Does age matter when you're in-love?

Philippines
April 27, 2007 6:04am CST
Ever since, (well at least for all i know) most girls prefer to be with older, mature guys than being with younger ones. Coz as they say, the younger ones (guys) are not mature enough to handle a relationship. [Take note: Girls grow mature and think maturely earlier than boys.] There's always this question in my mind that keeps bugging me. And the more I ask the people around me: friends and classmates, the more I get confused. DOES AGE REALLY MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP?
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 07
Not at all, age is after all just a number, it shouldn't be a barrier in any relationship, as long as their is respect, love and friendship then age mades no difference. I was with a partner who was 17 years older than me, we were together for five years, it wasn't the age difference that split us up. To be honest I much prefer to be with someone much much older than me, this is from a guys perspective, but everyone is different. Age only matters if you let it. Love should matter more.
@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
I don't think it matters... I'm answering again even if you have asked me personally.. and many people did answer to your post my dear! MOst of them agree with me. How about you? What do you think?? Does age matter? I have known couples wherein the girl is older than the guy and it seems awkward though it's fine with them. BUt girls having older boyfriends seem absolutely fine.. That is where I get confused.
@suju15 (184)
• India
28 Apr 07
Age of course does not make a difference in the matters of heart.But if you are serious about some one, then it would help you both, if you are round about the same age.Preferable would be the girl being one to three years less than the boy.In such cases you see more stability, everlasting love, companionship and even understanding, in their relationship.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
28 Apr 07
I do not think anything matters when you are in love. Not the age and not the responses. The big question is what happens when you start loving and stop being in a love crush. Lol. I do think and respect every person and his or hers decision, and i would support anything that makes others happy if i see it does not harm them or others. But if you think about it, eventually this women will wake up one day, and will see that she is with a much older men, he will have more health situation problems and he will think in a different way then people in her own age, he probably did also experience more things that her, and does has a alote more things on his mind. So it all depends on the situation. I know that i had a good friend that had this kind of a relationship, they already decided to get married, and he gave her a wedding ring. But she had to go away to a different country because of job requirements, and when she saw him again, suddenly he seemed very old to her, and not connected to her life. Sometime you have to take time off from the person, and see what you truly feels for him and how you really see him.
• Canada
28 Apr 07
NO love is blind and there is nothing of age.
@kteja_86 (293)
• India
28 Apr 07
I dont really think so,coz as far as i know it,age only becomes the factor during physical relationships,and when u truly understand a person,where does age factor oooze in from!?!?!?
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
Not really. Right now, I'm in love with a man 7 years older than me. Age really doen't matter when you love. As long as there is love, it's good. My best friend had a boyfriend 5 years older than her.
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
28 Apr 07
well for love as it said"it juss happens..."means no condition or nuthing it juss happens...so frst of all i don think tht if u r in love age should matter..and i completely agree tht its not necessary tht some guy who is older than so is mature enuff to handle tht relationship..grls get mature more earlier than boys...
@anup12 (4181)
• India
28 Apr 07
I do not think so that it matters.
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
ya age doesn't when you are in love with someone...
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
No. I had a girlfriend before, she was five years older than me. Our relationship went good but sadly we broke up. Its just that we are too busy with our schoolwork.
@nieshalj (15)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
we always knew that love is blind, and the beauty is on the eye of the beholder., so for me age is doesnt matter at all when it come to love.
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
28 Apr 07
age doesnt really matter at all in the relationship, as long as their is love then its fine, also i found guys younger than me, just so not worth worrying about because they arent mature, and i have found the older ones (majority anyways) care more
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
28 Apr 07
i dont care about my bf' age before i meet a boy.first i will take him as my friend.if we have the common interests ,i will like to date with him . it is true that girls grow mature earlier than boys,but not for everyone.i'm 27 years old,but all of my friends say i'm 20 years old.first ,i have a baby face,then,my actions and words also like a young girl. if you love someone ,love him in your own way.
• Melbourne, Australia
28 Apr 07
I have only ever been with 1 guy older than me & I married him. He is 7 years older than me & you would not know it. He acts the same age as I am & I love it. But I have been with a guy 6 years younger then myself & I hated it, he was so childish that it was only ever going to be a disaster
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
For me i always liked older guys because i think they are mature enough to handle relationship. Less of their childish reasonings and more of the intellectual unselfish principles. And true enough my honey and I have been together for 5 years and we LOVE each other very much. He also admits it that when he was in his teens and 20s he was not that mature and he was not that serious in relationship. However when we met he said He has "GRADUATED" from those things, the extreme drinking, the LATE nights activities and the playing around stuff. He was more into a serious relationship and he consider now the importance of choosing the right girl. He is very careful about that because HE Loves kids and he wants his WIFE or the mother of His kids to be loving, responsible and supportive both to their kids and to him as her husband. Though our age gap is around 9 years, we understand one another. We support each other with all our interest and activities. We fill each other's short comings and encourage one another. :) LOVE may not literally defined by the age of your partner but more of the CHARACTER. Its just that Younger guys or guys with the same age at times are not yet through with their teenage lifestyles.
• United States
28 Apr 07
No I dont think it does. I have seen many successful relationships even with girls older then guys turn out fine. Now I do believe some younger guys arent mature, I am talking about when you are older, like mid-20's. As long as you are both mature enough, I dont think 3 or 4 yrs the girl older will hurt. Just know what you want. Or you'd never marry a guy younger than you or vis versa.
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
for me? no!, I think If you love that person, no matter how long is your Gap, then GO!
• United States
27 Apr 07
nothing else except love should matter when you really love someone
@SQUIREx (29)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I don't know about all that gibber gabber you just said, but I think you are really hot for a 17 year old chick! Holla back!