you asked a question and got no response, what would you feel?

I got nothing - i received no response at all
Philippines
May 21, 2007 11:26pm CST
This is not just about mylot. Its about our real life too. I asked but had no response. All I heard was a silent scream of the air. The scene was silent for the moment. We were like on a cartoon series. The wind blew heavenly with the leaves falling from the trees. I don't know what to expect. I asked a question and got no response. What will be my reaction? Do I have the right to get mad and shout at the person who had given me nothing in reply to my answer? Or should I be patient and just understand the situation of that person? ok. This are all plain imagination only. So if your on that scenario, what will you feel? what will you do?
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44 responses
@lamiaa (581)
• Egypt
23 May 07
it seem that i am not the only one who suffer from here but not in life , i ask question or need help , or want to share my happiness and no response , just 3 of my friend respond to me , yes they make me happy and now i can say i have real friends here in mylot , but i keep asking my self , why is my profile is filled with friends ? i have a lot but i only have 3 or for ? so i think i will get mad later because now i am busy getting angry !!
• China
23 May 07
in ourlife ,we need the real friends,not only in happiness time ,he or she can share,but also gothrough difficulty,he or she can help me,isn't it?lol
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• Philippines
23 May 07
yes, we may have plentiful of friends per profile but, if we had not chosen those who responds a lot, we will never get the number of responses that we hope for. there are some who have befriended us for their selfish ends, in order to make sure that they will have plenty to count on to post responses to their discussions. if you want to earn more responses, be wise in the selection of your friends. take only those who loves to make responses and post a few discussions. those who post too many discussions, will have not much time for posting responses anymore. this is also happening to me. do not be disheartened. there are plenty of us who have been encountering this thing here in mylot. besides, what is important is, that you are getting some responses to each discussion that you post.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
maybe you have chosen the wrong bunch of online friends my dear, there are some here who really answers discussion and it only takes time for you to know them. good luck! :)
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• United States
22 May 07
Well that's a tough question to answer, but I'll do my best to answer. I think it would really depend on the importance of the question. If it was something I needed to know right away I may lose my patience or get a little ticked off if no one gave me a response. If it was something that held really no importance, was just asking to be asking, than I'd probably let it go and ignore the fact that no one answered the question. But I also feel that when a question is asked to someone directly, even if they don't know the answer to it, than they should at least try to give some sort of answer even if it is "I don't know". To me it is rude to ignore someone when they are talking directly to you.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
22 May 07
Yes, you are right that you ignore someone when they are asking you. It is just like you don't like to talk to that person and you avoiding him. For me, I always answer them even if as you said, I will just answer them i don't know. At least I did not ignore them. I know how the feeling to be ignored so as much as possible, I will not ignore anyone too.
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• United States
22 May 07
Joice ~ I feel that way very deeply. If someone comes up to me asking a question than I will promptly answer them, even if I have to think about the answer for a bit, I'll let them know that I'll get back to them when I come up with an answer for them. Some questions hold an importance to the person and to have that question go ignored it can play it's little tricks on a person's mind. Now I can understand if the person asked like one question after another, like that ever so famous "Why?" after each time someone completes a sentence. I too find that annoying and worthy of being ignored, but if it is just a single question, than yes it's just a little rude to be ignoring the person, even if you don't have the answer right at that moment.
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• Philippines
22 May 07
every question has its own hidden meaning, we never know if that question is disguised as helping for advise right? so we really need to get an answer but sometimes, people have their own problems too that's why its difficult for them to answer other's question or problems. :)
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@Darkwing (21590)
22 May 07
It has actually happened to me before. When you ask a question, the person you're asking the question of has the right to answer or not answer, I guess. This is the way I look at it, anyway. So, in that scenario, I would simply break the silence by asking if they needed time to think about the question or whether they would rather not answer. No big deal, my friend. Brightest Blessings.
• Philippines
22 May 07
for some it may be no big deal but for others, it can be. some questions have some hidden meanings, if the person can't answer it maybe they just both have some problem ha ha! :) thanks!
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@Darkwing (21590)
22 May 07
True, but then you ask them whether they need time to consider the question or whether they decline to answer it. Then at least you have some idea as to what the answer might have been. You're welcome... have a good day.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
i will feel that i am out of place and out of topic. immediately i will know that i brought something up which is either not of interest to anyone, or that, no one has any idea as to what it is all about that i am asking about.
• Philippines
23 May 07
yes in some aspect, you are right about that. maybe it's just wrong timing or what. :)
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I'm the kind of person who loves to talk about things with my boyfriend. But there are times when he doesn't answer my questions. Very annoying sometimes but I get used to it. I'll ask him why is he mad at me and then he doesn't answer. He thinks that I already know the answer. Why would I ask if I know the answer in the first place. Just annoying. Getting mad at him would just add up to the problem. I just leave and ask him again when he is in the mood to answer.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
yes that is true, why ask when we know the answer right? ha ha! :)
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• United States
22 May 07
That's how it is at first around here especially but it gets better as time passes by. I try not to take it personal.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
ah.. mylot experience.. ok. :)
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• India
22 May 07
i think saying something n getting no response can be really humiliating n sometimes irritating too.this also means that i am not talking quite meaningful enough to make others respond to it,or may be sometimes theres a mismatch of thinking level of the people listening to you which make them stay passive...
• Philippines
23 May 07
yes it always happens with me and my bunch of friends, we all do it ha ha ha! :) big problems.. :)
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• Hong Kong
22 May 07
ya,really sorry to hear about that. It's really embrassing to be ignored. I think if I were in your situation, I might be very depressed and frustrated. I don't know if I will get mad of that person. maybe, I would not do anyting to him. But I am sure to have a bad feeling. I would try to calm myself down, and try to think about some reasons in my imagination, maybe that person did not hear what I said, maybe he is not interested in my question, or he is a cold person and does not wanna talk with others. Even worse, maybe that person just means to annoy me, so, I can't get mad because that's what he is expecting. When I've got some reasons, even all of them are in my imagination, I still can feel better. after all, I don't wanna have unplesant work with others. just take it easy. Good luck to you.
• Philippines
22 May 07
he he! I think all get that situation too.. and in exchange of her, not entertaining my question, I'll do my sweet revenge.. :) after the sweet revenge, everything will be back to normal again. yeah I'll take it easy doing my sweet thing ha ha! :p
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@ryanphil01 (4187)
• Philippines
22 May 07
there are times when people i asked ignore or do not respond to me right away. for me that happens because they might not have heard me or they did not understand what i was asking them. i would probably ask them again with clarity and go near them. if they still won't respond, then i would just leave as if nothing happened. i won't be upset or get mad if they don't reply at all, it's their choice anyway not to answer me. i would even thank them for not answering. LOL
• Philippines
22 May 07
me sometimes, they'll get back to me and ask me about my question and I'll just say that I have forgotten all that stuff and they will be the one who'll get mad at me.. ha ha! oh my! :P
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• Singapore
22 May 07
I would curse and swear lol.. just kidding. :P I would be quite mad of course. How dare they ignore me?!! I am not so much an attention seeker myself but I wouldn't like to be ignored nevertheless. If I ask and people are ignoring me, I would just stop asking that person. In future, you won't find me too helpful to someone who has not the decency to answer me when I asked a question.
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• Philippines
22 May 07
smells like revenge ha ha! I do that he he but just sometimes! :)
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@vamisola (906)
• Australia
23 May 07
Well, first, I have to ask him/her again. He might didn't hear me asking. Then, if still no response, I will ask another question. If there's no answer, there must be something wrong. I don't wanna get mad for no reason, unless it is so important to be answered.
• Philippines
23 May 07
yes we really need to have patience in asking but some people just want to ignore for no reason at all, they want to irritate people ha ha!
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@vamisola (906)
• Australia
23 May 07
Yeah, irritating for sure, but dear, you don't wanna be irritated, so just leave it that way..ask somebody else who will respond. Like here in mylot...i got no respond to some of my posts, i just leave it and keep having fun!
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@jianhong (741)
• Singapore
23 May 07
haha...I will just repeat my question to them again. And i will get some response.lol..Although, i feel a little dumb.hahah... Because I might sound too soft for them to hear or maybe they are concentrate on other stuff that they didn't notice what i have say. Sometime, my friend don;t know how and what to say, they will just tell me that. And i will be fine with it.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
ha ha! but sometimes I really hate repeating it ha ha! :P
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
24 May 07
i do repeat sometimes questions i don't get answers from, too. however, just like your experience, it's not that we get answers all the time. all we need to do is just remain patient until we are able to know the answers to them.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
22 May 07
If the question is directed to myself, I will continue asking until I get a response. Getting mad does not intimidate the brain and get it to give you the response you want. If the question is directed to another individual, 3 times is the most I repeat. No response means I take charge and make my own decision. If the question is directed to large audience, I do not know what will happen. Perhaps I will just go mad and yell. lol.
• Philippines
22 May 07
if I'll ask myself, I'll just laugh and get lost ha ha ha! :P If I ask a friend and did not get an answer, for sure she will definitely ask me a question on what my question was and I'll answer her that I have forgotten it ha ha (but sometimes I really do) :) If the question is asked in public, I'll throw my mic to my audience to wake them from a very bad dream ha ha! :]
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
24 May 07
I like the part you throw the mic to the audience. You are giving them a bad dream :P
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• China
23 May 07
Admitly,it's a realistic problem for each of us. As we know,only when we are encouraged,we'll have the impulse to work better.It's the same reason for the question above.When our question doesn't get any response,we may have a sense of disappointed.I underwent the similar experience the first time I met "mylot".I put forward a topic,while only one person comment on it.At that moment,I felt frustrated and was thinking about how the result could be so? Now,I am enlightened.Just walk your own way ,no matter what others may say .What's important for us is the courage and the correct attitude to take part in.
• Philippines
23 May 07
courage to do things the right way is the best that we can do. :P thanks! :)
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@hcromer (2712)
• United States
23 May 07
If I ask a question on here and don't get a response I'm a little bummed, and I just keep hoping that someone will find it and answer it one day so it doesn't get lonely out on the internet by itself. In real life when I ask someone something and they don't answer me, I get angry and I won't talk to them. I hate repeating myself even more than I hate being disrespected by people so it's a double whammy for me.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
me too, I hate repeating my question ha ha! :P
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• China
23 May 07
Oh,i'm sorry just now a little fault.Let's continue,in Chinese we say"Melts sorrowfully is the strength." Life just in our own hands.We are the controller of our destiny.Singing your favourite songs,reading your favourite books loudly...all can make you happy!Let laughing stays with our life.Do you agree?
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• Philippines
23 May 07
yes I agree but I can't see the connection he he! :)
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• China
23 May 07
Hi,dear mskzalameda.I think if i on such scenario, as you i must feel angry.But just several seconds.Because i know angry even to be can't solve any question.Do you think so?Then i will think more about what sitution i just fall in.Think more about how to solve it.I have heard a story onve.It said a young man who as soon as meets something difficult,angry or sad,he would run around his house.Whiling to himself,"i have no time to angry or sad.I live such a small place ,i need a bigger one.To think how gain what i want is the most problem"Again and again,until he is peaceful enough for some trouble. I got from it when we meet something sad,to think how to solve no complaint.In Chinese we say"
• Philippines
23 May 07
think of a possible solution and don't get things in an angry way right? I get it. thanks!
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@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
23 May 07
it fet bad! i have 2 unanswered post last week...
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• Philippines
23 May 07
don't worry dearie, I know people will discover it soon and since you have a blue star, it'll be just fine! :)
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• United States
22 May 07
it's much worse in real life.especially if it were important. on mylot though,it's a bummer,but it happens. really nothing you can do but keep plugging along.
• Philippines
23 May 07
yes and hope is still around right? he he :P
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@321633wy (1795)
• United States
22 May 07
It could be several unknown reason behind the question ???Or nobody no how to answer??? Or simply not interested on that question??? If in real life i would said yes,i felt unhappy and embarrassing ... Certainly if you can be patient and not get upset about it would be the best.
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• Philippines
23 May 07
yes your questions can be the real thing in real life too don't they? :)
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