Be honest, is he turning spoiled?

@4cuteboys (4099)
United States
May 17, 2007 6:47pm CST
I have a 6 and a half month old son. He has been so unbearable lately, I don't know what to do. I've tried teething tablets, and orajel. Motrin for after he had shots. Took him for a checkup. Fed him more solids like the pediatrician said. He drinks a ton of formula. We play with him alot. But no matter what this kid is almost always screaming, with the exception of when we are holding him, or he falls asleep in the car. He won't fall asleep at home without screaming in our arms for at least an hour. This doesn't seem normal to me, and I have three older kids and worked in daycare for years. What do you think? Is he just getting spoiled? He has been checked for ear infections and all that and got a clean bill of health. I am going crazy, I can't even go pee if i'm home alone. I have to try and wait til my husband gets home to take him, so the screaming doesn't get worse.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
17 May 07
Wow, I feel for you! I think that it is the worst when you have a screaming child and don't know how to get him to stop screaming. Have you tried a baby swing? I watch a 6 month old who is very ornary and he loves being in the swing. Also, he has acid reflux and once he was put on his medicine he has gotten much better. You will probably just have to put him down and let him scream for a while. If he knows you will pick him up when he screams, he is conditioned to scream when he wants you. Good luck.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
17 May 07
Yeah, he refuses to sit in the swing or a baby bouncer. He hates being in any type of "reclined" position. :(
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• United States
18 May 07
If he hates to sit in a reclined position, he might need to be checked for acid reflux or related condition. I have acid reflux disease and that is some painful stuff that becomes more painful when one lays down. Remember, babies and small children's tummies are not fully developed yet. Acid reflux is treatable.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
18 May 07
Hi Crafty! He had terrible projectile vomiting and reflux when he was a newborn, and was on zantac, however he is much better now. Although he spits up often he is now what they call "a happy spitter" basically he doesn't seem to be in more pain when he spits up. He acts like normal even when he's spitting up.
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@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
18 May 07
Have you tried Mylicon drops? You can get them right where you get the Oragel. Teething, crying babies get more gas and trapped gas and he's crampy in his abdomen. Mylicon is simethicone and is the same thing used in Gas-X for grown ups. What the simethicone does is break the big gas down into smaller bubbles so they can pass easier. It's a blue and pink small bottle and the liquid is pink and goes right into the formula. Please try it, it's safe! and message me if you want, to let me know how the little guy does.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
18 May 07
Thanks! I actually have some, i'll have to give it a shot, he hasn't had any in a long time!
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
18 May 07
Why spoiled? From holding him to get him to sleep? I’m not sure that he is spoiled- Maybe he just needs to be held and feel the comfort to sleep. I never had this problem with my daughter- she would go to sleep in her swing, by herself in the crib. If she woke and cried I would always go to her to sooth her- I don’t think it is spoiling kids when you comfort them to stop their crying.
@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
18 May 07
Agreed! And is the little guy doing any better today?
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
18 May 07
I have a 6 month old son (turned 6 months on Sunday). I don't think a baby this age can be spoiled. They need us because they are too little to do much for themselves. The things is that's easy for me to say because mine has been an easy baby. I'm trying really hard to imagine what it must be like at your house so I can help with a solution. If my little one WAS like yours I'm sure I'd be pulling my hair out by now! I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old most days too (the situation with my s/o is complicated LOL so we "share" our boys) and I know there are moments that get pretty crazy. I don't usually let him cry but there are times when things HAVE to be done and he has to wait. If he cries when I go to the bathroom I just do what I have to do and pick him up when I'm done. The older kids are pretty understanding so the don't usually get very demanding when the baby needs me but there have been times when THEY needed me and the baby had to wait. I think they only way I get through those moments is by constantly telling myself, often out loud, that I'm almost done and will get to the baby soon and that he will be alright. But again I know that's easy for me to say since I only have "moments" not days like you. Based on the information I have about your baby I would guess he's having stomach problems. More solids at this age can upset their stomachs because their digestive system isn't always ready for solids yet. I know the usual recommendation is to start solids by 6 months but it isn't "necessary". If it was my child, I would cut them out first regardless of what the doctor was saying. If after 3 days or so he's still acting the same way I would assume that the food wasn't the problem and consider the formula instead. Two of my children needed soy based formula instead of milk based. There are even other kinds that are even better for sensitive babies. Again, if it was my child I would try soy first and then the alternatives if soy didn't make a difference after 3-4 days. If none of that worked and my doctor was still insisting my baby was fine, I'd switch doctors. Other than that all I can say is simethicone sometimes works, it could be his acid reflux just with different symptoms, or he could just be one of those "high maintenance" babies that nothing will work for and you'll just have to concentrate on your own mental health until he gets through this phase....(according to my mom, I was one of those babies...no wonder I'm the youngest!) Big HUGS to you, I hope you little one gets calmer soon!
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
18 May 07
Hi! He is already on soy and omg we have tried them ALL! Because when he was little he was projectile vomiting, and he went thru some tests then. They did a PH probe thru his nose to check how bad the acid reflux was, and it was bad but not like, the worst. Then he had a few ultrasounds to rule out pyloric stenosis which he didnt have. It turned out he had pylorospasms, where his pylorus would spasm and cause him to vomit. But thankfully he rarely projectile vomits now so I think we've outgrown that. I have tried different formulas though, and none had the success the soy has. We tried the gentlease for babies with sensitive stomach and that didnt work :( It's been a long 6 months. Sometimes I wonder if he just cries because he wants to be with the older kids, but i'm not sure. They wanted me to up the solids so he would have more rice cereal, which helped significantly with his spitting up. Maybe he is just a high needs baby. I just don't know! I wish I did!! Thanks for all the tips, I really appreciate it
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25 May 07
good luck
• United States
18 May 07
Well whatever is causing it I hope he starts getting a little better and doesn't cry so much so you don't get stressed out!
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@latsmom (824)
17 May 07
Apparently children of this age suffer from something called colic, still no one knows what causes it but it can cause really bad stomach ache, lack of sleep and irritability, it could be this that is causing him to misbehave. I used a teething powder called ashton and parsons, it does not contain any medicine it is a herbal substance and comes in sachets so no messing, it can be used from a few weeks old and helped me through, teething, colic and sleepless nights. I am living in the uk but am sure you will be able to get something similar or even the same product where you are living, although I have got to say that if he is constantly upset and you are still not happy you need to go back to the gp. you are his mom and you know what is best for him. if you still not satisfied keep going back till you get some answers, you ahev to do it for him as he can't tell you what is wrong, but as he has only just started acting this way and you ahev tried everything, give the powders a try, then you really need to bug the doctors for help. I don't think you can spoil such a young child and the tantrums woudl not have come on all of a sudden if that was the case and he would be ok when in your arms but only cry when he has not got your undivided attention and this does not seem the case. hope little man is ok. Good luck with him
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@rhinoboy (2129)
18 May 07
My daughter is just a couple weeks older than him. I've really noticed that she'll play us like a fidle to get what she wants if she thinks she can get away with it. We think she's just nosy and hates going to sleep for fear she misses something! She's normally OK during the day, but if she's tired and needs a nap, or at bed-time, she will wrestle and fight until she falls asleep exhausted. You have lots more experience than I do with children, but I'd try giving him 'tough love'. Even though he'll obviously go wild to start with, if he's just acting up, you should see results quickly. Do you have a baby walker? Our daughter loves to sit in her 'car' and whiz around the house following us!
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
18 May 07
Oh i feel pity,moreover the kids who suffer with the infections in stomach scream a lot and doesnot want to slep and feel very discomfort,same the case with my nephew who used to to scream a lot and used to sleep when we take him for a long drive and doctors said it is all due to the infection in his stomach and due to his undeveloped one of the tube related to digestive system,he used to be like this for 1yr and now he is 2yrs and he never had the complaints he had before. Hahe patience he will be all right with in the time be brave i can understand how difficult to take care of the screaming child but it is ours and we have to all the best.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
18 May 07
I don't think my daughter EVER had major pukes as late as 6 1/2 months old, she had a few projectile ones early on but not that late so it could be a belly thing. I don't think he's spoilt just because you give him relief for pain, have him checked out by a Dr or anything like that - are you really doing anything differently to your first ones? Try walking in the pram/stroller that usually works, since it feels like being in the car & the bumping is good! I'd think there was something wrong, personally, coz i don't know of ANY child to scream that much just for the fun of it, especially if he's being held. Perhaps you should try a different Dr or 2 & see what they come up with coz if he screams for an hour or more when he's being held, then i'd think something was causing him pain. I don't think a 6 1/2 month old even KNOWS what spoiling is & if he was spoilt, he'd stop the screaming fits when he got his own way & even when you let him have his own way the screaming continues. Try a couple of different Dr's i think, see what they all say, it cant hurt to get more opinions just to see if maybe 1 Dr picks up something another one didn't. I hope you can fix the problem soon coz that would drive me insane so i'm sure it's doing your head in too!
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
18 May 07
I can vaguely remember my own son crying constantly day and night. I was never really sure if he had colic or not since it is such a vague thing in terms of symptoms. I also had him checked and there was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Looking back, I think he was just frustrated and that's why he cried so much. As soon as he was able to crawl and move around on his own the crying subsided. All I can say is that it will pass and he will grow up to probably be one of the happiest of kids. Mine did and he's now a very well-adjusted eighteen year old.
• Australia
18 May 07
ive got a three month old that tries that he cries as soon as i leave the room he is in but i found by doing control crying with him works let him cry for a few min go back make sure he fine then go again leave it longer the next time sometimes they just need to ware out cause there tied sometimes they just need to learn they cant have all your attention other things i do is i have one blanket and this is his naughty blanket and you wrap bubs up rock bubs to sleep ive done this a few times and my son knows when this blanket goes on now he settles
18 May 07
Hi there, I have a 7 month old,and she does a lot of screaming but for me she teething, cant wait for that to past. I dont think that your son is spoiled there is a reason why he is always screaming like this. Hope you get the problem sorted out soon.
18 May 07
has the doctor checked to see if your son is allergic to the formula ,a lot of times that can cause crying or screaming .try a soy based formula and see if that helps you it helped us. has the doctor checked for food allergies.