Weird Girlfriend / Boyfriend / Friend

Malaysia
April 20, 2007 2:30am CST
Have you ever had a weird girl friend or boyfriend. Let me tell you my story and please let me know what you think. i met this girl a long time ago (8 years), we went out a few times as friends. We were close friends, but sometimes we lost contact and when we met again, we'll exchange phone numbers and had good laughs together. she is in a relationship with a guy (4 years). they live together. however, one day we got too close, we were in a relationship ourselves, but yet, she kept telling me that whatever happen, she will never leave her boyfriend (the one that she is living with). after 3 months, i decided that, this is really not healthy, and she has stated that over and over again, she'll still be with her bf no matter what. so we broke up. sometimes she text msg me. sometimes i reply, sometimes i don't. But every now and then, she is mad at me for not giving enough attention to her. she said that i don't care for her anymore. Today, she said, goodbye forever. again, because i don't care enough. have you ever have this type of things happen to you? what did you do? how do you feel?
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4 responses
@jc_star10 (954)
• Indonesia
2 May 07
From the way I read about your story, your past girl friend either don't have enough attention from her boyfried. Or she just don't know what she wants exactly. Maybe she found something in you that she did not find on other guy. That's why she holding you onto it. She needed to justify her feelings towards you and the other guy. If she able to do that, she will able to make any decisions. I don't know about your feelings towards her. But letting her go, probably the best thing you can do.
• Malaysia
2 May 07
thanks... it's just that, it's difficult for us to become friends now. thank you so much for your reply that it calms me down alot. it's 5.30 in the morning here... thank you...
• United States
24 Apr 07
Sounds like your friend isn't as sure as she thinks about what she wants,or she just wants her cake and to eat it too.Either way,everyone deserves to have the one they are with completely and unselfishly...and shouldn't have to share.Hope you wisen up and ask yourself if she means as much to you as you mean to yourself.Good luck!!
• Malaysia
24 Apr 07
yup... thanks. like you said, "shouldn't have to share". i'll just move on. :D
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
20 Apr 07
I only have my first boyfirned and was ablt to appreciate the way he is aand have accepted his ways. I know I should be idealistic about things and events but I have to be more practical and love for what he is and is going to be.
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@MySpot (2602)
• United States
6 May 07
I would have told her that I care enough to not interfere in her relationship anymore and that you are respecting her decision to stay with the boyfriend forever. A true friend would realize that he/she was hindering and not helping and would back off. By giving her the attention that she should be getting by her boyfriend, it's only taking away from their relationship. Good for you!