my "kuya"

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This is not about my brother. He is not related to me. Neither in consanguinity nor in affinity. He is my friend during my school days. We had been close, and I still keep him close to my mind & in my heart. Maybe because I see him as an ideal man, a husband material. When we were still in school, I waited for him to court me. Of course, I'm a "Maria Clara", so even if I really wanted to convey my inner feelings for him, I told myself not to. As a consolation or so I think, he was very verbal enough to admit that I am his best friend. He sought my advice on matters of the heart, although he very well know that I am an amateur on this matter then. He related to me his infatuation / crush on a couple of schoolmates. One could just imagine how bad I felt during his narrations; and I'm very sure that many girls have felt the same feeling way back. We were often wrongly viewed as sweethearts. On one of the many ordinary days and after many secret heartaches I've felt from his "unobserving nature", he confided to me & one of our peers (we were three in that group that day) that he wanted to court me several months back. I thought that was the biggest shock of my life; my mind went blank for a couple of seconds. He continued saying, "... but I could not because I feel that I am being a traitor to our friendship." We graduated and led our own lives, minding our careers. I got the bigger shock of my life when I heard the news, "he's getting married." Just for curiosity, I attended his wedding. His fiancee was a former schoolmate. They are married for almost ten years already and the last news I've heard of them is: they still don't have any children. For many years now, I wanted to contact him, to keep in touch with him; and maybe to tell him what I kept hidden for all these years. If you were in my place, would you admit to your 'best friend' what you really feel for him? If so, would you consider me a traitor to our friendship? Please help, this has been bothering me for more than a decade.