Love but not "in love"...

United States
April 20, 2007 3:59am CST
A friends of mine has been with this guy for 5 yrs and has a kid with him. The last year she has been wondering about the relationship. They have gone through some things and she says that hes just not the same. She tells me that she still loves him but is not "in love" with him anymore. In my opinion I think that they both just need to move on...so they can both be happy. I'm just wondering what other peoples out look is on this...if you know someone who has gone through it or if you yourself has gone through it...
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3 responses
• China
20 Apr 07
I believe that if i fall in love with a girl, i will be always love, not only now. Love is a custom with her, not just the the sense of fresh, passion.
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@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I'm always reminded how all relationships constantly move through the three phases of love.. infatuation, disillusionment, acceptance.. For the first 15 years I noticed those times of disillusionment.. then I started to ignore them.. and now at almost year 27, it's almost always exciting infatuation.. and acceptance.. It's great! And that's an understatement.. and just think there were lots of times I didn't think I loved him.. and we didn't have anything in common.. It would have been so easy to destroy and lose it all.. so easy.
• United States
21 Apr 07
..maybe you can tell that I believe if once in love, can be again.. If there's a vicious circle the couple is in.. some sort of vicious cycle and circle of an argument.. or maybe even a power struggle.. if just one will drop their end of the vidious circle.. it'll evaporate.. Unless of course the other person is abusive or sold on cheating.. :))
• United States
21 Apr 07
I like your opinion...never really thought of it like that..
@Tatsuya (1150)
• United States
20 Apr 07
A lot of times people grow apart from each other. If they have no chance of being truly happy, then they need to move on. I understand some people stay with their significant other just for the child, but that isn't always the right thing to do. Everyone has a right to be happy, and if she is no longer happy with him, then they both need to move on. I wish her the best of luck in love and life.
• United States
21 Apr 07
Thanx for your thought Tats