Dont get angry, get even.
May 4, 2007 4:06am CST
Have you get yourself into a situation where you were confronted with unreasonable accusation and you stood there numb, without trying to defend yourself? Have you thought about confronting the accuser and get your pride back? I have been in a situation at my workplace where I was accused of not conveying an important message. I looked at the Manager without even trying to defend myself. I was too shocked to do anything because I thought for sure I would get fired for that. After a few days, I finally have the nerve to talk to the manager and told him that it was not my fault. I have proof that it was his fault and he was trying to use me as a scapegoat. Will you keep quiet and go on with your daily work? Or will stand up for yourself?
4 May 07
i will try to calm down myself firstly.but i do not mean that i will keep quiet and silent all the time after.It just takes time to mediate my emotion .I will analyse it with my manager defitely ,and it must come to a clear answer.I think you are right in dealing with this matter.You should persist your view and tell clearly what the truth is.Bless you!
• United States
4 May 07
When I was younger, I'd stand head to head with anyone, making a lot of angry friends in the process. As I grew older and wiser, I learned to find a way out for the individual and for me (or my subordinates) thus allowing the accuser to save face and walk away with dignity. Sometimes, thats not always the case so I'll discuss the matter in private and if there isn't a warm fuzzy, I'd let the individual know, that I will not be caught in that way again. Someone with that type of attitude messes up in due time, and the same thing will happen, but this time, I'd cover me and my people with notes, and briefings, memos, etc...So far its worked everytime....I'll be a scape goat once for no reason, but it will not happen again. Also, if I were wrong...I'd take the heat, in this way, my integrity and reputation is even stronger on the second go around.