Child Behavior Inherited or Learned???

United States
May 16, 2007 9:07pm CST
What do you think, Do you think the way your child behaves/ personality can be passed down from a relative or do you believe it is something which is learned? For example, a child that is hyperactive, lazy, stubborn, or sweet dispostioned do you think they inherited this trait or do you believe it was a trait learned by being around certain people?? My one friend has a 5 year old daughter who is never around her father, she acts exactly like him, her mother admits to that. Do you think something like that can be passed down or is it something learned? I think most kids pick up and learn from those they spend the most time with, I am doubtful of personality traits being passed down to a child. What do you think?
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• United States
17 May 07
sometimes it is inherited.I have known some kids that have developed mental problems from a parent or relative...but sometimes we tend to spoil our kids and this is bad..their are some kids that are mistreated and this leads to anger.. I do think it is both..
• United States
17 May 07
thanks for your response
• Philippines
18 May 07
For me there's no such thing as inhereted behavior.Childs behaviour will always reflect on how the parents brought up or raised the kid.Environment is the big factor,environment really matters,if the child lives in a chaotic environment no wonder the child has a chaotic attitude. Parental Guidance is very important in raising a child.Maybe somehow the child gets some attitude from her/his parents but its not because she/he inhereted it but because thats what the kids see to her/his parents.Kids always believe or easily believe on what they see thats why as parent we should be careful and cautious on raising our child,especially now adays that there are alot of high technology that would influence the behavior of the children.As the famous psyhologist says the child is the father of the man.which means that what he became is because of how his/her parents raised her/him.Attitudes reflect on how the kids was brought up by bher/his parents.
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
18 May 07
I believe it is inherited AND learned. Some mental health problems are often inherited. It is like genes. When two different species of flowers are combined, for instance, they may have at least one of the genes inherited from their previous one. You can see it either from their outside (appearance) or from their inside (traits, habits and behaviors). Bad behaviors of children can also appear because they've learned it from their social environments (i.e., parents, families, schools, etc.). Have you seen a child who often repeats bad words or actions? You're wondering why the child can speak such things in his early age? Perhaps, he/she ever heard and learn the behaviors from people surrounding that child.
@kfg20012003 (1037)
• India
18 May 07
As far as i know ,child behaviour is both inherited and comes from his behaviour in early days of his childhood.A child ,if her X chromosome is high her gene,then she is act more like her mother and resembles her mother,else if Y then she is more like her father
@tonixxx (358)
18 May 07
I feel that it is nurture rather then nature but parents are fighting a losing battle. A parent will teach their children what they believe is right from wrong and how they believe people ought to behave, but once the child starts school they are mixing with children that have been taught in different ways by their parents and so your children learn manerisms and things you wouldn't necessarily teach them. It is difficult to be a parent today as people aree becoming more "open minded" children are learning things at earlier ages. Things that are considered taboo by us are playground chat for them.
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• United States
17 May 07
I believe it's both. My oldest son is 20 and has never met his father, yet he acts like him in some ways. He also acts a bit like my ex-boyfriend who has no blood ties. He also acts a bit like other people who've been in his life through the years. He also has some of his own characteristics that he didn't get from anyone we know. Yes, he did pick up things from others. Not necessarily from people he was around the most, because he learned things in school that I wished he hadn't. When it comes to discipline, each child is different. Some kids just need that look from their mom, and they'll straighten right up. Some have to lose a privilege. Then there are kids that it doesn't matter what you do, they just can't seem to behave. Then you have the group of children that have behavioral issues due to a medical condition. Sure there are parents out there that are lazy, or just don't care. I would like to think they are far and few in between. To me there's such a fine line in parenthood, which makes it so easy to point one's finger at a parent for a child's behavior.
• United States
17 May 07
thank you for sharing your experiences, I agree with you kids get characteristics from many different sources not just one.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
17 May 07
Look what a press release about this topic says: Anti-social behaviour in some children could be the result of their genetic make-up, a study says. UK research on twins suggests children with early psychopathic tendencies, such as lack of remorse, are likely to have inherited it from their parents. These young children may also display inherited anti-social behaviour, the Institute of Psychiatry team found. Some things are geneticall inherited and others are moulded by environmental factors based on my observation. But environmental factors are also important and, if favourable, could act as a buffer, they stressed. Strong heritability does not mean that nothing can be done And anti-social behaviour in children with no psychopathic tendencies is likely to be down to mainly environmental factors, they believe.
• United States
17 May 07
very interesting, thank you for sharing that with us :)
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
17 May 07
I think it is a mixture of both. Some children really get their behavior from the environment he lives in. For example, if he grew up listening to silly things, then he might end up speaking those words too. But if you raise up your child in a good way, and that he sees you as a good example then he might grow up just like you... It is also inherited, as you have said with your friend 5 year old daughter.
• United States
17 May 07
thanks for your response
• United States
17 May 07
I think it is a little of both. I have a child that is agressive just like her father. She has not been around her fater but maybe 5 times in her early life (between the ages of 0-6 months) and we do not have an agressive household. My son is more sensitive than most boys is his age and I think it is because he is around my husband. Nature verses Nurture has been in the headlines for many years, no one can prove one way or the other, but I truly believe it is a little of both.
• United States
17 May 07
thanks for your response, interesting
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
17 May 07
Some severe mental problems are inherited, but I feel the majority of a childs behavior is learned. Moast kids develop their personalities by the way their parents treat them.
• United States
17 May 07
I agree thanks for your response
• United States
21 May 07
I deff think it has both to do with it..my son has never ever seen the ummmmm.//.DONOR.but i see so many things of him in Skylar..but..Sky deff has alot more of me in him that I am seeing now..hes almost 5 now..and he has my temper..poor guy..and hes is very compititious..that he hasnt seen..but it must just be in his blood..he also has my sense of humor..omg that little guy is soo damn funny! He is very sensitive,and caring like me..Im sure when he gets older the other half will kick in..whatever is in his genes..but righ tnow..i see alot of me..and its mostly good..and yeaa..has the bad too..but we are working on the issues..lol..
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
18 May 07
Both of them.Some archetypes are rooted in the unconsious mind. And there is a colective memory. The child`s mind has theese memories before to incarnate.And later he also learn new things, imitates the behaviour of his parents- consiously or not. And theese patterns can be overcomed, modified or replaced by other ones.
• United States
17 May 07
I've wondered the same thing. I've always said a child is a product of their environment but for the last 3 years that opinion has been challenged. My brother and his wife adopted twin boys through foster care when they were 3 months old. They have 3 older children that have always been very well behaved but they are having a lot of trouble with the adopted twins. When they first took them in my brother said it will be a true test of genetics vs. environment. Right now genetics seems to be winning. There are other factors involved but hope and pray they grow out of it. Only time will tell.
• Philippines
17 May 07
for me... i think it's both.. at first, the child will inherit his behavior from his family and relatives since they are the people whom the child associates with and sees all the time... but as the child will grow.. espcially at schoolage, the child is already starting to associate with his friends and schoolmates so there is also a possibility that the child will learn to change his/her personality through his friends... that is why the guidance of the parents are vital during this stage...
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
17 May 07
There are some cases child behavior adopt or i say influence by parents,playmates and all the persons that he/she be with all the time. Example with my two daughters my eldest lived with my parents eversince she is 6 yrs. old up to now and my 9 yr old daughter is with me. They have different behavior, but still they have same trait. My 9yr old daughter is very stubborn like his dad but my eldest shes very sweet and responsible.
• Canada
17 May 07
sometimes, it is inherited, but then again, if you think about it, they learn it from the media or they're idol and they think its cool. But in your case, it seems inherited. Cause personally, I have traits from both my parents.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
17 May 07
Well in growth of a child and its personality it is affected by every thing its parenst ,surrounding,and school and every other thing around him. Many times some traits are automatically gets inherited to the child form the parenst some times its due to some habbit or due to carelessness of parents. But mostly its the inheritence belive it or not. Cild do act a lot more like their father and mother.
• Pakistan
17 May 07
child behavior is the learning process.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
17 May 07
I think some is by heredity and some by learning,as i saw the kid who does the same stubborn facts as hiis father does,his grand father does in their chilhood and the school going kids mostly learn from the other kids they see doing and they try on us,thats it.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
17 May 07
I believe that some are learn while the others were inherited... I guess its because of the genes that is passed down to the kids... And are kids learn from their environment, friends, and society. I guess we just need to improve our childs behavior whether inherited or learn lolz!