Jealousy!! A Nature or Behavior or what? Have you ever been victim of the same?
By aliasad
@aliasad (1567)
Pakistan
May 12, 2007 10:47am CST
Jealousy.... this word would have many meanings for many people. Some would term it as a behavior, others will call it a nature and some people would term it as the attitude problem, a social disease and so on.
We see many times while somebody celebrate an achievement other would have a very negative behavior in order to protest or show his anger for others' achievement :(
How do you feel about it ... have you ever been a victim of the said problem! Do you think it is bad or good? How to get rid of?
Anything that happend with you while ... at work place, in daily life, in mylot ;) etc.. would you like to share, you are welcome!
Thanks in advance for your kind inputs.
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7 responses
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
13 May 07
Hello,aliasad,i have never feel jealous of someone,i am happy for who i am, i do not like to compare with other people.
In my workplace,my colleagues and me will not have anything to compare,so it is not a problem there.
Sometimes in daily life,some people may compare me with other girl about outlook, personality,way of dressing,etc,i do not mind being compared with someone as i know i cannot control what they do. i can just let them go.
In mylot,sometimes,people like to compare different users,but i think it is not a good thing as we are here for fun,we should enjoy rather than compare with other members.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
14 May 07
Hi Easy! Well, don't you think that in order to be contended one must see those who are lesser or who are "deprived" of what he has! I mean if somebody compare with others in order to be contended or be satisfied then there is no problem to compare. This can also he helpful for be jealoused :) I guess so. Thanks for response.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't think it is a natural behavior. It stems from a lack of self-esteem and self confidence. You are jealous to the extent you see someone doing or having something you yourself think you cannot have. It does not serve any good purpose to be jealous of others. You are responsible for your own attitudes and behaviors. Jealousy has no basis as a behavior because you can have enough to satisfy your own needs and wants. Jealousy comes from thinking in terms of scarcity. It also comes from feeling like a victim, which is not a valid behavior either. Creating self-respect and self-responsibility is the way to overcome any jealous feelings.
@mdchennai (2129)
• India
14 May 07
I feel jealousy as a character and i also feel that people should have this character to succeed in life. It doesnt mean that we should use this character in all the cases, but we should use in cases which leads for the betterment of the individual. Till now i havent faced anyone in my life like that and i am even thankful to God that i dont have any such friend, who feel jealous about me.
@Mithoo (255)
• Pakistan
13 May 07
Hello Aliasad! I must say that jealousy is the nature one has. It is started or adopted by the person depending upon his or her lack of self confidence. Also it comes to one's life from the environment in which he lives. Sometimes one just jealous in order to make him or her competetive. Thanks for discussion.
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
14 May 07
Well, I think that a little jealousy can be a good thing...by that I mean that it can be used to help you to push yourself to better yourself....I do not mean to behave in a childish....or rude manner.
I also think that a desire to win is felt by all people so a touch of jealousy is born into us....how we learn to deal with this jealousy...is much more important...it can become a monster that controls your thoughts and actions OR it can become a way for you to strive for the winning results that you see others achieving..it is all in how you choose to look at it....
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
12 May 07
I guess it depends on how you use that in yourself. If jealousy is controlled and does not create trouble when you feel it I guess you call it a normal feeling that a person feels to make us either become competitive or make some changes in our lives to get what we want. But if jealousy stems out from violence and can do harm to anyone concerend then we can consider that as misbehaviour or overreacting to achieve something.
