Everyone deserves a second, third, and even a fourth chance??

second chance - jail
@Augustta (1860)
Poland
May 7, 2007 1:39pm CST
"Many peoples that after they are released from jail are forever the scourge of society, it is hard for them to find jobs and other thing. But it is right to judge peoples just because they have spend some time in jail? All peoples deserve a second chance right? " These people theortically should be given a second chance. But in actual fact, they are not. It's not that employers refuse to give them a chance. It's just that it's difficult to gain back that trust you have so willingly, with your own pair of hands, gave up. So how do you expect people in the society to trust you? It's not impossible. It's tough. But without that chance, they might well go back to unlawful activities! So, what's the contradiction here?
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
8 May 07
I do believe in giving someone a second chane. However, I wouldn't trust that person till he has proven to me that he is worthy of my trust. We all have made mistakes in our lives. I know that if I ever did something wrong I would hope that someone would be willing to give me a second chance.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
7 May 07
I once employed someone who had just come out of Jail and yes it was very hard to trust the Guy I had to do every Day visits to the Site to make sure it was all going well and that put extra work on me but he deserved a chance and he worked out well really well But again it is a risk that is taken and that is why many People will not employ them
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• Canada
7 May 07
Hi Augustta hope all is well my friend. I honestly believe in the saying 3 strikes your out. Everyone makes mistakes and none is perfect BUT I could see employers being picky when it comes to certain jobs. For example if you have a guy or a woman who went to jail for abusing a child I don't think you would want him/her working at a daycare, school, etc. Most places that people who have gone to jail get jobs here in Canada are in warehouses or some place where they don't deal with the public a whole lot.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
7 May 07
to me once a person has served the sentence handed down from the courts that should be the end of it. It is for the institutions of the law to punish criminals not wider society blessed be
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• United States
7 May 07
If a person has shown by their actions that they have improved, I'm all for giving them a second chance after serving their time in prison, for jobs, etc. On the other hand, I'm not so sure about third and fourth chances. Third, maybe... Fourth seems like they aren't trying very hard in my opinion.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
7 May 07
I think that while in jail, something has to be done to get the prisoner to want to take responsibility for themselves. And take an interest in themselves. There are more ways to make a living than getting a job and working for somebody else. I think if a prisoner comes out of jail or prison with the same mindset that they went in with, that person will have a difficult time changing. I think everyone deserves many chances to get with the program (the set of laws created by society). I think a level of trust has to be created within the person so that they can learn to trust themselves. They have to be made to understand that there are alternatives that can work for them other than breaking the law. I think it comes down to self-esteem.
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• Philippines
9 May 07
you're right everyone does have to have a second chance...... it is not right to judge anyone cause they have been in jail..... if i would be a owner of a company i would let those people with criminal records to have a job at my factory....
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@stdrst (471)
• Bulgaria
9 May 07
I think that everybody desrves second chanse but we may decide to give him third or fourth. I mean that nobody is without mistakes, Everybody may do a mistake but we should be ready to accept that after a mistake he can change himself. He can even become better than he was before the crime. And I think that it is not right to reject people whi have been in prison. I know a case where a businessman hired somebody who has been to jail but he didn't know that. When he finally understood about his story he was amazed because the man was really good at what he does. So he asked theothers "Is he good at the job?" They answered "yes" And the businessman concluded "Make him stay here. He has a right for second cyhanse and he has proved that he is changed." So maybe it is rare but you can start a job after going out from prison, I think that people have not to be so conservative in their oppinions. But it is also good not to exagerate.
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• United States
8 May 07
Well I am in the same position. My brother is kind of that way. I mean yes they should get a second chance, but if they don't I do but don't feel bad because it is there fault that they put themselves in that position to go to jail in the first place. Sometimes when they do get a second or third chance they still blow it, so basically why should we keep giving them chances? I guess it depends on the person, but I do feel at times that they actually do learn there lesson. I think it took my brother 5 times in children's village to learn his lesson because he was turning 18 and new he would go to real jail then. Ever since they he hasnt done anything bad, except went to JAIL once because of something when he was 17 that took along time to get to. After that I think he did learn. So yes I think people should get another chance, but when they mess up that time I dont think they should have a third, because they should know right from wrong by now.
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@xfahctor (14128)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
8 May 07
I guess it's all on a case by ase basis. Some people if they messed up once, learn their lesson and try to make good. It can be sometimes hard to get society's trust but persistance is the key. Then there are those who keep going back. These are the people who will make excuses like, "society won't give me a break". thses are the people who will forever refuse to accept responsabilities for their actions. Its is this group that really give a bad rap to those trying to make an honest comeback after a slip up.
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
8 May 07
I think that it is difficult for many people who come out of prison to find housing or employment for one reason or other. And because of this they just give up and cocmmit another crime which ends them back up in prison. I think people deserve second chances but it is hard for people to have that in real life because most employers and landlords don't want to deal with anyone with a record for any kind of reason.
@Writerbob (572)
• United States
8 May 07
The problem is if we don't try to bring people back into the mainstream, they will still exist in the underground and are still a threat to the good people of the world. So why I understand everyone's knee-jerk reaction to what seems like coddling criminals, it is in our best interest to salvage those that we can, else the world will only get worse.
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
8 May 07
I grew up hearing the saying " fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame one me". I am willing to give someone a second chance because I understand that no one is perfect. The second time around they will have to prove to me that they had learned from their mistake. To know where we are going we must first learn where we have been.
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@tomatoe39 (298)
• United States
8 May 07
I would think after being in jail and thinking about what u did and not wanting to ever go back again would do it for me...My husband's brother has been in jail 3 times and hopefully this will be the last but he keeps saying never going back. The last time he was doing good but got hooked up again in the same area with teh same people and low and behold ended up back in jail AGAIN... so now after a year he is back out and living with his mother which is creating a problem between her and her husband and getting ready to move in with a girlfriend but in another town som maybe he will stay straight this time...we will see...but he has been given multiple chances to make it and blown it...
@fox123 (285)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Its hard to trust people who have just out from prison, it needs a lot of convincing or time before giving our trusts, it is but natural since of their action in the past.
@derek_a (10902)
8 May 07
I was having this discussion with somebody the other day and feel that there is too much judgement in the world and when somebody who is trying to make amends is judged in this way, they could quite well turn back to their crime as you have observed yourself. This reminds me of a story of a Zen master who was visited by a thief in the night. The Zen master simply said to the thief, "I don't have much, but please take what you want, for your need if obviously far greater than mine." The thief took nothing at all, and spent years studying Zen with the Master. There are many stories in Zen about forgiveness, although they never use that word. The message they impart is that true value has to be earned, for if it is stolen it is of little value. And we all need these opportunities to learn these lessons. We all make mistakes and learning from example is far more effective than learning from punishment.
8 May 07
If they have done the crime, then they must do the time. After that they should be given the chance to show that they have changed their ways. However, in reality it doesn't always work that way and there are thousands of habitual criminals who accept prison as an occupational hazard. If someone can prove they have changed, by their actions, then yes chances should be given but unfortunately there are many who really don't deserve a second chance.
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@unishwetabh (1032)
• India
8 May 07
Nice topic! I do know that it is hard for such people to be accepted by the society but it is the fault of the criminal who chose this path for himself/herself. No matter how much the conditions were worse but still losing ones ethical value is not a good deed to do. Human has to power to build up its own future. Such people in my opinion should wait for sometime. Patience is the key to success for such people.
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• Philippines
8 May 07
Everyone deserves a second chance.. but mistake should commit only once, and when committed for the second time around, i think we should not toleate this anymore.. second, third, fourth.. so on SAME committed mistake are already stupidity and should not entertain anymore..
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@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
8 May 07
There are less opportunity for these people to get on with their life once again. Just what have you said, we could count in our hands how many company will still employ them if they have a criminal records. But I think its unfair to them to judge them because of what they did in the past, and to think that they already paid the price (imprisonment)for the crime they did in the past. But that's how our society works. I think it will be better if they could start a small and simple business where no one will question their integrity and past life.
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