When you say I Love You..........

@lenapoo (674)
United States
May 5, 2007 9:23pm CST
When you tell someone that you love them do you say it just because they say it or do you say it because you mean it. I am a very open person and I will not tell someone that I love them unless I mean it. If I don't mean it then I don't say it. What do u do? Do u say that u love someone even if you don't? Do you feel that it is important to mean what you say and say what you mean?
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
6 May 07
When I say I love you to someone it is because I actually do love them and can't imagine my life without them. I have several friends that say the love someone to easily in my eyes. I love you is a powerful phrase that shouldn't be said lightly. If I don't like someone then I tell them that I don't care for them. There is no reason to lead someone on. I think that you should always be honest about how you feel. You don't have to be cruel to be honest.
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• China
6 May 07
the same feelings with you !
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
6 May 07
I definitely say it only if I mean it. In the past, I dated a guy who told me he loved me really early on and I thought it was too soon, so I wouldn't say it back. I just explained that I really wasn't ready to say it yet and I wanted to be sure before I actually said it back. I wouldn't want to tell someone I love them unless I really truly mean it, cause I'd be afraid of leading them on.
• United States
6 May 07
When I tell someone that I love them, I mean it. Be it close family members or close friends. Telling someone you love them, and being in love with them is two different things. If I tell my husband, I love you. He knows that and he says the same thing back to me, but he always add you are my soulmate, and we are forever! I have a babby-daddy who is trying to get back with me, and he knows that I am married. He always tell me.. he is in love with me, which I think it's just infacuation. I think he cares about me, but that's it! He had his chance with me way before I got married.. He messed up so many times with me, that there is no way I could truely fall back in love with him, even if I were to divorce my husband for whatever reason. I love him as my daughter's father, because she is the only reason why we still stay in touch with each other...When I say I love him, I mean only in a "friendship-way". Nothing more - nothing less.
@patgalca (14362)
• Orangeville, Ontario
6 May 07
I don't use the phrase "I love you" lightly. I never said it to my parents when growing up, and they never said it to me. Only as adults have we learned to say it and when we do it is from the heart. I think the same was with my husband growing up. I know it is harder to say those words and I don't think it is because he DOESN'T love me, it's just harder for him to say. I have never hesitated to say it to my husband and kids - to anyone else it comes harder. This comes from my heart whenever I say it, and I say it often to them.
@carryli (876)
• China
6 May 07
I am same with you,i never say it to my parents,too.I feel shame-making.I won't say "i love you" forwardly,in despite of i really love him,unless he require me to say that.In China,i think there are a few people say"i love you" easily,they often feel it is difficult to speak out their mind.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
7 May 07
yes, for me those words are sacred and holy. I say those words to people whom i truly have deep feelings and i do not say it just in a casual way like saying goodbye and hello. I make sure that when i say it, the person who have recieved it knows that i really meant it and that i came for the core of my heart with sincerety and honesty behind those words.
@dbeast (1499)
• India
7 May 07
i think most of the people do mea what they say at least i do.these words will come out of my mouth only when i mean those words.even when i use it casually i use it carefullly and see to that i do not misuse these precious words.
@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
7 May 07
I'm a type of a person that whatever words that you hear from me, i say it sincerely... I would not say or tell someone the feelings that I felt when I don't felt it sincerely. Especially uttering those "i love you" words.. I would not say it everyday to the person that I love because the meaning of " i love you " will be taken for granted... I would just say it during the times that we should show how much we love another.. And when that times comes, you could really feel that it is really that " i love you " that comes deeply from your heart.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
7 May 07
I have no problem saying I love you, & yes it's because I mean it when I say it. Now, if you ask me about being in love it's two different things. In love is what I am with my wife 2/be, love is something I feel for many people I have had the pleasure of knowing. (Good Question)
• United States
6 May 07
to me it is very important on what i say especialy when it comes to saying that i love you to someone. it means a lot to me and i will not say it just because someone said it to me. i want to make it mean something when i say it and i only say it to the ones that i really love and that is that. to me what you say and what you do is to mean alot to alot of people especially the ones that you love and say you love not just for the heck of it. a lot of peoples feelings can and will get hurt very bad.
@kmm241 (5)
6 May 07
When I tell someone I love them I mean it. I only lied about loving someone one time and it was a long time ago! Just because you say you love someone it doesn't mean you are in~love w/ them:)
• Philippines
6 May 07
for me love is forbidden and that love is not a joke... i only say "i love you" to the persons that i really like...
• Philippines
6 May 07
I rarely say I love you to my beau. But don't get me wrong I really really love him and I can't imagine not having to spend my life with him. The thing is that I want the word to be of high value. We may not always notice but if we say it often, it becomes a routine. It also gives me a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction if i try not to say it for a couple of days. This usually bottles up and I end up just blurting it out loud. By the way I've never mislead a person by telling them I love them when I don't. That would mean that besides lying to their faces, I'm also lying to myself.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
6 May 07
=I say i love a person if i really love him/her because if you don't mean it, then youre lying to that person. It is not good that you only say i love if you know that it is expected by his/her. It should come from your heart and you should mean it.
• Philippines
6 May 07
Don't say I love you unless you really mean it.
• Philippines
6 May 07
i rarely say i love you to a person i really love! coz for me, i want her to feel my love for her and not just by saying those words!
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
6 May 07
i say that only when i mean it. these words are to strong to let them go out of the mouth without thinking. i told them only to my partner who is the love of my life. and the love for my friends is another one but its love like for brothers or sisters. so i tell them that too, when i mean it. its not nice to lie about such a strong feeling. if the other who tells you that and it isnt wanted, he has to deal with. i wont be mean or something else, but my experiences made me feel that way
• United States
6 May 07
i will NOT tell someone i love them unles i really mean it. It takes a lot for me to say it even when i do mean it. If someone says it to me and i don't feel the same way, i will say something like "Thank you. i really care about you, too." Why pretened to love someone if you don't?
@fazelath (1176)
• India
6 May 07
I say it only when i mean it,i dont say it just for the sake of saying it,
@anaweya (41)
• Philippines
6 May 07
Sometmes, I just say I love You because the other person expect you to say in return also. But there are also a lot of times that I mean when I say I love You especially to my bf right now.
@cutiedhes (509)
• Philippines
6 May 07
Of course it is really important if you mean what you say because its useless to say a word that it is not from the heart. Unlike you i am not that open person and expressive sometimes i want to say i love you to a person whom i really want sometimes i can't really say it because i feel that they might get annoyed or avoid me for that. Same goes with my friends and family i can't say it personally eventhough i want to so i would rather write a letter to them and in the end of the letter i just say that word to them. Because for me writing letters that is a way i can really express how i feel.
• United States
6 May 07
Never tell someone you love them if you don't can cause serious pain and hurt. I tell my husband I love him and my kids that I love them all the time. I think it is nice to hear it when someone you love tells you they love you. I always tell my husband before I leave or go somewhere or get off the phone that I love him you never know what could happen.