Do you think this is rude?
May 14, 2007 9:41am CST
Yesterday, I was sitting in a cafe, and the tables are for 4. I was sitting alone at one. The cafe started getting crowded and a man from a couple put his stuff on a chair at my table. I thought maybe he was just resting. The couple then started to sit down and the man said to me "you are going to have us for company" I said "I can see that" He said "stay where you are" I said "that's ok, I was about to leave anyway". But I really thought it was rude that they didn't ask. They could have said "excuse me, do you mind if we sit here?" What do you think?
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• United States
15 May 07
Wow...that is a totally bold move. And a pretty rude one. I understnad about "community seating" in some cafe's, but your table was not one of those places, and he should never have invaded your space like that without asking first. I feel like that was a pretty passive agressive move. I probably would have done the same thing you did...got up and left. I think at the time I might have been too shocked to say something a little more harsh, or at least a reminder about how it's more polite to ask before you sit down, What if you had been waiting for friends? I know that once I got a block away I would have been able to think of so many things I would have wanted to say to him! Isn't that always the way?
16 May 07
Well, maybe the guy was just being a "little too friendly". Some people do that. I know a fried of mine, who instead of asking, just say a statement outright. Like, if she wants to borrow my powder, instead of saying, "can I borrow this?" she would say something like, "I'm going to take this." Though I don't think he should have said this since you're a complete stranger to him. So yeah, he's rude. LOL.
14 May 07
Well I think you are right. They should have asked you if they could sit there. I have encountered the situation many times in Europe where the establishment got crowded and people would ask me if they could sit at my table. But they always asked.
• United States
14 May 07
It's amazing how some people act. He should have asked you, no ands ifs or buts about it. If I were you, I probably would have gotten up to leave, but probably not without saying something to him about how he just expected you to accomdate them at your table. There have been planty of times I have left a coffee shop for another one because there were not tables available. Besides, I'm sure there were plenty of other places they could have gone to drink their coffee. He intentionally tried to invade your space. Not to mention the fact that if they did sit there, chances are that their conversation could have been distracting to you as well. You are completely right to think he was being rude.