Abortion, is it right that a mother or father can make their child have one?

United States
May 21, 2007 9:08pm CST
I do not think it is right for the mother and father to have a say in whether or not their child has an abortion. By this I mean, it is not right if the mother and father can sentence their childs baby to death. I just dont feel its right..there is another way out such as adoption and plenty of people looking to adopt. This makes me so sad to hear stories of pregnant girls being forced to abort!
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14 responses
• United States
22 May 07
I feel that as a mother of a daughter if she were to get pregnant I would say you made an adult desicion and now you can make another. If she wants an abortion no matter what I feel I will support her even though I feel it is wrong. I would never ever tell her she had to kill her child, but if she chosses to keep it it will be her responsibility.
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• United States
22 May 07
Im soo glad to hear that you wouldnt force her. I am a member of cafemom and I ran across a post of a young girl who was pregnant and wanted help because this was number two for her but four months ago her mother made her abort her first one. She said she was crying and screaming and her mother said "just do it now" and they sedated her and did it...that broke my heart more than anyone will ever know!
• United States
22 May 07
That is so wrong. I mean I would be a little upset that she was not smart and used protection, but unless she was trying to kill me I do not think I would sedate her and do something against her will. That is inhumane and disgusting. I mean Wow! I am just speechless.
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• United States
22 May 07
You sound just how I felt when I heard it. I mean, she was so desperate and just looking for someone to talk to. I was so glad to be able to be there for her. I feel so sad for these young girls. Yes, of course, she could have been smarter, but abortion is not the key.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 May 07
My best friend's adopted aunt forced her to have an abortion at 16 years old and her aunt is a social worker. She felt that she was not able to handle a baby. Then, at 20 years old she got pregnant again and left home so she would not be forced into an abortion. That same aunt has raised the second child, who is now seven-teen years old and will be graduating High School this year. The reason that my friend says that she was so determined to have a child, is that she wanted a blood relation. She was adopted at four weeks and has no way of finding her natural parents. Other than that, she says that she had a wonderful childhood, but she still has a strong resentment toward her aunt for doing this. She and her son have a pretty good relationship. He does not know about the aborted sibling, but as of now, says that he loves kids, but they are not for him.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 May 07
I completely agree with you. Every time she tells me that story, I react like I am hearing it for the first time. It is very hard for me to find the right words to say to her. I really can't see myself ever making that kind of decission for another human being. That is a decission between that mother and God and no one else should have any say so. A lot of people debate that the father should have a say. Ha, that is one of the sickest things I have ever heard. Most boys would glory in the opportunity to take the easy way out.
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• United States
22 May 07
Awww, that is sad. I am sure there are alot of people out there that want children so they can have someone to love them forever. I have heard of that before. I just dont think its right in no manner to force someone to have an abortion, that shouldnt even be a law..there should be a law against that.
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@Katy238 (1028)
• United States
23 May 07
I am 100% against abortion no matter what. It is not our decission whether or not to kill a baby. To me a duck is a duck, black is black - so on and so forth!
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@Katy238 (1028)
• United States
23 May 07
Exactly. Killing is killing, regardless. this world is so twisted. They protect animals before they protect babies. Hmmmmm very weird.
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@Katy238 (1028)
• United States
23 May 07
aw well I love animals too but they are just animals. Babies are humans :)
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• United States
23 May 07
I agree, im against it as well! That will never change, I feel so sad hearing about abortions, they arent meant to be!
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@kcbomba (616)
• United States
22 May 07
parents sometimes ,underpressure - force their daughter to go for an abortion ,maybe cause of their reputation , what people will say ,or afraid to face the challenges . But in my opinion, if this does not please God almighty , if this is a great grievious offence in the site of God ( taking away another person's life ) - then is just not right , and shouldn't be encouraged, no matter what's your excuse .
• United States
22 May 07
You are right! If its not okay in Gods eyes, then it obviously not okay! Wish everyone would seeit that way!
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• United States
23 May 07
All in all if we have faith in God he will provide! He will lead the way and take care of us better than we can take care of ourselves!
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
22 May 07
That's a really horrible thing to do. I would never force anyone to have an abortion because I am against it anyway. I don't know why anyone would want to force someone to have an abortion. Of the kid wants to keep the baby then they are obviously capable of making that decision. It doesn't matter how old the person is, if they are old enough to get pregnant, they are old enough to deal with the consequences. I wouldn't care who the perso was or how old, if someone asked me what they should do if they were pregnant, I would never advise having an abortion. I don't know how I would feel if she chose to have one anyway but I don't think it is right that anyone should force another to kill their own child. Even if that is not the way the girls parents saw it, the daughter might see it that way.
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• United States
23 May 07
I agree with you 100 percent. I am against abortion as well and I dont believe anyone should have the right to force anyone into abortion. I seen on the news about a month ago that the mayor of texas will give women 500 dollars not to have an abortion, I thought that was good! I also agree with you that if they feel they are old enough to lay in bed with someone else then they are old enough to at least go through with the pregnancy. If they dont want the child, there is always adoption!
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@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
22 May 07
I think it is terrible that a parent would force their child into an abortion, if my parents forced me to do something like that I would have left and never seen them again, I think it would cause alot of hate in the family! I think that it is sad that a parent obviously doesnt monitor their children enough in the first place hence them getting pregnant but then to force them to do something like that is unbelievable!
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• United States
22 May 07
I think so too. I would have probably ran away or something. No matter what, I couldnt do it. Id rather die myself than have that happen to me.
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@kcbomba (616)
• United States
22 May 07
parents sometimes ,underpressure - force their daughter to go for an abortion ,maybe cause of their reputation , what people will say ,or afraid to face the challenges . But in my opinion, if this does not please God almighty , if this is a great grievious offence in the site of God ( taking away another person's life ) - then is just not right , and shouldn't be encouraged, no matter what's your excuse . Except, and l mean , except it has to do with a legally married woman , who's life might be endangered if she should give birth to the unborn child - then that's where abortion should come in , cause God forsaw that ,and l believe will give his consent .
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
24 May 07
I don't feel its right for any parent to choose for there child. It is up to the child on what they would like to do. As parents we need to quide them with information so that they might make the right choice for them. Although I could not choose that option for myself everybody is different.
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• United States
24 May 07
Thank you for your response. We are all entitled to our own opinion just like you said. I would have to disagree with you on this because I am against abortion!
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
22 May 07
I think it all depends on the case I guess. If the child is 11, thats pretty young to be going through the experiance of birth. But if the child is a little older, I think that if at all possible adoption would be the best option. I think the parents should have a say though. At 16 my sister was convinced she wanted a baby. If she had gotten pregnant she would have regretted it, and after time she knew that. She even went through a period where she didn't know if she wanted to have kids. Some kids at that age have a fairy tale idea of what it is like to have a baby and take care of it. They may want to keep it and then the parents get stuck raising it instead.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
9 Jul 07
As a supporter of choice, I do not feel it's right to force anyone to terminate anymore than I feel it's right to force anyone to gestate a pregnancy. The young woman should have the same right to her body as a woman over 18 should have. By the same token, I don't think the parents should be forced to provide for their child's offspring if they do not wish to. The young woman has made a choice & now she should expect to be held accountable for her choice. As a mother, I would support my daughter's decision no matter what it was.I would not put her out of my house if she choose to continue her pregnancy & keep the child. But I respect that some parents would not want that added responsibility.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Pro-choicers use the argument that it is the woman's body she should be able to what she wants with her body. Yet the same pro-choicers will state that the mother and father has the right to decide abortion as an option for their daughter who is under 19. I believe anyone who has an abortion, performs an abortion or forces someone to have an abortion is denying the right to human life. I do not think any parent should force their child to abort. They should help them through the pregnancy by giving them other options.
@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Well, I think a child to be aborted is not right for unreasonable cause. A father and mother should be responsible enough for every action as every human being should be. It is just like once you commit a crime which is against the law, you shall then be held responsible in it and there is an accompanied punishment. Then if a father and mother does have this unplanned pregnancy, abortion is not the answer, let them be responsible in their action, raise the baby. An adoption is an option. I know it is hard but there are some instances that along the process the mother become close to her child and have a change of mind not to give her child for adoption instead love it and raise on her own. An abortion might be allowed for reasonable cause. It is when the life of a mother is in great danger due to pregnancy, mostly are those having heart health problem, continues increase of blood pressure which might cause a mom and a child die together. It is then, the mother has the choice to abort or to continue the baby once adviced by the doctor. Another case when abortion i think should be fine will be, when the mother or a father has a hereditary mental illness, a strong proof of it shall then be provided. Lastly, i would like to include an option for abortion would be if the mother is a rape victim, a woman must have the choice to continue pregnancy or not.
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• United States
24 May 07
I agree with you. They should have to raise the child. The only thing is, if they did it because they had too, they might treat the kid horrible and resent it, that wouldnt be fair to the child. If they absolutely didnt want the child, I would say adoption.
@mwalidji (200)
• Philippines
23 May 07
i think abortion should be made if the baby and the mother's life is at stake. this thing happens when the baby grows outside the womb of the mother but if it is not then abortion should be done. if the girl got impregnated and the guy wont want to marry her then why abort the child. anyway the child didnt say to make him in this world. a sin cannot be solved by another sin anyway. and to the parents they should be the one to help and advice their children for the right things to do. all should be planned. it should be one way to educate us as to what is wrong or right.
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• United States
23 May 07
Good answer. I remember when I got pregnant, I was keeping my child no matter what but I told my mom I was pregnant and she said, well, theres always abortion or adoption, and I said, well, there are parents in this world that want to keep their baby you know! I told my dad about what she said, (they are divorced) and my dad said, if you had ever decided to abort or give the baby up for adoption, I will take that child and raise it because I do not believe in abortion nor does the child need to go to any other family when I am fully capable of taking care of the child for you..I thought that was so sweet! I love my dad..hehe:)
• New Zealand
23 May 07
the answer is no it is the childs right but in saying that a parent knows there child and wether they will cope or not and wether they are mature enough or not to handle raising a baby I wouldnt make my daughters have an abortion but if they are not mature enough I would talk to them about adoption instead.
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• United States
23 May 07
I agree with you 100 percent. If they dont want the child, they can always do adoption!