How close are your kids in age?

United States
May 8, 2007 1:20pm CST
I have a little girl that will be 4 in August and a baby boy thats 10 months. is it too soon to have another in your opinion? how close is too close?
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@mujtab20 (434)
• Nigeria
8 May 07
To me I think three years is ok, 'cause I've a boy of 7 and a girl of 4. Thanks
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@limcyjain (3523)
• India
8 May 07
My elder daughter is 8 and younger is 4 years old and i think a gap of four years is good enough. By the time my second daugher was born my elder daughter had become a little self dependent and was not disturbing me every now and then. Moreover the pressure for studies too was very low as she was in a playway. I found it quite comfortable with this age difference of 4 years.
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• United States
8 May 07
Well this wasn't planned but I have an 8 week old, a 16 month old and a 9 year old...in my opinion, there are times when the two younger ones are too close!
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@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
8 May 07
My stepson is six years older than my son and seven years older than my daughter. Then my son and daughter are 10 months apart in age.
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
8 May 07
My girlfriends youngest child is five years and nine months. The middle child is seven years and two months. The oldest child is eight years and eight months. I wouldn't recommend having two children in diapers at the same time though it is difficult to say the least.
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• United States
8 May 07
Depends if you want to raise your kids all at the same time. I did, my kids are 18 months apart and were planned out with respect to the second born. I was on fertility pills to help with that pregnancy and I knew I wanted my children close together in age. My sister always told me it was easier to raise children when they were close in age, unsure if that is true, it is more like raising twins, you do everything double, I wouldn't change anything about raising them, but if I had to do it again I would have spaced them out at least 3 years apart.
• United States
9 May 07
Thank you! I am just preparing myself if we have more now or get pregnant in the next few months what it would be like. I think you may be right that it would be nice to raise them together. 3 years apart is great thats what I have now..
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
9 May 07
I don't really think there's too close to be honest, maybe too far apart but i dunno really. I just think you need to make sure you leave it a decent amount of time between kids just to let your body recouperate coz it does put a lot of strain on a woman's body. Someone here wrote that their kids were 10 months apart - since the baby is in there for about 10 months, she would have had to have gotten pregnant just about straight after giving birth to her first, i think the age gap is ok but i couldn't so it myself! I needed time to recover & mend up. I think any age gap is ok just as long as you have had a little time to recover from the previous pregnancy! With your youngest being 10 months, he'll be almost 2 before you actually have your 3rd which i think is a pretty good gap!
@ktmay1 (22)
• United States
9 May 07
i think that's such a personal choice it's hard to comment on. i'm pregnant with my second. she'll be 3 years younger than my first. the best advice i ever got about family planning is to not worry too much about the kids and to think more about what i and my husband felt ready for. when did WE feel ready and able to give to another child. our resources can't be stretched too thin or we won't be good to our kids.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
8 May 07
my kids are 10 6 and 5 months if i could do it again i would have them closer together so that i do get over things quicker in stead of having to potty train 3 different times and all that other yucky stuff
@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
8 May 07
Personally, I think that less than 2 years is too close. I also have a theory that when your baby starts becoming a toddler is a really bad time to have a baby because I find a lot of people want a baby then but for the wrong reasons, ie. because their baby is not a baby rather than because they are really ready for another child. There are 5 years between my children who are brilliant together. I have an older sister who is 6 years older than me and we get on well too but I also have a younger sister who is only 1 year younger. It's was horrible growing up together because we would fight a lot and she would often get me into trouble. If you are prepared for that kind of sibling rivalry then go ahead, but I wouldn't recommend having another until your baby is 2 or 3 years old.