Adoption ...

Canada
April 30, 2007 11:00pm CST
In the case of an adoption who should have the right to decide weather or not the child finds out who his/her biological parents are ? Should this right belong to the parents who adopt the child to decide or should this decision be made by the law or by the child him/herself ? This decision affects so many people and how does one decide what decision is better ? Every child should have the right to know about their background but then the parent who adopts the child may want to protect them from and fear what will happen if the child does find his or her biological parents . How do you feel regarding this , whose right should it belong to , for the child to find out about him or herself ?
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5 responses
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
1 May 07
That is a tough question. Each situation has a unique answer and only the peole involved should have the right to answer it. I do not think that the government should have any say so in the matter at all. I think that if a child wants to know when they are old enough to understand fully what knowing may intale, then they should be able to find out. On the other hand, I have heard the biological mother specify that she does want her child to know about her at a certain age. I think that that child should be told when it reaches the age that was agreed on when the mother gave the child up for adoption. Adoption is a wonderful way for a child to have both parents who love them. I think each case is unique in its own way and that each case should be handled as such
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• Canada
2 May 07
I agree with you completely as it is true each case is unique and will have different circumstances . Thank you for your response .
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• United States
2 May 07
Thanks For Best Response!
• United States
4 May 07
Yeah I agree I think that the child has a right to know.
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• Canada
1 May 07
I think all childen should have the rite to know who his/her real parents are, they should be told that they were adopted and then it should be up to them if they wanna find out who there biological parents are, Its not wright if they dont konw because then there is always the possibility of them getting older and dating or marrying there brother or sister all because they never got the chance to find out who there biological parents were and to find out if they had any brothers or sisters, And for medical reasons to, Just to be able to know about your family history to know if there is cancer or diseases that run in there family.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
1 May 07
I think the decision ultimately belongs to the child. I don't mean when they are little, but when they are old enough to handle it then they should be able to find out this information if they choose.
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• United States
5 May 07
I met my sister, Julie, about 4 years ago. She was adopted at birth by a family who lives in Maine. My mother gave my sister up for adoption shortly after giving birth to her. I was glad to know that she was able to look for us, as we had been looking for her. It shouldn't be the decision of the adoptive parents. If the child would like to know more about his/her life, it should be their decision. It is their life.
@diego9774 (172)
• United States
4 May 07
Being an adopted child i feel very strongly about it being the deciion of the child.I wonder all the time about my birth parents and if i have any siblings or even medical stuff that i should know about. To this day my parents have yet to tell me anything about them and any documentation that they have has disappeared. I feel that i was cheated out of an opportunity to at least know something. Their age,height, anything. It's a very strange thing to grow up not having anyone around who even remotely looks like you.