Mother,wife,sister - WOMEN - all for sacrifice !

@deepti15 (1190)
India
May 3, 2007 12:40am CST
May it be a mother, or a sister, or your wife, why is it they the females in the house have to scarifice there happiness for the family? I have seen, since a kid that my mother wakes up early, for household chores, she wakes me up and prepares me for school. From cooking to managing everything in house, it is her responsibility. When some one in the family is sick, unhappy, or any thing, it is the female in the family who takes care, nurtures, cherishes the family. Think of a situation when your mother or your wife for that matter is not feeling well and so are you, what does she do. She closses an eye on you ? No she forgets her own pain and agony and takes care of you. Why is it so? Why not you do this for her, just because she is a woman?
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@patgalca (14057)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 May 07
They were doing a poll on the radio tonight asking people what they thought stay-at-home moms should earn in salary. One guy, yes a guy, phoned in and said $50,000-$100,000 a year. God bless him! The DJ said that most of the people answering the poll on the website were saying under $30,000 a year. Who the heck was answering these polls? Obviously a lot of unappreciative men, and possibly children. Why weren't the women answering these polls? I have recently been ragging on my husband because every time I turn around he is going out to play while I am running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to do laundry, make dinner, get the kids here and there and everywhere. Yes, ladies, golf season has begun. He has been to the driving range four times in the past week. He will be making his first full golf day tomorrow (the other day got rained out after two holes). When our kids were babies, my husband helped out a lot. He did not get up with the colicky baby if he had to work the next day but he sure pulled his share of the load when he was off shift. But now my girls are 10 and 14 and sometimes golf takes precedence over a child's basketball tournament. The older daughter gets very angry when he does that. He tried to get out of today's basketball tournament with a "why?" when I said we were going. I just said that that's what we are doing today. A mother's job is never done. We are on duty 24/7 and even if we are out on our own, our thoughts are always on our family. We never take a vacation from them. It's a natural born instinct that God gave us. Wonder what He's doing about the guys. LOL!
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@deepti15 (1190)
• India
18 May 07
oh yes, it happens, even my husband does this, men will be men after all. thanks for the response you have beentagged with best response.
@patgalca (14057)
• Orangeville, Ontario
18 May 07
Thanks for the Best Response mark. :)
@joshdale08 (2325)
• Philippines
3 May 07
all the more reason that we have to honor our mothers, our sisters, ourselves (even if just for being a woman) with not just lip service but with things that we're missing out in our efforts to provide a better home for our kids and husbands. even if it's to be done only once a year, at least, it's something to look forward to. we, women deserve it!
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
18 May 07
so true, 100% vote with you :-)
@Mikki2 (181)
• United States
3 May 07
I think it is because women are stronger than men. Most men can not deal with illness, whether it is themself or their wife or child. Women know what needs to be done and then they do it. I remember my mother working all day and coming home to cook and wash clothes. As soon as I was old enough (9 or 10) I started doing all the cooking on the days that she worked.
• Canada
3 May 07
Such a good point, and a problem that is present, the world over. While it is more present in certain cultures, it is a problem all over the world. I am very lucky to be in an equal loving and supportive relationship where we take care of eachother in sickness and in health, but sadly not everyone is as lucky as my love and I are. A Female Turkish friend and I discussed this one day. She was telling me that it is this way because women don't assert themselves enough. We automatically take care of everyone and everything. Where would men and children be without us? In some cultures, children don't even get a childhood, at 5 and 6 little girls are taking care of things.... OK it is said that men do the lifting and loading and backbreaking labour, but why can't that be shared too? Women are just as capable as men of doing that. ALSO men eventually get to retire from this type of work, but do women get to retire from their "domestic duties?" No!!! It's not right, it's not fare, and as women, we must all do our part to stop the inequality in the world, and we can start by stopping it in OUR OWN HOMES!!!!!!! Thank you so much for posting this. May you only receive + ratings for this discussion!!! You're definitely getting one from me. I am going to notify my freidns of this discussion, and hopefully they will comment too. Thank you!!!
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@Chere7 (16)
• Canada
4 May 07
I agree with what danishcanadian's friend says---that women don't assert themselves nearly enough! It seems to be easier for us to shrug our shoulders and say "Oh, it doesn't matter" (when it DOES matter)!!! This comment is coming from a woman who's learning how to assert herself!
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@deepti15 (1190)
• India
18 May 07
hats off to both of you.
@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
5 May 07
I believe mother's do it because that's the role they chose to take on when they decided to have a family. More often than not it's because the man who has also decided to have a family, is the one willing to go to work every day to make money to support his family & make sure they are all well provided for. It's probably also a natural instinct, she is the care giver & feels the need to make sure that everyone else is happy & content before she worries about herself. I am a mother now & i would do anything for my daughter, whether she be sick or just unhappy, my partner on the other hand, goes to work every day to make sure we have enough money to cover food, bills & anything else we need. He always takes on extra shifts too so we have extra money for things was want - as well as the things we need. I haven't sacrificed my happiness for my family, the only thing i have sacrificed is my 'ME' time & that's ok coz i am happy to have less me time, so i can spend it with my daughter & when my hubby isn't working, we can spend it together as a family :)
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
4 May 07
Its really sad that women are not given the correct place in the society. They r treated as burden and made to take all responsibilities. Now coming to the point in a family i feel all men and women should devidethe work as much as possile and share it so that there is a smoohness and equality maintained.
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• Nigeria
3 May 07
well i feel the role a woman plays in the house has been ordained by GOD. remember when GOd created Adam, he said let me make him a helper i.e someone who would notice the little things Adam would ignore and that person was Eve, a woman. I also feel women are more emotional and tend to be moved with other peoples' plight and they also have a general tendency to want to help other people compared to the man. So thats why the women folks ought to be celebrated cause they are the driving force and the backbone of any family and nation
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@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
4 May 07
Even though I do all of these things that you are talking about, I have to brag on my husband. If our kids are not in school I don't have to get up early he will get himself up in the mornings. He rarely ever eats breakfast but he will bring me a cup of coffee in bed and we will sit there and watch TV together until time for him to go to work and then I'll get up to see him off. I work at home as a medical transcriptionist so I start working after he leaves. The times that I have had surgery or have been sick he waits on me. He even cleans the house if I am sick. So I have to give him an extra A+ for taking care of me, being a wonderful father and a wonderful provider!!
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
22 May 07
You are realy lucky. I am happy for you. Hope this love and care between you two, continues till eternity.
• United States
18 May 07
I see this behaviour in my mother and I know that I could never handle it. As such, I never want kids. I simply could not be as strong and selfless. Call me weak and selfish, I don't care, it's just not the way I am. I am very proud of my mother for being able to change for her children as she was much like me beforehand. However, I'm OCD and I can't handle major life-changes and I can't alter my character, so I could never do it myself.
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@laltu86 (1253)
• India
4 May 07
It was a customary duty for the boys rather mens to go for earning and ladies for caring , but i dont feel that , the ends are meeting now.Now-a-days dad r changing the dipers and moms are ceos.
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@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
3 May 07
I think it is the nurturing mothers do because we are the ones who carry the child in the womb for 9 months and it just follows along that we continue to do the caring after birth for the child and the family. We feel it is our "job".
• Malaysia
3 May 07
no.. not all women have to sacrifice for the family. .it's wrong if you think like that... i think women is really great.. that's why we have the song title 'god is a girl' ..while i do know some female abuse this.. they make others think that they're so great.. which actually they're not.. i do think some females are great.. like.. my mother.. my auntie. .my sister.. and so on.. my mother sacrificed her time to bring me and my brother up...it's not an easy task to do when you have to do everything on your own.. because my family is already broken.. and i know she's sad too.. sometimes i wish i can do something for her.. but i think... i still can't do a thing.. except praying for her..
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• India
4 May 07
why do u think so ?