Your partner is too curious...

I would prefer an agreement between me and my partner to have open access to each other's cellphone, email, IM, or whatever. If there's nothing to hide, there's nothing to hide, that's just that. I myself got into situations when I wanted to barge in to my girlfriend's cellphone but of course I didn't do it. I still trust her, but I get this nagging feeling of paranoia that someone's trying to get between us in our relationship. My imagination ran wild and I pictured myself breaking his face into pieces, and after I thought about that I wanted all the more to explore her inbox. I never questioned her whether she entertained any other men but that's just me being paranoid and all. I myself won't mind her taking a look at my inbox. I've nothing to hide and the point I'm trying to get at here is that if you're not doing anything wrong, why not go the extra mile of agreeing to such a thing knowing that both parties will be more at ease and have peace of mind knowing that they know all about each other?

I frequently check my husbands phone. I know its wrong, but I do. The first time I checked wasn't intentionally to pry. I keep messages on my phone that my husband sends, just little ones to say 'I love you' or whatever. Messages that make me feel better when I'm feeling down. I just wondered if he did the same thing. Instead, what I found was messages from another woman, who he assures me is just a friend. Those messages made me feel uncomfortable, and so I let him know. I think its sliding towards a lack of trust at the moment, but I'm trying to stop. I know its wrong, and I guess there is a degree of jealousy. At the moment though, I think its more about protecting myself. I'm not leaving myself wide open to be hurt. If theres something going on, I want to know so I can get out now. At the end of the day though, regardless of whether its right or wrong, surely you shouldn't have anything to hide? If you've got nothing to hide, then I guess it doesn't matter if someone checks your caller history or whatever. My husband (or anyone else) is welcome to check because I've got nothing to hide.

Yes my fiance is like that. It is because he has had a lot of really bad girlfriends in the past who cheated on him and treated him horribly. However, while I will say, 'no of course not baby'. Or 'you're just worrying for nothing'. If he crosses the line and pushes it I will not entertain this paranoid behavior and tell him 'thats enough'.

Yes my fiance is like that. It is because he has had a lot of really bad girlfriends in the past who cheated on him and treated him horribly. However, while I will say, 'no of course not baby'. Or 'you're just worrying for nothing'. If he crosses the line and pushes it I will not entertain this paranoid behavior and tell him 'thats enough'.

That's how it used to be with me and my ex. I used to check his phone, his e-mail, I used to read his text messages. He used to talk to a lot of girls that I didn't even know, and he used to have pics of girls in his e-mail. He cheated on me and he said he did it because I was too jealous. The relationship was hell all we used to do is fight, but I think it was his fault because he didn't respect me. Now with my boyfriend it's totally different. I have checked his phone and I like to check his phone when he's not there, he doesn't even know I do it lol. He checks my phone too but we trust each other a lot, I never found anything suspicious on his phone. I think that lack of trust can ruin your relationship and jealously can cause a lot of fights. If there's no trust in a relationsip then there's no relationship but you can never trust too much.

If my partner is too curious about everything aroud me,my email box,my cellphone members,my messages and my QQ messages.If my partner do those things you said above,I will break up with him.And I think his action is relative to his lack self-confidence.If he believes that he can make me happy,he needn't to worry about whether other guys can make me happy.But if he does these things,surely I cannot say "yes" to his action.First,he occupies my personal space,he has no right to check my messages.Secondly,his action shows that he is in doubt about our relationship.Thirdly,his actions shows that he doesn't trust me.So why I must keep a relationship with a man who isn't confident to our relationship,to me and to himself?Break up.

If I have given that person a reason to do that then I won't question his behavior because I give him a reason to somehow.

To be very frank, I have done this out of curiosity as to what is happening in the other's life.Not out of suspicion. But people do this because of 1.possessiveness 2.suspicion When u dont pay attention to your partner and are continuosly instant messaging, the first thing that your partner would think would be is there somebody else more important than him/her.If u are open to ur partner and talk about everything, it's ok.But if u behave mysteriously, then suspicion will creep in. In such situations, you can doubt that he doesnt trust u. As a solution to this, one must be as frank and as open as on can be so that there is no room for suspicion in relationship

I have nothing to hide. So if my husband wants to look through my stuff, I feel bad that he would feel the need to be so insecure. But I have nothing to hide. I would probably ask what is stemming his curiosity, and if he FELT like I was doing something wrong, I would want to talk about it with him. Because neither of us cheat, or are inclined to cheat, so there is no need for snooping.

That's not curiosity-it's insanity! I wouldn't tolerate jealousy to such a degree. A bit of jealousy and insecurity is o.k.-to say, "I'm jealous of this person in your life", or "I feel a bit insecure with our relationship" is one thing. To go to such lengths is obviously indicative of a serious problem. Reading other people's mail and checking their messages is an invasion of privacy. It's a blatant statement about the lack of trust in the relationship at the very least. It either needs to be resolved or the relationship ended, in my opinion-because behavior like this usually only gets worse.

Hello magica I will brake up with him. Even I am his girlfriend, I should have my privacy too. Why he did that, I never did that to him. He must be sick or crazy. He is not trust me, why should I live with someone didn't trust me. God bless you *angel http://planetmobilephone.blogspot.com

Well, my bf was trying to look at my cellphone and i am confident to give him because I know he cannot see anything from it but if I am hiding something from him, I will not give him my phone, LOL. But he did that for once only. He trusts me so much that he knows I will never cheat on him so there is no reason for him to see anything...

no... my girlfriend don't have that much of curiosity.. but definitely she feels jealous whenever i talk to a good looking girl very intimately... and frankly speaking , i like this nature of her. i believe she has that jealousy due to one and only reason... she loves me very much.

I refuse to tolerate behavior like that. It signifies a lack of love, trust, and respect, and without those I have no reason to put myself through a relationship. It could be due to jealousy, but more than that, I believe he's doing something wrong himself. There's nothing like cheating to make you paranoid that your partner's cheating on you too. My reaction is to toss him out, no questions asked. Because before I entered that relationship, I would've let him know that I do not tolerate jealousy of any kind or snooping or any other disrespect.

my partner has trust issures but not really bas enough to open my mail and go into my mobile phone. the only thing he doesnt like is males talking to me online or in person. thats the main trust issue

My ex was like this but he wasnt even sneeky about it. He just took my phone infront of me everyday and went through all my calls and messages. If someone called he would pick up and ask who it was. He was not normal though =) The guy I am with now is not like that at all. he lets me have my privacy and i let him have his. We trust eachother 100% and that is what makes it sooo nice =)

no man its never happened to me......and i think that would be real scary if it happened to anyone, afterall you need your own space and privacy even if you are in a relationship, and you should respect the others space and privacy too.....

My xboyfriend was real jealous person.And i cant imagine how he really was.He always yell at me for nothing.He always suspect me without any reason at all. He even ask my password of my 3 different email address.He always call me on the phone to check where i am and what i am doing.Everytime i got a call,it makes me feel nervous because i know,he will yell at me again for jealous without any reason at all. But now,im free and no nervous feeling no more because,finally,we are now have separate lives.And we broke up because his officemate was pregnant and the father is him.See?He dont trust me because,he is the person who is doing it.

My partner and I trust each other. This kind of behaviour is bordering on paranoia and I would be very wary of anyone doing this hun.

I dont know whether you call it curious or jealous. My husband likes to know what I am doing, all the time. He sometimes look through my personal belongings from my purse. He also reads my sms. It really annoyed me but I just keep quiet to avoid arguement.