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
20 Apr 07
then I go and say "STFU!!!" xDD star don't mean anything, honest. nobody of you shold care about them.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Apr 07
I don't care too much about them either, but if someone else does, then I respect that. I think it's their right to decide what is important to them here.
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
19 Apr 07
Hahaha, you don't have to think you're annoying at all. I suppose you say that because of my earlier discussion, and actually your answer gave me a good advice, and I think others might appreciate it too, unless they are just hypocrites that want to make a void discussion. Actually I started that discussion because I am not too good in "current life" discussions and that is the only one I could imagine to attract not philosophycal mylotters to my proffile... I didn't expect an interestig answer such as yours.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
Well, your discussion was what sparked the question today, but I have actually answered many like yours before. One of those discussions was by a really new person, and after I checked out their profile and gave them ideas about how to improve their discussions, other people chimed in and asked me to do the same for them! =) I think that's a valid reason to start a discussion. I've started a few about things on mylot myself, including this one, just because I wasn't in the mood to be deep at the time. I have a bit of a reputation among my friends here for being overly serious (and a little overly religious), or so I'm told, but once in a while I just want to kinda blab about whatever.
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• United States
19 Apr 07
Yes, I do check their profile and past responses to discover why they might get rated negatively. I've learned quite a bit from this. Not that it has helped my star rating! :-) I'm sure, too, that people who post about this appreciate the suggestions. In my case, I know what I'd have to do. I just won't do it. :-)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Apr 07
Thanks! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who does this! Haha, if you know what you're supposed to do and don't do it, then I don't have any sympathy for you! On the other hand, there are more important things than star ratings, so I can understand why you'd see it that way. Popularity isn't everything! =p
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@neglitex (347)
• Latvia
20 Apr 07
I try to tell them how they can increase their star rating. I don't really rate negatively if only the post is insulting someone because otherwise it's just others opinion. I have to admit I have made such discussion too.
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• India
22 Apr 07
Well, I don't consider myself to be very knowledgeable about the stars, for I haven't figured out how to land my own perfect 10! I have been on 9 for a while now! I do try to tell the newbies, especially those who have just got on, about what it means, but that's about it. Maybe you can give me some tips on how I can get to finally have my own perfect 10! I rate all the discussions that I answer and also the good comments that my discussions receive. Take care and God bless!
@rekkusu (603)
22 Apr 07
You could always suggest they try STALKING It seems to be working for you Mrs. Ten points =p
• United States
22 Apr 07
lecanis, I don't think that someone on my own friend's list has actually started one of these discussions, but I have seen a few of them, and I do respond to them with advice. Actually advice that might help, not just some flimsy make you feel better about yourself filler fluff that will not really get them anywhere advice. Sometimes it warrants a check of their profile to see why they are being rated negatively, but sometimes you can tell from their discussion post alone why they are having problems. I think it is pretty much universal for us all in what we need to do to keep our star ratings up and to keep them up. You have to post good quality content that is not just a one line sentence that is unreadable and that is not bashing or is not a blatant mis-use of mylot policies. Actually pretty simple. Sometimes these people do just want to blow off a little frustrated steam, but I really do think for the most part that they are going to be grateful for any suggestions and help that is directed their way. I would not be worried about being an annoying know-it-all, as I have seen a couple of your postings on here and you seem to be an intelligent person with sound advice. P.S. I read the other posts and seen that you weren't feeling well, neither am I, so I just wanted to wish us BOTH a speedy recovery! Hope you feel better soon! ;)