Do you ever discipline your kids in front of other people?!!

@Augustta (1860)
Poland
May 2, 2007 5:52pm CST
If you are in a public area, like a grocery store,if at a friend or family member’s house or on the street do you ever try to discipline your kids?
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@mdchennai (2129)
• India
4 May 07
Yes, i will surely discipline my kid but it will be without others knowledge. I will see to it, that the kid doesnt get hurt due to my disciplining. But the work will be done in a smooth way such that the kid that get hurted. I feel that through love anything can be done!
• Philippines
4 May 07
Hi Augustta. Yes definitely. It will reflect back on me if the kids misbehave in public. Of course public discipline is different from private. I don't want to embarrass my own kids in public. The thing I do is just give a warning or a look. The kids usually understand since even before we go out of the house we make a deal that everyone be on their best behavior. Of course I don't have my own kids but I take care of my brother's 3 kids. They are a handful. Thanks and have a nice day!
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
4 May 07
I do discipline my children in public. I will normally take them to the side to discipline them because I don't want to embarrass them. I however believe that a child must be spoken to when the have done the bad behavior so that they realize what it is that they have done wrong.
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• Pakistan
3 May 07
well my mom can discipline my younger sister in the street or a park, that is she scolds her a bit loudly, if my sister is misbehaving. but in someone's home my mom disciples her through her eyes. she shows that she is angry or sends a warning through face expressions.
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@lafavorito (2970)
• Philippines
3 May 07
As much as possible I try not to remain calm when we're in a public area. My son is already in the 'terrible twos' stage and he often throws a fit when he doesn't get what he wants. Whenever this situation happens I try to take him in a corner, I kneel down to speak with him face to face, tell him that I do not approve of his screaming and he needs to calm down. It takes too much patience to remain calm in a situation like this but I don't want be angry too because I might set a bad example for my child.
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@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
2 May 07
As much as possible, no.. Parents should be very discreet about punishing, scolding, or reprimanding their kids in public because this can cause embarassment, humiliation and a lowered self-esteem.. . Even if they are just children, they too feel embarassed everytime parents shout, pinch, and rebuff them for a misdemeanor. Like my experience, my son answered me back within the hearing of some people.. . I did not reply, but as soon as we were in the privacy of our car, I let my emotions out by pointing out to him what he had done, etc. Well, he was in tears and asked for an apology. After that, things got better because I did not embarass him in front of people....
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
3 May 07
Well, my son is such an angel, he never needs to be disciplined. Ok, ok, if you really want the truth then the answer is no, not if I can help it. I would rather take him out of the public eye, and tell him off quietly. My son is very responsive to a problem being 'discussed', rather than being yelled at, and he always apologises without being prompted. Most times though, he does behave well when he is out. He knows he gets a better reaction if he is good then if he is bad. How about you, Augusta. Do you discipline yours in front of others or not?
@Augustta (1860)
• Poland
3 May 07
thank you for interaction,and sorry because i don't said inside my post. lol! i wish to be a perfect mom,and this is my best desire OF MINE,BUT I HAVE TO ADMIT I AM NOT SO PERFECT...Yes,i discipline my daughter few times in front of people,but never a real discipline...some ugly look and some wispers with a severe look... augusta
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
4 May 07
I have no doubt you are a very good parent, augusta. You can rest easy in knowing I am not passing judgement here, I was just curious.
@bluewings (3857)
3 May 07
There is a saying 'Appreciate in public,criticize in private'.This is one of the most important lessons if human relationships be it between two friends,spouses,a coach and team members or children.Children have the same emotions that we had as a kid and react similarly to affection and criticism as an adult.The only difference is that their reaction isn't always politically correct. With that in mind ,I personally feel that criticism works best when it's done behind closed doors and doesn't embarrass them. However,there can be circumstances when the child dares you to stop.I feel the rule could be bent when the situation really demands ,but the rarer such incidents the better.
@Augustta (1860)
• Poland
3 May 07
wow!! great!!I never heard such a great said:"'Appreciate in public,criticize in private'"...thank you because i learned something today! many hugs, augusta
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
4 May 07
I don't have kids.so there is no question of scolding.but actually i think it should not be done by the parents.It really hurts the child more if it is done in front of others.The child feels insulted & all the more rebellous he becomes.It is my opinion that whatever is there to be said to achild should be told in a private place.That is what my parents have always done.
@derek_a (10903)
3 May 07
If they started being destructive to the property of others or being rude, I would stop them. My parents did the same with me and whilst I would feel embarassed about what I did at the time, it taught me to respect others and their property and did me no harm whatsoever. I knew my parents loved me and wanted the best for me, and that is what I believe is important.
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@FrancyDafne (2051)
• Italy
3 May 07
This is a sad question.... once I noticed this, above all in the South Italia, and this made me very angry, I sometimes happened to see parents who slapped their children's face, but I have to say that now it happens more seldom. I'm always with my little son, we go to the shops, to the cinema, to the parties, to the parks, we walk together.... and I usually never get angry with him, so I never disciplined him in a public area till now, I hope that if he will behave bad I'll be able not to discipline him in front of people and to wait for coming back home and so discipline him at home, when we are alone.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 May 07
I will discipline them but in a way that no one will notice it and then when I got home I would talk to them about it I do not believe in showing anyone up in Public not even little Children Mine are Grown up now and I still do it discreetly if I have something to say
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@unisis (1674)
• Indonesia
3 May 07
I think if my kids doing not good in front of other people or in public place.but I still recall it when we are already home thats really not good idea for doing such a silly things,as much as possible, the parents should be very discreet about punishing, scolding, or reprimanding their kids in public because this can cause embarassment, humiliation and a lowered self-esteem, Even if they are just children, they too feel embarassed everytime parents shout, pinch, and rebuff them for a misdemeanor. as like my experience, my son answered me back within the hearing of some people,I did not reply, but as soon as we were in the privacy of our car, I let my emotions out by pointing out to him what he had done,he was in tears and asked for an apology.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
3 May 07
Well, I believe that if you want to make your children a successful and bold, give them confidence. If you snub or make them disciplined in front of others, it will be just to make them RUDE and adverse effect would be at his personality.
• Canada
3 May 07
Yes as a matter of fact i disciplined my kids where ever I was. I was never afraid of what people thought becuase I felt very confident over my teaching abilities of my children. But I was not one to hit my kids if I was I might not have been so bold to do that in public. I did yell out when needed but that wasn't my normal way to discipline either. My children knew acting up in public got them nothing so they learnt not to do it.
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• Canada
3 May 07
Hi Augustta, hope all is well. My daughter is only just about 11 months old, so she's still a little bit young for that yet. BUT when she gets older the answer is yes! I won't let her get away with stuff and "skip" discipline just because we are in public or at someone elses house NO WAY!
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@tammyr (5969)
• Etowah, Tennessee
3 May 07
I will if they are getting to wild. I do try to do most of the punishment in private. She gets mad enough if I tell a caller that she can not come to the phone because she is grounded.
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
3 May 07
Hi there, I never discipline my children in public or in view of any one else. I dont think its right and its none of anyone elses business. Further more, I wouldnt dear embarrass my children more, by disciplining them in front of others. So no I wouldnt...
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@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
3 May 07
I only discipline my kids at home, when outside and have done some mischiefs i just remind her/him or jsut plainly told them that it is not good to do that in a manner that they will not feel embarrassed..they have feelings too and im trying to make them feel that even though they were just a child we still do respect whatthey feel in front of the public..
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
3 May 07
I will yes, if I don't my son would run around like a crazy man!! I have had strangers tell me they are glad I am not letting my kids run wild and willing to discipline them in public.
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