is it important to get married??????

India
May 10, 2007 6:03am CST
when you are happy with your present life.. you do not have a boyfriend because you are not interested in such relationships.. why do people interfere and say that there is a big problem with you if you dont want to get married...
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@Darkwing (21583)
10 May 07
I think this is a very old fashioned idea, because more and more people are staying single and becoming career people in this day and age. Why they feel everybody should be the same as them and want to get married, I don't know. It's not everybody's cup of tea... we're all different, and that's what makes the World go round. If you want to stay single, you stay single. It really doesn't matter what they think, in the end. Brightest Blessings.
• India
10 May 07
but what if your parents also want you to get married..
@Darkwing (21583)
10 May 07
Like I said... it's your choice. Your parents can't tell you whether you should get married or not. You answer me a question... if you got married to please your parents, would YOU be happy? You're the one who counts... your parents won't be there always.
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@Rohit20 (327)
• India
10 May 07
It is necessary to marry in India where I live, ao far, I am unmarried, but dont want to marry b'coz there are lot of complicacies as I observe in most of the copules. Being beachlor give feeling of freeness.
• India
10 May 07
hey rohit.. even i m from india.. well please let me know whether you get married or not in the future.. its important.. thnaks
• Malaysia
10 May 07
I am not married. I am happy. And i am not against marriage. If peoples find their life partner so i would suggest them to married. First, because of religion. Second, because i believe that marriage is important to protect both parties and the children. But for peoples like me who choose to be single... so let us be.... as long as we are happy and don't cause troubles.. so it is OK... right? Time change... women in old days need to marry men to protect and give them shelter. But right now, many women are independant and some earn more than men.
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@piropos (312)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Marriage is an important aspect of human life because traditionally, it is through this institution that humanity is extended and has been able to survive through the ages. This institution brings a man and a woman together, and thus they procreate and provide for the future of the human race. This has been the accepted practice in almost all cultures and races. It is present in one way or another in all human societies. Marriage is the ultimate destiny of all men and women because they are expected to contribute to the productivity of the tribe or society. In today's modern world though, every thing has changed. Marriage is just one more choice that anyone can make. It has become optional and thus, not for everybody. But still, there are traditionalist who would like to preserve the old order and thus, expect every body to get married when the right time comes. Today, couples are getting together and giving birth without the benefits of marriage. I am not condemning nor condoning, this, but the social repercussions of this practice will be felt surely in the state of the society's moral fiber. Marriage produces a family with strong ties. The family is the basic unit of society and with eroding values, the society is surely to follow crashing down. So is it still important to get married? I say yes it is because it is the institution that holds the family and the stronger the ties are within the family, the stronger society will be.
@reachravi (453)
• India
10 May 07
i think thats how thw society has become...if a girl is not married till the age of 25 then they feel there is something wrong..i myself am against this.For guys like me,its more easy i think but after some time we also get pressurized to get married...thats the way society is turning out nowadays...
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• India
10 May 07
yeah u r right.. but dont you think something should be done against this...
@kbbmgr (17)
• Nepal
10 May 07
Off course !! It is really required to marry coz to take your responsibility in future when we retired,At that time we really need our family back force. The family back force are our sons or daughters. If you don't married.How will u have these. how u really have interest about not to married. lets think about it once again....
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
11 May 07
A cousin of mine doesn't plan to get married, and we think it is because of his dad, he is very kind and an exemplary son, but his dad has social issues. He's not a very good people person, I won't expound on it, but he's very hard to deal with. We, the relatives are thinking that he's probably said he won't get married since he does not want his future wife to suffer having to deal with his father, which I think is really unfair on his part, because he is such a great person and whoever marries him will be a very lucky woman. But then he is overly considerate, and it seems like he has already accepted and embraced the fact that he will not marry. Initial reaction to this is of course... tried to talk him out of it, that his father's issues are out of his responsibilities. But then it seems like he's already set his mind to that thinking. And it also seems like he's happy being single now. It differs with different people, and the thing that matters most is what works for you, if you envision yourself having a family then marry, if you see yourself better off single then so be it. What is important is that it works for you and you are happy.
• India
11 May 07
yeah u are rght.. but we can have a family even if we are not married.. we can adopt kids..
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
11 May 07
Personally, I think getting married is a choice. One has to really understand what is marriage all about in a whole picture. It is a big responsibility. If a person is not married when s/he reaches the age, it is h/her decision. I think in the olden days, it is a great issues. But now it is not considering that many will marry at a later age and when they think they are financially independent. Most importantly, when they are ready mentally, emotionally. You have your point there when you say, why marry when you are happy at your present life.
• India
11 May 07
thnks for responding
@dwynne (82)
• Philippines
15 May 07
Being single or getting married is either a vocation, or a choice. Whichever, i think what is important is that you are happy! ...happiness that is within, and not affected by people or situation. Don't mind what people say. It's your life!
@sachin1 (25)
• India
11 May 07
It is most important for the fature.
• India
6 Oct 08
All girls tend to say this at a certain age, but when age passes you by, you start regretting. Life alone is not so hunky dory all the time. It gets more and more difficult as you progress through life. Your friends get married one by one. Soon they start thinking of you as a parasite if you chose to stay single. You start getting isolated. Parents astart getting old and they can not support you all their life.
• India
7 Oct 08
may be you are right... the society will not let you stay single.. thanks for responding..
• India
8 Oct 08
yeah.. i think i should take your advice on this.. thanks
• India
8 Oct 08
Society may let you stay single, but afte some time when find that all your friends and colleagues are married, you really have no one to turn to. They are all busy in their own lives. You feel isolated and alone. You need companionship specially later in life. That is the time you start regreting. It is better to learn from other's experience than to learn from your own. I am happily married but have many friends who got married after crossing 40 and were getting desperate.