Have you ever gone too quickly into a relationship?
By DavidReedy
@DavidReedy (2378)
United States
May 7, 2007 4:23am CST
I've recently gotten into a relationship with a nice girl. The thing is, is we went way too fast, and now I'm not so sure I'd like to continue it with her. I don't feel like she's "the one", I feel the timing is wrong in my life for this serious of a relationship (or any for that matter) and she is very dependent on me and head over heels for me. What should I do? I want to give the relationship a chance, but I'm also afraid that if it isn't going to work out, that prolonging what feels like an inevitable breakup is only going to be harder on both of us, particularly her. She is emotionally fragile. How should I handle this? Thanks in advance, DR...
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4 responses
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
7 May 07
I am not sure anyone can define what is the right person forhim. es, ofcourse i did went too fast to a relationship, but we were together for 3 years, and lived together for two of them, till i realized that he is not the one for me to live the rest of my life with.
I can tell you that if you are 100% that he is not the right person for you, just tell her right now, but first think if you gave her the chance. Relationships are not easy, maybe you should go and talk to her, and tell her what bothers you and see how she responds to it, and by the way she responds you should know, if it is worth continuing and giving her the chance or that this relationship is not for you, and you should finish it.
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
15 May 07
Thank you for your heartfelt and realistic response. Fact is, things are beautiful with her now, that I was able to (doing exactly what you suggested)
get everything off of my chest. We are extremely happy together.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Very welcome. Although, it seems we did go too fast--she's insecure about things, and well, to be honest, now I am--in a sense. If I find Love I believe in holding on to it, but you can't hold hands with a closed fist...
@lilyll (12)
• China
11 Jun 07
i don't think timing is a key factor in a relationship.my BF and i falled in love with each other at the first sight,eh,though we broke up a few days ago.what matters is the feeling,the feeling that you always think of each other first whatever situation you are in
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Thanks for the insite. You've given me a bit to chew on.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
15 May 07
Thanks for the heartfelt thoughts. I didn't think I was ready. But I realized I was afraid, and I could very well have remained afraid for my entire life. She is so wonderful to me, and she feels the same way. We know each other's deepest, darkest secrets, and we feel no fear with each other, only trust and comfort--I've never had this before, not even when I've been with women for weeks, months, a year even. You were very right. ...If I wasn't ready. But it's up to one to decide when they are ready. I Love her deeply, and I think of her happiness so much...
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@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I've been into this kind of rel. and I don't want it. I'm thinking so fast and not thinking too much about what's the right decision.
