How do so many of us end up alone?

@loujac3 (1188)
United States
May 9, 2007 12:44am CST
I have been divorced since 1998 and I find that rather depressing. I have tried the dating sites, blind dates(isn't that also called dating sites?)and just about everything you have heard about. Now mind you, I look about 15 years younger than I am and this might be part of it. I want to date men my age and they think I am too young for them realistically. Ouch! I never thought looking younger would be a problem. Last night I watched "Must Love Dogs" and the reality of it all really hit home. It was a cute, funny, chick-flick kind of movie. I am one of those people. I have a dog and one of the requirements is that the men must like animals(cats, dogs,etc.). I dated one guy that kept making jokes about eating dogs in other countries and I finally told him that it wasn't funny to me. Dumped that dude! Have you experienced this situation and do you have any miracle ideas you can throw at me? Besides Duct tape and a shotgun.....
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@lilaclady (28245)
• Australia
9 May 07
I know exactly what you mean, in my case I have become so independent I don't really need a permanent man in my life, in fact I could go as far as saying I am a bit scared to get involved in a steady relationship, I think I have back off written across my forehead, I have become quite happy within myself these days and I realize everyone is alone really but some have company for awhile but nothing is forever, after losing someone special in my life I sort of feel he is still close to me and that is enough along with a couple of close friends and my cat...I think I am lucky.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
9 May 07
You are very lucky! I have moved around and I am not close to my sisters. I see my daughters but they are taking off in their own directions. I don't want someone that has to entertain me or be there all the time. I just like someone to touch base with the last thing at night and to share experiences with and to travel with. I love to cook and spend time just being open and free with that special person. I wasn't able to do this with my ex. He wasn't there even when he was there in body. I love my pets but I really want that one special guy to grow old with and do crazy things with. I am far from old!
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@lilaclady (28245)
• Australia
9 May 07
yes one thing as you go through life is you learn a lot and unfortunately in looking for that special someone you are now wiser and you look deeper for the good in someone and that is where it makes it harder..I wish you luck my friend.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
9 May 07
i think most people end up alone because it is their choice. most people dont have someone by their side because they chose to stay away from people who can help them, who can make a difference in their life, thinking maybe that they can stand alone in this world.
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
9 May 07
I understand what you are saying. I run from those that really want to help and I end up hurting myself. It is time to let go and let things take their course.
9 May 07
Dump the dude - You have been officially dumped
I got divorced in 2001 and spent quite some time alone and feeling very low and alone. I was lucky though, I found my partner through a music chat room site. I had met a couple of other guys but one was only interested in my divorce settlement - dumped him very quickly. The other guy was nice enough but he didn't like animals and expected me to be little more than a taxi service as he didn't drive - dumped him quickly too. The one piece of advice my best friend gave me was to stop looking. It sounded wierd at the time, but it seemed to work. As soon as I stopped looking, I met my partner on line in a chat room
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
9 May 07
That is the number one thing that most people say and yet it is human nature to want to solve our own problems by being in control. I need to let go and stop trying to control all the things that are going on in my life. The stress is killing me! Thank you!