Ladies, marriage and wedding ring.

United States
May 16, 2007 10:11am CST
Ladies: If your partner was to ask for your hand for marriage, would you like it if he gives you a ring from their family heirloom? Like the ring that his grandmother and mother had and passed on to him? Or would you like it better if you were to be given your own ring. A new one, new cut, new design or something passed down through generations? As for me personally, I wouldn't consider myself to be a big fan of antiques and historical pieces, not a very big fan of classic items, I am pretty much into modern contemporary, so I would have to say I would like it better to have a new ring chosen for me. Though the thought of acquiring something valuable to my partner's family is very overwhelming, I would still like to have a new ring. How about you? Guys: Are you or have you considered this? Are you aware if your mother is planning to pass on her wedding ring to your wife-to-be?
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 May 07
I guess i dun mind the family heirloom... I mean u must have mean alot to inherit the family heirloom, isnt it? Besides, its not like he cant afford another ring if u want to, its just that, he thinks u deserve the best, of coz their family will think the family heirloom is the best... But i guess in modern age now, people seldom have family heirloom... If anyone does, do inform me... N... Do take good care of it coz its most precious...
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• United States
16 May 07
hehe... would you be interested if you are informed that the guy has a family heirloom to be passed on to his generation? hehehe...kidding
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
16 May 07
Hmm, as in? U can only have it for the generation? Actually i still dun mind having it... At least i had it for tt generation and not some other woman... Keke... At least i tink its cool... Okie, i noe i sounds old age...
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@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
17 May 07
When my fiancee was planning to propose to me (yes, I knew about it before hand), I told him that the engagement ring is not what's important to me, it's the wedding ring. To drive my point home I made told him that I would not accept any ring that cost him more than $100-$120 dollars. I figure, I'll only be wearing it for a year or so before it's replaced with the wedding band, so I won't have to worry about a loss of durability. I got my wish, and he got me a beautiful ring that was within the price range I gave him. Even though it was only $100 dollars, it's a very lovely ring and I never go anywhere without it. When it comes to the wedding ring, however, we'll both be buying them(in a set), so we'll be able to afford much nicer ones.
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• United States
17 May 07
aww.. well that is true, being practical would help alot. Especially that you will soon be starting a family, and the money that will be going to an expensive ring coul probably be used in something more useful when you get married.
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
17 May 07
I don't know...I guess it would depend on the situation. I think I would probably want to have a new ring...something I could call my own....that would be nice if I was ever to get married.
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@safire (23)
• Philippines
17 May 07
I would like to have my own ring cause ring for me symbolizes the bond between you and the one who gave it to you, just the two of you.I think the ring gets "too heavy" when you carry all the bonds of history.. :P
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• United States
17 May 07
My husbands' family did not have heirloom rings to pass down, all the women in his family were buried with their wedding rings, including his mother. He chose my set all by himself, and had it with him when he proposed to me. He hates to shop for anything, so the wedding set really meant a lot to me, for him to take the time and find one on his own.
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@nancygibson (3738)
• France
17 May 07
I'd be happy either way, my husband made my current ring himself for me. My brother in law gave his wife a family ring but said she could have it remodelled to suit her tastes, that worked well all round, its all the same gold and gems, but now in a contemporary setting which I think is a really nice thing to do.
• United States
17 May 07
I would be happy with either. My husband asked me to go with him to pick out our rings at the jewelry store and I picked out a less expensive set then he was prepared to pay. It isn't the ring that is important - it is the long term commitment behind the ring.
• China
17 May 07
Oh,what an interesting question! If my partner ask for my hand for marriage,I'll be too athrill to say anything.Whatever my lover gives me as wedding keepsake will be cherished,even if it is an ordinary ring made of grass. Of course,I will prefer a ring from their family heriloom if he has one,which shows how important you are in his heart.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
17 May 07
Receiving a ring which has been with their family for generations is really great! I'd consider that as an honour to my part because it only means that the family really likes you and have accepted you to join their clan :D But i'd still apreciate receiving a new ring...
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@my_lady (106)
• Philippines
17 May 07
in my own point of view, i think originality is the best. It's better to have a new one than a ring coming from family heirloom, or maybe it depends it the situation.
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
17 May 07
I think that when a man asks a woman to marry him that she should get her own ring and if there is one from his grandmother or mother then that should be handed down to his kids for there marriages. as for myself I would rather want my own.
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• Philippines
17 May 07
Well, im an avid fan of antiques and having to wear a family heirloom is exciting for me..and it shows that the family of my bf loves me so much that they can give me one of their family heirlooms, and it shows that only the accepted can have it. it will make me very proud
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@kaye33 (5)
16 May 07
For a guy to ask your hand in marriage, he must be pretty serious about you! For him to give you something of great value that has been in his family for ages would be an honor and something to be proud of also. But personally speaking, since we're talking about marriage and wedding rings here, I believe that marriage is a once-in-a-lifetime event where you exchange vows and rings. As they say, your rings symbolize your unending love for each other. It is in this light that I should say that your rings are intended for you guys and you alone and they should remain on your finger til the day you die, ideally speaking.
@thai11 (239)
• United States
16 May 07
I have been proposed to before and he gave me the ring his dad gave his mom. It was really special to him but I hated to ring, thought it was ugly and I never wore it. He didn't even know my ring size so it didn't fit either. We eventually broke up (not b/c of the ring situation!), thank the lord!! i was disappointed because I want a modern ring that I pick out..we are supoose to have this ring the rest of our lives...I didn't understand why he didn't consider what type of ring that I would want, he just assumed that one would be ok and he was WRONG!!! WRONG MANWRONG EVERYTHING!!!!
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@alilswt (388)
• United States
16 May 07
i think i would like my own personal ring but if it is important to pass on a ring i think maybe to start have that ring then to go get my own with my man and pack that one in a safe place
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
17 May 07
For me both a new or something from the family is ok. What's important is the love between the partners. Material things will simply follow.