Keeping your relationship going.

@pittan (156)
United Kingdom
April 20, 2007 9:51am CST
How do people manage to keep their relationship intact for a long time? What is the secret for long lasting relatinships? I have been married for 25 years now and i still don't know any secrets or formula. We (my wife and I) do have arguments and differences of opinions but somehow we manage to make compromises and give and take. maybe that is the secret. Any marriage counsellors out there would like to give some suggestions.
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
20 Apr 07
I'm not a marriage councillor I am just talking from experience. I think my relationship lasts because it is built on trust and he is my best friend. We spend as much time together as possible. I couldn't imagine my life without him.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
20 Apr 07
The number 1 factor is understanding. Then the fact that when two friends or lovers don't quarrel, then one obliges to the other should be recognizable to both parties, in that way, they will both feel responsible for the growth of the relationship.
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@asmurthy (2464)
• India
21 Apr 07
While keeping a successful relationship going may be a challenge, there are many things a couple can do to make sure their romance stays alive. The prospect of a relationship evolving from a hot and steamy romance to a monotonous state of comfort, sometimes called a rut, is a fear shared by many couples. Not every relationship is doomed to lose the magic and chemistry, but it is up to the couples to put in the time and effort in order to rekindle the flame. One great trick is to give your partner everyday reminders of your love and commitment. Tell your significant other several times a day how much you love them and give compliments your partner on a regular basis. Taking a moment out of your day to remember your love (and to share it) will go a long way in preserving the passion and romance in the relationship.
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I guess giving enough space for each other... allow him to be his self... dont try to manipoulatye things... also say ilove you and show love and care no matter how long you've been together... never loose respect... and never take your partner's feelings and dreams forgotten...
@thefuture (1751)
• Nigeria
20 Apr 07
Well in the first place am not married, but I can contribut right? The first thing in marriage is love, I mean there should be love existing between the both of you. Even if love does not exist between you, try to creat it by trying to know one another's problems. I mean try to ask her everyday what her problems are so you can see how you can help, try to make her happy in anyway you can, though it's difficult for some people. I know it is not going to be easy, but you have to make a sacrifice by taking the burden. Also try to let her know you care and regard her, never say no to her suggestions, even if it is wrong and try to know what she likes and what she dislikes and above all, prayer will be the greatest solution. Thanks and have a nice day.