Paying lip service to a friendship?

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I have a friend that I feel is just pretending like our friendship is important to him. He writes notes on my Facebook ‘wall’ about how much he misses me, but he’s only 20 minutes away from me, so if he misses me so damn much, why doesn’t he come visit me, and why doesn’t he send me private messages? He’ll also ask if I want to hang out, or go do something, and then will never call. Or we’ll set up a movie night, or a night to meet for dinner, and he won’t show. I’ve actually gone to the trouble of making a full dinner for him, and then he calls when everything’s cooking to let me know he won’t be able to make it. No excuse, just that he can’t come. A few days ago, we ran into each other, and he tells me his sister is coming into town and if I want to she’ll cut my hair for me. I say sure, and ask when it is, and he tells me Monday (which is today, obviously). I told him to send me a message letting me know when and where, and I heard nothing from him all weekend, so I sent him a message this morning asking where I needed to go, and he tells me she’s not coming anymore. Like when was he planning on telling me? Our friendship is still pretty rocky after he pretty much destroyed it shortly before Christmas, but he says he wants to resurrect it and would feel awful if he lost me as a friend, but I’m beginning to believe he wouldn’t care at all, and quite frankly, I’m not sure I would either. I put in almost no effort anymore just because I’m tired of putting in the effort only to have plans fall through with him. Does anyone else have a flaky friend like this? What’s up with them? Why waste your time and energy trying to ‘play’ friend, when it would be a lot more beneficial to either just BE a friend or sever the friendship neatly?