If someone gave you a peice of furniture or item because they didn't want it ...
By maddysmommy
@maddysmommy (16230)
United States
May 20, 2007 9:37pm CST
and then 7 months later they ask for it back, would you be upset about it? would it bother you? or would you not hesitate to return it? and not be bothered by it at all?
This was weird! My neighbor called me around 9.30pm tonight asking what I was up to. I told her I was having a cup of coffee and about to jump online. She had my dvd she borrowed to return so she wanted to bring it back tonight, and then proceeded to say "don't get upset if i am about to ask you for something i gave you? I need my lamp back!!" ...so I'm like "ummm hmmm, are you sure I have it?" she described it and I said that it doesn't sound like I have that one...then she said "can i come up anyways?"... I told her again that I don't think I have it...and she said "I'm coming up ok and I'll bring you a diet coke as well!" then hung up the phone!!! I was like, fine invite yourself geez.
She offered me the diet coke which I kindly said no thank you as I already had my coffee made, and then proceeded to go around my apartment LOL I'm like "can you describe that lamp again please because I don't think you gave it to me." She told me what it looked like and I showed her the one she gave me (a small one that i use for my sons room). She looked confused then proceeded to want to go into my bedroom and check the bathrooms too?!? I said to her "I'm not lieing, I don't think you gave that to me" and she said "you sure?", I said "of course, don't you believe me?" LOL Obviously she didn't and needed to see it for herself.
I laughed when she left and thought, I would be embarrassed to ask for things that I gave away to someone, wouldn't you? I think she's weird LOL.
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29 responses
@lloydanthony111 (4698)
• United States
21 May 07
That sounds very odd. If she ever offers you anything in the future don't accept it.
It might come back to haunt to.
I would only give something away if I though I would never need it again.
Lloyd
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@lloydanthony111 (4698)
• United States
23 May 07
You are welcome. Remember to always think ahead in any situation you come across.
Take care.
Lloyd
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
You know, I was thinking the same thing that I won't accept anything else she offers me. I think its very odd behaviour even though she means well!! Thanks Lloyd for your response.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
haha I know. It was strange because she is normally not like that but I think she may have been having a "moment" or I don't know. I have only known her for 6-7 months and infact is the only neighbor I do know and spent time with since we arrived last year. Thanks for your response lillake.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Jun 07
There is no way I would ask for something bad I gave someone. Unless I gave it away by accident. But i would explain that i gave it away by accident. (like it if was something of my kids or husband that they still wanted and I gave it away thinking they didn't want anymore). I can't believe she asked for the lamp back. I wonder why it was so important to her. Did you ever find out why?
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Jun 07
I don't blame you. I would not accept anything from her again either. Espically if she waited so long to ask for it back.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Jun 07
She said that her husband was upset that she gave it away. I wasn't sure whether to believe her or not either. Unfortunately I never had the lamp she was looking for so from now on I won't be accepting anything else from her. Thanks for your response rusty!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
21 May 07
She sounds like she is a bit more than weird. She sounds a bit disturbed and I would hesitate to let her in my house again. These are the kind of people that you talk to with your door chain still hooked and out of shooting range.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
haha I know aye! she was the first person/neighbor I met when we arrived last year in August and is pretty much the only person I know in the building. I know she means well but sometimes I think she is not all there. I think she was also in two car accidents years ago so it could explain her behavior. Thanks for your response Rozie!
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
21 May 07
While I might not be upset about her asking for it back( although, I agree, that she should be embarrassed to ask).....I would be highly p.o.'d that she would have the nerve to invite herself and then on top of that....following you through your house like that...calling you a liar by actions....YES, I think that this situation would have made my red hair flame!!!LOL
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
haha you know I was a little ticked off but because of the person she is, sort of odd and does strange and unusual things, I tend to just let it slide. I know she means well but I couldn't help but laugh at what happened last night. Thanks for your response!
@thedebbie (58)
• United States
22 May 07
wow, that is not only weird but terribly rude and uncoath. You give something away that means you no longer want it back. Doesn't sound good when she doesnt even remember who she gave what to.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
it is really a rude thing to do this act. also, going to the house and inspecting around, no one among us wants somebody else to come into the house zooming in like that. it is as if she has the authrority to inspect the whole house since she had given something to the owner/occupant some unwanted piece of furniture.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
21 May 07
I didn't find that funny, I saw it as rude of your neighbor. You don't just invite yourself in someone's home without permission. You don't then just go through every room saying that they think you have something of that belongs to them. To me it sounded like she wanted to see everything in your home, and that's weird. I wouldn't accept anything in the future from her, it might later come to bite you in the butt,or vice versa.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
It's funny you say that because down in the garage/storage area place we have a bookshelf where people can put things there that they don't want or need anymore and she is often going through it to see what she could find for herself. She is forever bringing things up to me to see if I want them and when she did come by last night, she bought a sweater, a perfume and tote bag that she found there. I didn't want either of them and she kept on saying, oh you need this and this and that and I'm like NO I DON'T THANKYOU - i have 4 tote bags already and several sweaters, why would I need more LOL. So here I'am thinking maybe by her giving me something she wants something in return, I don't know but its becoming a little annoying. Thanks for your response chertsy.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
i would feel bad and offended too, if this incident happened to me at all. those things which we have given up and had handed to someone else is similar to a gift given heartedly. i have never ever taken again anything that i have handed a friend before. it is too bad that you have experienced this. worse even that the piece that person is looking for is not even with you at all.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I couldn't help but laugh about it because I know she means well but sometimes I think she is not entirely all there. If I gave something away I would not ask for it back either as I would be too embarrased to. Thanks for your response trinidad :)
@hezoid (2144)
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21 May 07
She sounds very strange indeed. Is she always acting oddly like this of is it a one-off? Maybe she's going a bit crazy somehow? Not only does she seem to be asking for stuff that you gave her back but can't even remember what she has gven you and what she hasn't! If someone gave me anything as a gift, be it furniture, a c.d, clothing, anything - then i would not only be upset if they asked for it back (unless somehow it was a genuine mistkae like they wrapped the wrong thing up a present when giving it to me) but i would be totally put out and refuse to give it back. If you give something as a gift you've legally handed over the ownership of that item so can't legally just take it back as its not your any more! (well that's the law in the UK anyway).
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
I think she is normally like this. She has done some odd things in the past and I figured that it is just her and maybe she is losing it a bit (if you know what I mean). She means well and if I did have the lamp I would of given it back, however I would not go and ask fback for things I have given away - I would be too embarrased to. Thanks hezoid for your response.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
21 May 07
LOL! That was strange but funny! Especially when you didn't have the lamp she wanted. It would have bothered me, I think.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
It did a little but I laughed it off. She does mean well at times. Thanks for responding mamacathie!
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
22 May 07
I think that "friend" of yours is really rude. To so obviously accuse you of lying. You would be in a better position to judge if this was indeed the case or she is just the kind of person who won't be convinced till she sees with her own eyes.
Well back to the question in a general sense, if I like the thing I got, I guess I would be disappointed. I would still return promptly (even though it has been given to me already) but I would probably go buy one myself is possible. Otherwise, it is no loss and good riddance! :P
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 May 07
Totally agree, if I did have the one she wanted I would of given it back - I don't really need it in the first place but she doesn't like to throw it away so gives them away to all the neighbors! Good riddance alright :P thanks Wizard!
@dwynne (82)
• Philippines
23 May 07
Wow! That was rude! Whenever I gave away things, and realize after a few months that i need it back, I'll never do such rude act. I won't even give it a thought. But girl, I admire you for being so calm while she inspects the whole house. Don't allow her to do that again.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 May 07
Yup, the first and the last time I will ever accept anything from her. I know she means well but sometimes she does act very odd. Thanks for the response dwynne!
@KatieS (503)
• United States
21 May 07
I was garage saleing with a freind and I found a table and chairs that I needed. My friend said I could have her old set so I didn't buy it. Two weeks later, she got mad at me for reasons I still don't know. My dad, who lives in another state,came to visit, right after we had dinner at that table, she caught my husband outside, started ranting and raving she wanted her table back because I was a b***. Whatever, so right in front of my dad, my husband led each piece of table and chairs out the front door. It was embarrassing. She later told my neighbor to tell me she wanted the antique TV stand she had also given me. I told him to tell her I gave it away. That was about two years ago, we are friends again, she knows I still have the TV stand but has not brought it up. I wish she would though. I really don't think there are a lot of people like that, but try to know better next time someone wants to "give" me something.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
Oh my, that's worse than what I described. I am surprised you remained friends with her after she called you names for no apparent reason. Sounds like you have a big heart. I know next time I am not going to receive anything anyone gives me (unless that person is leaving the country) LOL
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I know what you mean, I would be too embarrassed to ask for something I had given away. I think she is not entirely all there (senial I think). Thanks for your response stefyj05.
@wahmoftwo (1296)
• United States
21 May 07
I wouldn't like that. Don't take anything else if she offers, LOL!
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@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
21 May 07
Yes sounds weird to me. I some how have a feeling she was up to something else. Have you checked to make sure nothing has gone missing from your home. I wouldn't let her do that again, tell her to get a search warrant lol. Guess that is a lesson in it's self , if she offers you anything in the future for God sakes don't take it , lol
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
So true. I was actually with her when she walked around most of the house and made sure she didn't touch a thing. We don't have much for her to want to take anything anyways LOL She was a little strange/odd last night so I'm not sure what triggered it off but I know she means well. Thanks for your response citygirl!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
ha ha ha, I would have laughed also.
To be serious though... If u give something away it is not yours anymore and u have no right to ask for it back. you give it away when u dont need it or want it. If u think that u will want it back in the future you will lend it to the person.. maybe she thought that u would let her keep the dvd or something and got mad when she relalised that this was not the case. Maybe she needed to point out that she had given u something =)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
You could be right on that one, mind you I couldn't let her keep it because it's my husbands dvd she borrowed so I needed to get it back before he returns on Wednesday (haha).
@elizabeth525 (654)
• United States
21 May 07
how rude....first she invites herself over, then tours your apartment even though you said over and over that you odnt have it...sounds like she has some screws loose
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
I think so too. She is odd at times and does some very weird things too. I think I am the only person that has befriended her in the entire apartment block. I know she means well but sometimes the things she does I find rather annoying. Thanks elizabeth for your response.
@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
21 May 07
man,she really wants that lamp. she really did act wierd. if someone asked me to give back something that they gave, i would be really upset. i mean the person gave it to you and then he or she asks it back? if i was in her place i wouldn't ask for the lamp back. and if i really needed it back i would probably tell why. i would'nt act all wierd and all because that would be really silly. :]
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
Yup she wanted it back but hadn't realised that she didn't give it to me. She thought she did but it was a different lamp. I wouldn't ask for things back either because I would be too embarrased to. Thanks for your response panicdude!
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
21 May 07
Hi maddysmommy! I won't be offended if someone takes things which they have given to me because thay did not want it. Because i think i can afford anything i want. But i was in that persons shoes i would not asked something which i had given.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 May 07
Hi lovelydame! Yeah I'm not offended by it at all even if I did have the lamp she wanted. It's just weird and embarasing to ask for something back when you gave it away in the first place. It's not like we needed it either but since she was clearing out her house and didn't want to throw it away in the trash, she gave it to us. I think that is probably the last time I accept anything from her. Thanks for the response :)
