myspace

United States
April 20, 2007 12:52pm CST
I'm depressed because my boyfriend deleted my myspace account he said he didnt like me talking to a bunch of strange people and that it was just weird and sad that i even wanted to spend my time talking to people i dont know. Does anyone think that he is right? Is it weird and sad to get on the internet and join myspace and meet new people? Thinking about it i guess he could be right but its not like i was gonna go out and meet any of these people or run away and join a cult or anything... I just get bored when i am on the internet. So help me out and give me your opinion i figured i would hang around here and start a new addiction... talking to people i don't know lol... let me know if i am weird and sad please!
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
20 Apr 07
Sorry dear this is not about myspace, it is about power and control, and he wants to have it all. If you honestly think about your relationship, this is probably not the first thing he has said I do not like you doing that. or I wish you would change this. If you are seeing this it is only going to get worse. Men that control want to isolate their partner, and have them cater to his every whim, Please beware if this as there are so many ways they can undermined you until you have lost all your self confidence and are totally relying on him for every thing. You have every right to do and think for your self. Imagine what the reaction would be if you did the same to him, He would have a fit. Start to stand you ground and build your self esteem right now or you will be soon a shadow of him you on the ground not able to move unless he does. I admit I could be way off, but this is something I do ask you to look at and think about. I have been there and done that, and never again.
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@gizmo528 (732)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I don't think you are weird or anything. I get online and talk to alot of people that I don't know. This is something that we all do at some time or another. There are so many people to talk to online and you will be able to meet people with the same interests as you. There is nothing wrong with it at all and you know what you will and won't do so there is no harm in talking. Like you said, it's not like you are going to run away or anything. I don't know you or your boyfriend but I don't think it's right that he just went and deleted your account. Don't let him make you believe that there is something wrong with "expanding your horizons" by talking to other people or joing groups that share your interests. I really hope that this helps you out. Don't forget that there are always people to talk to out there.
• Canada
20 Apr 07
Firstly, welcome to Mylot! Secondly, I have to tell you that if my partner deleted anything of mine online, he would suffer. BIG time! No matter if your partner agrees with you being online or not, there is NO way he has the authority to delete your MySpace account. I don't think it's weird to have a MySpace account. My partner has one and he's had one for ages. I have no problem with that. The only reason I DON'T have a Myspace account is because I don't like Myspace. I think you should sit down and talk to your partner about this. He needs to know how he's made you feel by deleting something he had no right to delete. He should know that you're not trying to hide anything, and quite honestly, it seems to me that he had trust and security issues. Try and talk to him. Once you're both on the same page, then maybe you can come to a compromise.
@mugzy528 (801)
• United States
21 Apr 07
First off Im a guy and your Guy seems to be controlling for sure I would tell you get out now or try and talk to him then get out sounds to controlling to me.My wife talks to all kinds of strange people online and it does not bother me cause i know she aint gonna run away . So best of Luck to You :-)
• Canada
21 Apr 07
Okay I hope that comment is not directed at me!
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
21 Apr 07
lol.. Ah, that was amusing.
@annihilus (2185)
• Italy
20 Apr 07
Only you have the right to delete or to continue!
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Me and my husband both have a myspace account. We use it to keep in touch with family friends though. I don't get on there and add people as my friend, unless I actually know them. I think I would be upset if my husband was talking to strangers and he would also feel the same if I was. I don't think it was right for your boyfriend to delete your myspace, because you can use it for other things, like keeping in touch with friends and family. But I don't think you are weird and sad. If all you are doing is talking that is... :)
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
20 Apr 07
First of all, welcome to myLot! =) Secondly, it is not okay for him to delete your myspace account. It seems to me that he's beginning to show the signs of being controlling. He could tell you that he doesn't like you talking to strange people, and urge you to be careful. As for deleting your myspace account, that isn't right, and you aren't weird for feeling this way. My advice to you is to talk to him, tell him how you feel.. If he continues to try to control you, you might want to consider moving on. He's not worth your time.
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• United States
21 Apr 07
your not even married and he is that controling.. He had no right to touch your myspace account yet alone tell you what you can and cant do. If he is like this i would leave him before worse things happen. With this kind of jealous personality usually it can get very dangerous..nobody at all has the right to run your life. Well expecpt your parents till you an adult.
@emisle (3823)
• Ireland
21 Apr 07
I don't think it's sad or weird at all. There's nothing wrong with meeting new people online, and I don't think your boyfriend had any right to delete your account.
@ajaleelp (131)
• India
21 Apr 07
well the happy news is, that guy really loves you.People get possesive when their love is sincere.He just wants to make sure you are always his and his only. You might ask doesnt it mean he has no belief in you.Well, from personal experiences, no one likes to take risks with their beloved ones.Whether he is right in doing so is a different issue.It might just be his nature to be possesive and you should have adjusted with him if you really loved him.The best way out is to allow him to access whatever you do on net so that he has belief in you..
• India
21 Apr 07
no..u ain't weird..do u think all d ppl who r on these sites r weird nd sad?? well i guess ur boyfriend is acting weird in this case..wot is wrong in talking to ppl whom u don't know..its like knowing different ppl from different walks of life..nd no gurl u r nt weird nd sad..plz don giv ur boyfriends opinion so much importance..
@check12 (15)
• United States
21 Apr 07
It may be weird to talk to people you dont know, but if thats what you want to do then noone can stop you from doing it. Protip: dont give people on the internet any personal information.
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
dont be sad u can find so many guys outhere to love you more than ur bf loves u.. even though u meet him on the net.. dont lose hope okei
@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
how sad is that... my boyfriend knows i have a friendster account and it's ok with him...he also knows that i'm chatting but of course i'm honest i'm saying that i'm in a relationship and i'm just chatting with my friends..maybe you can explain that to your bf that you just want new friends not a new bf... hehehe
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I don't think you are wiered but I know you are sad though. He has no right to deleted your acount and it sounds to me he is controlling you. I don't see what wrong talking to others it's not not your are cheating on him maybeyou need to sit him daown and have a talk with him or move on.
• United States
20 Apr 07
you said he was your boyfriend so I assume you are not married my GD why would you stay with someone that controlling and dont tell me you love him it is ridiculous to allow this sort of behaviour!either kick him out or leave !