When you die...,

@arkaf61 (10882)
Canada
April 22, 2007 2:22am CST
What do you prefer? To be buried in the ground or to be cremated? I was just recently talking to hubby's aunt and she was telling me all about the arrangements she already made for her funeral and her husband's. She paid a huge sum of money to "reserve " the space and to make sure that both her and her husband will be buried together. As much as I respect her ideas I really have a little bit of trouble with the notion. But that is because when I die, and after whatever organs that can be used are used, I will prefer to be cremated. I would love for my ashes to be scattered in a beautiful lake or in the ocean, but nowadays it's not allowed in many places. Even after I'm dead I don't think I would like the confines of a coffin and I would rather have my ashes to be a part of nature. My family knows of my wishes and I"m sure they will respect them. What about you? Have you ever thought about it? What would be your choice? Is your family aware of what you would prefer?
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@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I prefer cremation simply because it is cheaper. And I do like the idea of having my ashes sprinkled in nature too. I am not sure if I have told my family what I prefer. I will have to ask them. Thank you for reminding me.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Here is my dilemma. I am an organ donor and wish to be cremated. The thought of my corpse rotting away underground just doesn't appeal to me. Why pay all that money, plus extra for "upkeep" BUT my husband is a firm believer in burial and having a place to "visit" I told him if he wanted to keep my ashes, he could, then he wouldn't have to go anywhere to visit me. I also explained that I will always be with him in his heart and memories. I honestly don't know, if it came down to it, if he would respect my wishes.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
hmm .. that certainly is a dilemma, but I"m sure that a common ground can be reached if you can discuss the issue and find a midway solution. I think that you're solution of your husband being able to keep the ashes creating a physical place for him to feel closer to you is a good compromise, surely he can understand that part. There are beautiful urns that he can keep in a special place - even a cemetery nowadays. You reached halfway, maybe he can reach the other half?
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22 Apr 07
I made my decision a long time ago that when I finally shuffled off this mortal coil I wanted my organs and anything else of use to be taken out and dontated to people who needed them. What ever was left I want cremated and my ashes taken to a stone circle and scattered on the earth.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
And that is a choice that should be respected. Does the stone circle have any special meaning?
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• Malaysia
22 Apr 07
I would prefer to be buried in the ground.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
And because that is what you would prefer, it certainly is the best choice for you. The good thing about life is that it' not a "one size fits all" . We have choices and preferences that whenever possible should be honored.
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• Australia
22 Apr 07
I prefer to be cremated and i will donated my organs(one of my dream). So i can rest in peace.So my child doesn't need to see my grave every year.
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@sis_syuku (165)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 07
I think I'm the same as you. I also want to be cremated and scattered my ashes in the ocean :) . By the way, why is it not allowed to scatter ashes in the ocean? And would they know about it if we do it quitely? If you know what I mean ;D
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@SKLC_PT (1234)
29 Apr 07
I wondered the same thing, that why could it be illegal bust mostly how would they know! I wonder what the fine would be?
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
i want to be cremated! i don't wanna let the worms take advantage of my inocence inside d coffin..hehehehe but seriously speaking, wen i die, i want to donate watever organ that is still useful.and i want to be cremated and buried to save space:-)here in d philippines, it is very expensive to buy a lot in a cemetery,practical huh!!!and let my coffin reserved for the next generation.sounds funny but practical,huh!
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@jal1948 (1360)
• India
22 Apr 07
Although i have never spoken about this to anyoneI endorse your views being buried would be horrible but that is part of our religion,
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
That being the case then that's to be respected of course.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
22 Apr 07
I want to be cremated. Because of the "returning to nature" idea, and also because I think it's simply a waste of space to bury people. I mean, all that land could be used to support the living, with things like crops or something. I know, I know, that's incredibly pragmatic and ignoring of religious and social influences, but that's just how I think of this particular topic. =p Besides I've read one too many of those "buried alive" type stories. While I know modern medicine makes that very very unlikely, it still creeps me out a little to think about.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
22 Apr 07
Completely agree with you , specially regarding the space thing. I try to respect every aspect or religion but I find that quite a lot of people interpret things to the letter instead of by the real meaning.
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@twils2 (1812)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I've thought about it a bit and I dont think I really care what happens to my body when I'm done with it. Its just a shell for my soul. I am an organ donor so they can take whatever they can use and creamate the rest. As far as where to put the ashes, I would hope sombody can take care of them for me because I really dont have a preferance of what to do with them. Take care!
• Indonesia
22 Apr 07
I rather surprised why all of you at chosening among both, medium all of you net yet experienced of it own ???
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• United States
23 Apr 07
I prefer cremation. I think it much less expensive, and takes up less space-and once I'm "toasted", I will fit quite nicely into a fancy chocolate tin or something like that. LOL
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
I like the idea about the chocolate tin :):):) I can see myself in the middle of a party and making a mistake with the chocolate tin heheh maybe not the best idea hehe
@coffebing (252)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 07
For me, i does hope to donate all my useful organ out at first when i die , as a good deed . Same like your thoughts . Then i would prefer to be cremated too .
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
It's a good choice :) Donating organs after we day doesn't cost us a thing and can help someone in need.
• United States
23 Apr 07
Well I often thought about this and I would like to be creamated. I live in california all my life and have very specail places all around I would like to be scattered.
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23 Apr 07
Buried, I'd to be cooked, burnt to dust. it's a grim thought for myself and I've always said if my next of kin don't respect my wishes I'll come back and haunt them for the rest of there life. Lol. Seriously though I hate the heat, so it's not something I would want once I'm gone either. kudos, ~Joey
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
And that's what you prefer that is important joey. As I said before there really isn't right or wrong, just what the person feels. I"M sure you won't need to come back and haunt your loved ones, they will respect your wishes. People usually do :)
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I will be cremated when it is my time to go. Ashes to Ashes Dust to Dust. And though they aren't allowed to be scattered in most places anymore, mine will be secrectly. My husband and I want are ashes mixed together after we are both gone, then we want them scattered in our favorite place.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
Yes, I know that now it's not allowed to scatter the ashes in most places, but like you I don't think that someone would notice if mine where scattered in a nice quiet lake or even the ocean. I like the idea of having both hubby's ashes and yours mixed together and in your favorite place.:):):)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
I would prefer to be burried because that is how it should be.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
Why?
• United States
23 Apr 07
It isn't allowed in our society anymore, but I would love to have a pyre, then have my ashes scattered. I really haven't put much thought into, but my family knows my feelings about being buried, so hopefully they never do that!
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
OH I would love the idea of a pyre as well. A huge bonfire! In terms of making a choice, I find we don't really need to talk much about it unless we want to, it's enough to just state our preference. I'm glad that you're parents know your feelings in this issue.
• United States
23 Apr 07
I haven't really thought about it too much but I think I would prefer to be cremated. I am clausterphobic to some extent right now so thinking of myself in the ground in a box makes me cringe lol. I would prefer to donate my organs to help others and then be cremated.
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• United States
23 Apr 07
It doesn't really matter to me what happens to my body but I guess I'll go with cremation since it's cheaper and it saves space.
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