I Love You House Rules

@34momma (13895)
United States
May 15, 2007 10:35am CST
When i was growing up, my mother (bless her soul)didn't like when my brother and i would fight. we didn't often but if we did, she would make us stand in the middle of the room hugging each other. she would say i love you all the time to us, with hugs and kisses. So now in my home, i make sure my children do the same thing. you fight you hug. we say i love you all the time. my 17 year old son will say i love you mom in front of his friends and give me a kiss hello and good-bye. do you have any love house rules? i thought of this because this morning i left the house and said my i love you's and have a good day, but i didn't think my older son heard me, so when i got down the block i called and said i don't know if you heard me, but i love you. and he said, i am glad you called, i thought you forgot me this morning. i loved him so much at that second. my i love you, helps his day be a great day. I
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20 May 07
What a lovely discussion. It is so nice to hear that you do this. I always say "Love you" every time I say goodnight to my kids, when I leave for work in the morning, when I speak to them on the phone. I remember once after my sons 3rd trip to the sink for a drink of water after he was suppose to be in bed he called out "Love you" and I didn't hear him. Well he soon came back to tell me so, which really touched my heart. The other day my partner came home and pretended the front door had been left wide open after my daughter had gone out in the morning. Naturally I called her and told her off. It was only later when both my son and I worked out that we had both been down to the front door to check the post that the door was closed on both occasions. My partner was winding us up. My son very rightly told me that I had to apologise to his sister when she came home and when he heard her coming in, he looked at me and said "Mum, remember" I could have kissed him for the concern he had for his sister, it was so nice to see, as sometimes they fight like cat and dog, but always when its time to say goodnight, they give each other a kiss. We are definately blessed!!! +
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
20 May 07
that is great that they take care of each other like that. my children are so different in age, that they look out for each other but have their moments. but i know if the Lord called me home today, all three of them we band together and love and take care of each other. i made sure that they loved each other, and respected enough and fear me enough to know that they have to be there for each other!
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20 May 07
I think this is the one thing we hope for when we have kids, as so many families drift apart. You have done a great job, your kids are very lucky!!!!!
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
22 May 07
i am very luck too! i have wonderful children
• United States
20 May 07
We didn't have a rule like that but it sounds like a good way to handle it. After the difficult teen years, I didn't start being affectionate with my parents again until I was thirty or so. Then I started thinking, each time could be the last time I will ever see them. That's really true for everybody. A friend of mine was looking at some old pictures of mine and she commented that my brother and I always had our arms around each other. She said it looked like we were really close. I said, "They MADE us do that for the pictures." But we didn't fight much, really.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
20 May 07
my brother and i are very close. we talk about everything. we only ever had one fight and that was as adults. we have to make sure that you share how you feel with your family. even when they get on your nerves and you don't like them that much.
• United States
16 May 07
It's not a spoken rule but we always know that I love you is the last thing we say at night, the last thing we say when we talk on the phone and the last word spoken if we have a disagreement. Saying I love you simply says, "I agree with your right to disagree but the disagreement is over now." With the way things are in this world, if something should happen, we always want the last thing to be, 'I love you'. With that being said, momma, , , "I love you".
@34momma (13895)
• United States
20 May 07
you rock teri, i always look forward to reading your replies to my post
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
15 May 07
Truthfully, my mother did not handle this so nicely when I was a child......BUT when my older children (29,27,26) were little and got into arguements or fights...I would make them sit in the living room and hold hands...after trying to break each other's fingers for awhile...they would eventually talk it out....I think that they developed a long lasting relatinship that remains today...we also are a family that kisses hello and goodbye; plus says "I love you" every time we interact with each other....it shows a family bond that I have always been proud of...just like you, my freind....LOL You and I sound so much alike....I know that you are a wonderful mother...it resounds loudly in your conversations, my friend.....
@34momma (13895)
• United States
15 May 07
well thank you so much! it is always a work in progress. children as wonderful as they are can at times test you to your very limit. yet because of that, it has made me the mother that i knew i always wanted to be. loving, caring, and don't take no sh*t!! LOL