would you CHANGE for your PARTNER?

CHANGE for your PARTNER - partner
@nengs10 (3189)
Philippines
May 3, 2007 8:38am CST
Is it necessary for you to change your attitude and personality just to suit it with your partner's? Any comments..
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12 responses
@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
20 Aug 07
There's a wonderful movie called "If A Man Answers" from the 60's and it has to do with a young wife who is instructed by her mother to use a dog training book to train her husband. Things go great until the husband finds out... but eventually the wife realizes that it wasn't actually the husband she was training but herself. I think that a certain amount of change is inevitable, on both ends, and in fact it's quite preferable to have a true give and take partnership. On the other hand, to undergo extreme changes for a spouse is probably going too far, particularly if it's all one-sided changing. I believe that if you maintain a true partnership you can change and grow together; if it's one person doing all of the changing, then I think that there is some bullying and/or control going on.
@zjenikka (292)
• Philippines
4 May 07
if it is for the betterment of you, the guy and the relationship.. then why not..
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
4 May 07
I think it is necessary to change my attitude and personality just to suit it with my partner's. When you are married ,you are not only yourself but also a wife. which is more important? you or a wife? I often put myself in first place. Because my bf loves me not a wife when we begin to make friends. So when we live together, he doesn't ask me to do something I don't like, but I know I am also his wife, we should share everything with each other.
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
3 May 07
If you have to change your attitude or personality just to suit your partner's then maybe you weren't meant to be together in the first place. That is one of the major flaws in people that are getting married......after we get married he/she will change or I can change them. I wouldn't change my attitude or my personality for my partner, and I wouldn't want him to either. We liked each other's personalities from the start, we were both open and being ourselves when we met, so there is no reason for either of us to change
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
3 May 07
Beeing in a relationship means you have to compromize sometimes. Maybe it is necessary to change your attitude from time to time. But I would never change my personality for anyone. I am who I am. I will change due to my experiences in life, and because I want to change. I will not try to change who I am just to suit someone else
@angelface23 (2502)
• United States
3 May 07
I don't think so. I know I am a bit of a crazy person. I talk alot, I like to party, I am a bit loud. My husband seems to want me to change everything about myself. I really don't appreciate it. There are a lot of things I'd like him to change but I wouldn't ask him to change.
@fazelath (1176)
• India
3 May 07
to lead a happy life with your life partner,u and your spouse change for each others happiness,i dont mind,or see anything wrong in it
@barnkinney (1343)
• Philippines
3 May 07
it's very hard to change. but when you love someone, you want that person to be happy. and for that person to be happy, you need to change? is that person really loving the real you?! for me, it would depend. if the change he wants is simple and something that would make better, why not. but if it's something very hard for me to change, maybe i would try, but i won't promise anything. it would be up to him if that's alright and just appreciate that i tried. - barn kinney http://barncogitations.blogdrive.com/ http://barncogitations.blogspot.com/
@thediesel (288)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I would, but only if it will benefit us both, meaning I'll change for the better. Its one way to show her that I really love her. I'll give up my bad habits for her. I'll try my very best to control my attitudes and temperament. Maybe even change some of my routines for her. But at the same time, I also expect her to do that for me. Its like give and take but I know it will be definitely worth it.
@jsae29 (1122)
• Philippines
3 May 07
Only to some extent. In one way or another, couples really need to change some of their ways in order to make the relationship work. Every couple must learn to adjust.
• Philippines
3 May 07
No, If my partner truly love me he will accept no matter what I'am. Just that not the word change that would let we be compatible with, all I need is to improve myself step by step letting me know what's good for us to last the relationship.
• Philippines
3 May 07
The only thing constant in the world is change. I wouldn't mind changing if change would be favorable for me and the relationship. Sometimes, adjustments is needed to make things right.