My husband's leaving me for five months...
By missybal
@missybal (4490)
United States
April 29, 2007 11:31am CST
Well my husband got a deployment to help with Iraq Freedom. He's be gone for five months. Not to the sand though.... He is taking the place of someone who got sent to Iraq. I'm glad he is still staying in the U.S. but I still cry knowing I have to be without him for so long. I plan to go down to visit for a bit somewhere in the middle, if it wasn't for finacial reasons I'd go with him the whole time. I realize I shouldn't feel so bad when I think of the military wives with their husband's in the dangerous places who will not be able to call from their cell phone everyday like my husband will... but I just can't help it... Wheather it's for a week or months or where ever they send him stateside or overseas I will always cry when he leaves. I guess I'm not so great of a military wife. But that's the life I must live because my husband is one of those lifers in the military. That's his career, and I'm proud of him for it. I'll be doing anything and everything to keep busy so I don't think about it much and so time will hurry up until I see him again.
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@simplyshawn (650)
• United States
4 Jul 07
You are a stong woman. Even though you might not agree. This situation and each time he leaves, only makes you and your marriage stronger. I know it stinks when he's gone. And I know there's an adjustment time for when he comes home. I wish you the best and to just keep on going!
My husband used to drive over the road and be gone 5-7 days each week and at the time we had a 2y/o. It was hard. I went to my in-laws a lot. I also started going to MOPS, I love it and I can't live without it, even yet.
I hope you have good friends to get together with keep each other going.
@missybal (4490)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Well, Just an update... It's been two months now and to tell you the truth it doesn't feel like it's even been that long. I don't have time to think about it because I've been taking care of my great grandmother and working so much with my home businesses. Really it's sad to say I don't think I would be getting as much done if my husband was home and I kind of got use to not having someone kick me half the night in bed. He misses me terribly though... I really do miss him it's just not as bad as I thought.
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@simplyshawn (650)
• United States
5 Jul 07
Well I'm so glad to hear that! That's great you are keeping busy and help out your great grandmother! And yes I'm sure you are getting more done w/o your husband here, so take advantage of the time. You will be glad when he returns and I'm sure take a small vacation from the computer. And that's good.
I believe our lives focus so much on our men, I know mine does. I'm just glad it's going better than you thought it would.
Just keep it up and he'll be home before you know it!
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
i understand that you love your husband so much, missybal. you are sure that you will miss him a lot now that he is away from you. take good care of yourself. don't let the down feeling bring you down. cheer up. it is good that you have someone to love and that he loves you in return. you will make it through until he comes home...back into your arms.
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
11 Jul 07
My husband is a US Marine. It doesn't really matter if they are just gone for days or week or if they are in the country or out of the country. Any time they are gone, it is HARD. As you have said, it is a chosen path. So, we just have to make the best of the situation. Meanwhile, do keep yourself busy like you mentioned. Do fun stuff. I did lots of those when my husband was gone. I taught myself how to crochet and started volunteer work, amongst other things. You'd be surprise how strong you really are even though you think you're not. Just hang in there and take it one day at a time.
@joefromkokimo (39)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I can't relate with how you feel however one guy was right to say it will make you stronger. I've had to be away from my fiance for a long time doing this summer job in virginia. She's in tennessee. It gets easier everyday. I've also served a mormon mission and those are typically 2 years. It's difficult and I'm sorry you are having to go through that. How much longer now until he returns home?
@missybal (4490)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I just found out he will be coming home at the end of this month on leave for the week of our second year wedding anniversary. Then he leaves for another two months... possibly longer. With how things are going here at home I don't know if I will get to go down to see him while he is away. A lot of family things going on right now.
