do you get shy when someone stares at you?

I'm Shy! - Being shy is natural. Just make sure you handle it well.
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@ronreyes (4726)
Philippines
May 13, 2007 2:30am CST
I, myself, is a very shy person. It's been a part of my personality ever since I was a kid. I think it's natural! I know a lot of us also feel the same way when someone stares at us especially when they stare from head to toe. It's very inevitable to think that maybe they are thinking something bad about you or maybe they don't like what you wear or stuff like that. Heehee. Anyways, do you also feel shy or are you confident enough to face them? Give us some tips on how to overcome shyness. :) - Ron Reyes www.ronreyes.co.nr
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
13 May 07
well, when somebody stares at me, i feel awkward about it. nd yes, i feel shy about it too.. i dont know it's like as if that person is trying to scrutinize me by merely looking at me... and as if that person is belittling me..hehehe i really dont enjoy that experiences.. and i sont mid them to.. why should i care?! why should i feel bad?! i dont give them the satisfaction by ruining my day!:) and i dont do it to people too.. i just look at people when am curious..:) or when we are introduced, but if not..i usually enjoy my own self..i'm not fond of minding other people's lives and businesses..hehehe why?! because i do not want them to do the same to me..:)
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
That's the right attitude! Don't do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you! Very nice response! :)
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@austere (2816)
• Philippines
13 May 07
hehehehe thanks! well, i just think that's the right thing to do!
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• Philippines
13 May 07
no one will feel comfortable if stared at. it is different when somebody is simply taking a look at you. that will be just okay. so i agree with you that it will never be desirable to have anyone stare at me, either. it is a good attitude for you to have not to let them who do it ruin your day.
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@sreevasu (2718)
• India
13 May 07
When I was in my teenage I had felt some sort of inferiority when I see plus sized persons. But through years of experience in life I have overcome all those complexes and now I am comfortable as what I am now. thanks for asking.
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Welcome. I'm glad you already overcome your shyness. Good for you. :)
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• India
2 Sep 07
I have an idea.At first you have to find out what is your -ve point for which you are feeling shy.Write down those point in a paper and think about it how can it turn as your +ve point.Now in next time you approach specially with this advantage and you will get more n more confidence.So my friend enjoy it.
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@mwalidji (203)
• Philippines
13 May 07
i dont like someone staring at me... i dont think its appropriate to stare at people... there was a time when i saw someone was staring at me... so what i did is i just walk as though i didnt see it
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Funny but a right thing to do sometimes. :)
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@moudas (259)
• India
28 Oct 07
yes. I alwayes get shy when someone stared at me.
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@Jellytang (698)
• China
13 May 07
I will not feel shy.Contrarily,I prefer to stare at that person instead.
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
COOL! I wish I'm like you but I can't! I really can't. Heehee! :)
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• United States
13 May 07
i get INCREDIBLY shy when people stare...but i also get angry. i don't like to be looked at by ayone...particularly strangers. i don't like to make eye contact with people i don't know. It REALLY make sme uncomfortable.
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
I've read from somewhere that human eye cannot stare continuously into one particular thing. It must stare to different kinds of direction with different color. I don't know why though! Heehee. :)
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@moira20 (226)
• Philippines
13 May 07
It depends on how they stare at me. If it's kinda malicious or irritating, I would stare back at them! But if it's just a non-commital stare or just so happened that they glance your way offhandedly, then it's no problem to me. =) I am not that confident, In fact I was kinda shy when I was young. But as time goes by, I've learned a lot. I made ammends with myself and others, the fact that I can't please evrybody but still there are those YOU CAN. Just try to relax sometimes and count your blessings! Have a little faith in what you can do and how to do it and never mind those who put you down. It will only dampen your spirits and won't make you a better person. We all have some things to hide, have secrets and all, but whatever that is, if we do value ourselves and love ourselves, we can face ANYBODY with a smile. =)
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Nice tips. I'll try to do that. Thanks! :)
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@emmalee (24)
13 May 07
I think it's definitely human to get awkward when your stared and AND to assume the worst. I used to be painfully shy but I'm starting to get much more confident (it just comes from life experience really) so people staring doesn't really bother me so much anymore.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Good for you! :)
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@cuttyrish (2662)
• United States
13 May 07
when someone stares at me like a stranger or even someone i know, i feel uncomfortable and shy at the same time. Because i dont know why they are staring at me, sometimes i am thibnking that maybe they i look funny to them, or something is wrong with my attire at etc. And if someones stares at me i just look the other way, i dont know, it just that i dont like it. I myself want to overcome this shyness, i am still looking for some techniques or ways to do it.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
We're in the same boat for now. Heehee! :)
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
13 May 07
Definantly, thats exactly how I feel. I dont really have any tips, I just usually try to ignore it or turn the other way...lol.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Aheehee! Same here. :)
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@Roseate (185)
• Lebanon
9 Mar 09
I used to shy a lot before... but now I just ignore them as if I didn't see them, or in some cases look at them in the eye until they move there face off me .. hehe... it just depends on the case :D
@panicdude (457)
• Philippines
13 May 07
i'm a very shy person but once you know me, i tend to be wild -- in a not so party-ish attitude. if the person that stares at me is a stranger, i tend to be shy. yeah, it's awkward and you'll feel as if there's something wrong with your appearance, say a dirt is on your face or if your fly is open (which happened to me back then, by the way). and what's more awkward, and as you said it, is when they stare at you from head to toe. now if it's not a stranger that stares at me, i still tend to be shy but then after i would ask them what's wrong and why their staring like that. now how should we overcome shyness? i really don't know but i think that once after you loosen up and show your true side to a person -- that's when you know that you've overcome your shyness.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Nice response! :)
• Philippines
14 May 07
geez. thanks! =]
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
:)
@stella1989 (2277)
• India
13 May 07
Well I was a timid gal too..!! But I changed because of facing many chnages..!! I changed my school almost 4-5 times..!! Just due to shifting of my fathers job.! So if you are a shy person then you cannpot survive these constantly changeing surroundings..!! This is what changed me. And honestly I grab a lot of attention wanted and unwanted both!! So all these things made me very outspoken..!As being a gilr you cannot escape all those wide opened eyes..!! So now I am use to it. But when ever the guy under my intrest stares at me still make me feel uncomfortabel it feels like "where to hide yourself from his eyes "...he he lol. But normaly I have no problem with stares...until its harmless. Have a Good day.
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Harmless stares are ok! But how can we tell if it's harmless? :)
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• India
14 May 07
I can tell !! But my judgement on this only 60 percent correct..!!On the people who stares
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
What is it then? :)
@Emilie88 (143)
• Canada
15 May 07
I do feel really shy when people stare at me.. because usually people stare at me right into my eyes because I have a really rare eye color. My eyes are light blue with a yellow ring in the middle. Oftenly people think I wear fake eye color contacts so it doesn't help the fact that they do stare. My tip to overcome my shyness is to look around, smile and not to pay attention so much the person that is staring at me... I know it's not an amazing tip but I think if your shy, it's your personnnality and you won't be able to avoid that feeling no matter what, so the best way is to ignore it enough so it doesn't bother you... Hopefully that will help you!
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Wow! I love your eyes! I want green eyes though but blue is also nice. Mine is brown. :)
• United States
15 May 07
i hate nothing more than for somebody to stare at me. i wouldn't nessecarily say it makes me shy but definately self- concious. I will stare back though.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Cool! :)
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
15 May 07
I dont feel shy about it but i also dont just waltz right up to someone and ask them what they think they are staring at. It more enrages me then anything, especialy if there is any snickering or smiling involved. I have the bad habit of thinking that anyone who would be staring at me it is cause they are poking fun of me. One of these days i am going to just waltz right up to someone and ask if they have a problem.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
I'm looking forward for that day. LOL! :)
• United States
15 May 07
I'm an extremely self-concious person and, like you, I'm incredibly shy (in real life - not so much online). When people stare at me, I always think the worst and wonder what flaws they're picking out. When it's people I know and are comfortable with, I can face them and I don't feel like they're eyes are boaring a hole right through me. In public, though, when this happens, I tend to try to get myself out of their sight as quickly as possible.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Heehee cool! :)
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
15 May 07
I do not get shy - I get annoyed and if I am in a bad mood i will definately ask them what They are staring at. My mom taught me that staring is rude and that it is not polite at all and I agree.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Sure is! :)
@dozenbiz (88)
• Philippines
15 May 07
When someone stared at me I'll do the same and even talk to that person and ask....How can I help you? This is a good point when applying the marketing strategy. Some marketers will intentionally wear something awkward just to get attention from the prospects.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Heehee LOL! :)
• United States
14 May 07
Oh and staring isn't rude?
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Yes indeed! :)
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@nfhs79 (861)
• Malaysia
14 May 07
I sometimes. But, I dont get shy easily. I will stare that person back. Just to ensure that he/she knows me or not. :) I will smile or just ignore. :)
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
14 May 07
For me, I ignore them. Heehee! :)
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@gaby_girl (157)
• Canada
14 May 07
Im like the shyest person in the world. If someone stares at me for a long peroid of time, I start to feel sooo self consious. I dont know what to do with myself and I usually just pray that the person stops staring at me. Its the most awkward feeling! I know that some girls like that kind of attention, but I dont. It just makes me feel really uncomfortable.
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@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
14 May 07
You're beautiful! We can't help but stare at you. Heehee! :)
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