I'm so sad, my grandmother is dying

Australia
May 19, 2007 8:40am CST
Hello myLotter I am really sad right now. My grandmother is dying, she is in the hospital right now, can't do anything even open her eyes. The doctor said that something happen with her brain. And operation will not help much. She is 78 years old, and this is second times she has stroke. I don't know what should do, i just can pray for her. My big family had meeting about her condition and what would we do. What would you do if the doctor offer the operation but the doctor said that it would not help much? I wish that my grandmother still here with me. God bless you
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
19 May 07
I'll keep your grandmother in my prayers. I am so sorry about this. i just lost own of my grandmothers last month so it is sad for me to read this.
• Australia
21 May 07
Thank you very much Shaun. thank you for everything. God bless you
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
19 May 07
my father, at 73 years of age passed away just last december before christmas.we had him in the hospital for about two weeks until the doctor told us that his condition was deteriorating. i talked to my mother if she wants my father to be discharged from the hospital and just do whatever we can at home since the medications can be done by the family.after a week my father resigned in his sleep.we did the right thing because he wanted to just sleep and rest in his bedroom where he is more comfortable and at home.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Hello tigerdragon I am so sorry about your father. Thank you for your respond, my big family still talking about next step for my grandma. God bless you
@mexshyl (878)
• China
19 May 07
I'm sorry to hear that. Don't be too sad in front of your grandmother. You should be positive and give her the same feeling. You'd better stay with her as much as you can. I think your accompany will also make her feel better because you're her granddaughter. It'll be helpful for her to pull through it. Wish her come over it again. God bless her.
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• Australia
20 May 07
thank you mexshyl I really want to stay with her, and give her support.
@PsychoDude (2018)
• Netherlands
19 May 07
Sorry to hear that :(. I'd agree with the doctor on this, especially seeing her age the risk of operating is simply too great and won't help much. The best you can probably do is just be there for her now and hope she pulls through.
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• Australia
20 May 07
Thank you for your reply. I just can pray for her now. God bless you
@cheenlly (3484)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Oh sorry to hear that too little_angel. I had my sympathy on you. The best thing you can do now is pray and have faith on God. What will happen and going to happen have a purpose. The best thing is you have shown your love to your grandmother when she is still active. I have felt that sadness before when i was young then. I have lost my favorite grandmother, whom the only one that i felt who love me and that really hurts but as time goes by. i have learned to accept it. Thats life i guess, when its our time, its our time and we can stop that. Just pray she will be happy on her last days but of course miracles do happens, just dont lost faith on Him.
• Australia
21 May 07
Thank you cheenlly. God bless you
@dwynne (83)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I'm really very sorry to hear about your grandmother. I know how you feel now especially that you are far from her. I believe that the safest place to put our loved ones is in the hands of God in prayer. I'll be praying for God's perfect will for your grandma and peace and comfort for you. Keep trusting God. He knows whats best. God bless!
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• Australia
21 May 07
Hello dwynne thank you for your support. I will always pray for her. God bless you
@msjigga (866)
• United States
21 May 07
Hi little angel, I am so sorry to hear abbout Grandmother. I know strokes can be hard my Maternal Grandmother just had a stroke a couple weeks ago she just got out of the hospital and is going into a nursing home. Last Month on April 11th my Paternal Grandma passed away she was very sick for over a year it was sad to see her go. I will pray for your Grandma I know how you feel. Your Friend Joy ^-^
• Australia
21 May 07
Hello msjingga I am sorry for your lost. You so right, stroke are really painful. I hope the best for my granma. God bless you
@rakhii (1302)
• India
20 May 07
I would agree to the doctor coz it would be mere wastage and an added risk and pain of operation for her. I would suggest you to take care of her and try to provide her with everythin she wants.....just sit besides her with patting and holding her hand for some time....this would really make her feel better.....even more than d medicines......jus give it a try......
• Australia
21 May 07
thank you for your advise rakhii. I wish I can be there for her. I am out of country now. God bless you
@disvachic (10123)
• United States
20 May 07
I am so sorry about your grandmother.My grandmother turned 79 this march past and I think I would take the chance with the operation.You never know where there is a will theres a way.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Thank you for your support Disvachic. I need to wait until she had better condition to make the operation. God bless you
• Philippines
20 May 07
I am raised by my grandmother also thats why i feel so sad reading what you have written.... Well, have more faith in God though doctor said it wouldnt help much. But who knows maybe that operation will prolong her life so she can stay with you guys more and make her feel how much u love her so much. But as we all know operations will help more if it is accompanied with prayers. God bless her and all of you out there. I will pray for your granny too for i know how you feel...
• Australia
21 May 07
Hello gemini0611 Thank you for your pray. God bless you
@zeqi1985 (20)
• Turkey
20 May 07
iam really soory to hear that i have lost my grandma 7 months ago from diabetics and was in college ..i see your pain and the only thing you should do is to think what is best for her..
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• Australia
21 May 07
I am sorry about your grandma. Thank you for your response. God bless you
@bindishah (2063)
• India
20 May 07
First of all, I am really sorry to hear about your grandmother. if there is even a slight chance in her improving with an operation, I think you should take that chance. Otherwise, just accept the fact that she wont be the same again and maybe its time she not suffer anymore. If, as you say, she cant even open her eyes the I imagine she must e in tremendous pain. We all want to hold onto our loved one sbut sometimes its just time to let go.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Hello bindishah Thank you for your reply, I think we must prepare with all condition, and what will happen to her. God bless you
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
20 May 07
I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. I just found out a few months back that my grandmother passed away and noone told me til about 5 months later I was so mad at my aunts, my mom has been gone now for 10 years and my grandmother lived in OHIO and my aunts just quit talking to me after my mom passed. my prayers are with you and your family. If a Dr told me something like that I dont know either what I would do if it would not help much but maybe it is just best to let nature take it course God might have better plans for her.
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• Australia
21 May 07
I am so sorry about your lost. I knew that its really hard to know our family passed away but no one tell us. Thank you for your prayer. God bless you
• United States
20 May 07
I'll send my prayers so that you family can make the best decision. As much as it hurts, if the doctors said her quality of life wasn't very much, I'd let her go. I'm sure she lived a full life and I'd want to be in peace. (((HUGS))) Lots of prayers for you!
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• Australia
21 May 07
thank you Geirgia, thank for the pray. God bless you
@meljessxena (2319)
• Australia
20 May 07
oh no that is really sad, my partner nan went through the same thing, what about a pace maker that they put in the heart, oh wont they take the chance as she is 78? i hope you grandmother gets better.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Thank you Meljessxena May Gog bless you
@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
20 May 07
your grandmother is very lucky to have a large family who loves her, and a granddaughter who is as loving as you....i will pray for your grandmother and hope for the best for her....i lost my grandfather a long time ago to cancer...then lost my father several years ago to parkinsons disease...i watched them as they were sick and cared for them til they passed, so i know how you are feeling right now...even if someone is sick and dying, you will never be prepared for the loss... a few years ago, i had moved to the US and after about 2 years of my moving, i received new that my grandmother passed away in the philippine - and it was mother's day, too! i was really sad...and cried alot...it's a helpless feeling because i wanted to be able to hug her one last time and couldn't because i was so far away, and at that point could not afford to make a trip back at the spur of the moment... i know your grandmother knows that you love her very much...cherish the moments that you can have with her...hug her and kiss her...whisper in her ear...they say that hearing is usually the last thing to go, so even if you think she is unresponsive, talk to her...she'll hear you... god bless you and i will pray for you and your family during this difficult time.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Hello QnAQueen I am sorry for your lost. Thank you for your pray, I wish I could stay beside her, but I had a same situation with you, I am in other country now, but I prepare to go home. God bless you
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
20 May 07
I feel sad for you. Grandmothers, indeed, are loving and caring. The doctor is right. He won't let your grandmother suffer much longer. You just have to accept it because it always happens. We all grow old and die.
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• Australia
21 May 07
Thank you Argie713 Maybe you are right, if I love her I should not make her suffer. God bless you