My bf was upset this morning

@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
May 20, 2007 10:08am CST
This morning was no fun at all. My bf was all sour and I had no idea why. He was just angry with me... After a while he started talking about my ex, wich was very strange coz he never does this and we have not discussed him in months. anyways, he told me that I had been talking about him in my sleep and then I remembered that I had actually dreamt about him... It was not a good dream though =) He got over it pretty fast. he knows that I can not control my dreams and that I would prefer to not dream about my ex *lol* Have u ever had this happened to you?
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16 responses
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
20 May 07
If your b/f did not treat you well when you were together then that could explain why you were dreaming about him especially if it was a bad dream. I too have been known to talk in my sleep and my husband and son always talk in their sleep. lol
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
yeah, I am glad he got over it fast, coz i would never dream about him if I had a choise
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
20 May 07
I can ubderstand him, put yrself in his shoes.... what would you feel about him dreaming with his ex? I know you cant control yr dreams, but is also not nice yr significant other knows that you still dream about yr ex. Just try to understand him. Good luck
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
20 May 07
I do understand him and he is not mad anymore, it was just his first reaction. He knows that I have no desire to dream about that creep =)
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
21 May 07
actually i have had this happen to me but my bf wasnt angry with me, he was more suss, as he heard me say a name but it was a bit mumbo jumbo lol and he like ahh what did u say and as i woke up i said what and he like what did u say and i said i dont know.. but then i thought omg i was dreaming about .... anyways oh well im glad your bf is ok now. i worry that when i dream i talk in my sleep and say people names lol
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
hehe, i talk alot iin my sleep wich have me worried at times. Luckily he does as well sometimes =)
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
20 May 07
In my experience, no one have not told me that I'm talking in my sleep yet. It might have to do with my personality. I am a very private bunny by nature and very reserved on a lot of things. I only hit the bed when my mind and body is really exhausted. By doing this, I can sleep without dreaming anything at all.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Sorry, I got my words mixed up. What I mean is that no one had told me that I'm talking in my sleep yet.
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@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
22 May 07
My sister says that I sometimes mumble in my sleep. She always thinks I'm having a nightmare so she wakes me up. Sometimes, I do remember talking. Like I'm in this half asleep, half awake state and I know I'm dreaming and I'm uttering some words in my sleep and my mind which is half awake is somewhat conscious that I'm talking.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 May 07
Listening to someone that talks in her or his sleep can be pretty fun since they usually makes no sense at all =)
@tonixxx (358)
21 May 07
I have had dreams about my ex's in the past but i have no idea whether i was talking at the time. The dreams are never very exciting anyhow, usually just scary, i have some very unattractive ex's lol. Think Shrek
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
ha ha ha, I find shrek kind of cute though =)
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
20 May 07
I would think that it is bound to happen.. him popping up in your dreams.. That your boyfriend was bothered by it (and jealous) shows he cares lots for you.. so I would take that as a good thing.. tho of course not a happy thing for him, but as you both realize it was through no fault of yours.. :))
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
Yeah, I am lucky to have him, and he is allowed to get angry. just glad that he got over it fast =)
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
20 May 07
I cant think of a time when this has happened to me but I usually dont let a partner get all up in arms about my exs right from the beginning....Bottomline with me is this, if the breakup was a decent one and they are still in my life on a friendship level or are back in my life on that same level, deal with it..they are there because I want them to be, we were friends before dating and if both of us are in agreement of it theres no reason they shouldnt be friends with me now....
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
20 May 07
I agree, however I can see how this ex would upset him since he hurt me so bad. This guy is not in my life anymore, i guess I dreamt about him because I spoke to my mom about it last night =)
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
21 May 07
It doesnt happen to me but i guess that wasthe reason your bf is acting like that. Maybe after hearing you talking while sleeping, thats when he developed insecurity towards your relationship and he feels maybe you still love your ex. He maybe jealous of your ex.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
No, he is not jealous, and he does not have to. he is probabaly angry be cause he knows how much that guy hurt me, and that he still hurts me in my dreams pisses him off
• India
21 May 07
he is ur BF so its ur responsibilty to make him smile all the time ... just do that .... i wish u do that by smiling first
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 May 07
hmm. i think as u were taking abt him in ur sleep, ur current BF got irritated. actually however hard we try to forget a person, we end up in remembering more. its the way of life. may be thats why you dreamt of ur ex. But tell your Bf that you only care about him now. As you dreamt a bad dream , u were taking abt him. I think he would understand.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
21 May 07
Actually yes. My ex was a nasty character - our mariage wasn't very good at all, and after we split up it took years for me to stop having bad dreams about him. Luckily my partner understands though - he knows the story and he would never condemn me because he knows the last thing in the world I would ever want to do is dream about him.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
My bf was probably more upset about the fact that he is still haunting me in my dreams, he knows that i would rather dream about the devil =)
@yanjiaren (9031)
21 May 07
I haven't spoken allowed in my dream about my ex, although I still dream of him and my Hubby knows it. I always tell him things. But in the beginning of our relationship I called him twice by my ex husband's name and he got offended. I had to explain to him that it was eleven years of habit and when you are used to living with someone for eleven years, the name can sometimes get stuck. I still have contact with my ex for our son's sake and now my Hubby is very comfortable as he knows well of my undying love for him. But I have to admit it was very embarrassing because it was not done on purpose.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
hehe, I still havent done that - but i can see how it could easily be done out of habit. I am sure that i will dream about him from time to time, and my bf knows it as well. however he also know that he is the one for me, and that I love him and only him!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
20 May 07
Hello,marie,was it unusual for him to throw the tantrum to you or would he be tetchy at times? But how could he know you dream about your ex? I have had dreaming about my ex,but it was nightmare sometimes:P,i do not have a boyfriend now and no one will know my dreams.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
20 May 07
Apperantly i had said his name in my sleep, thats how he knew my dream =) However I can see why he was upset since he is trying so hard to protect me from anything this guy has done to me in the past.. He´s over it now atleast =)
@fran91 (10)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
it never happened to me, but no body can control what can be in our dream. So...it not have to tell to yr BF if it will impact your relationship. Find you what actually make your bf angry with you. Every problem can be solve and the way is found the source first.
@jameszen (38)
• Singapore
21 May 07
nope, i am very single