AGE ain't nothin' but a.....NUMBER???

United States
May 22, 2007 4:29pm CST
I know that there are MANY people who are "hung up" on the age of a potential mate. But, I say it's more about COMPATIBILITY, CHEMISTRY, common interests, being on the same level INTELLECTUALLY, having the same sense of HUMOR, all of THOSE things, and MORE! It's TRUE, generally speaking, that sometimes, if u get someone who is MUCH YOUNGER than u (or much OLDER), u might not feel like u can relate that well. Though, I STILL think that LIFE EXPERIENCE, and that person's SOUL is far MORE important than CHRONOLOGICAL AGE! I've always been attracted 2 OLDER WOMEN myself! I'm an "OLD soul", so I find older women much more appealing! There is a wisdom about them, a sense that they're comfortable in their own skin (usually), and they're usually NOT into playing games anymore (if they ever WERE 2 begin with), and they have a DEFINITE sense of what they DO and DON'T want! But, I'm open 2 ANY WOMAN who resonates with my soul, REGARDLESS of age (as long as they are OF "age"...meaning "legal")! So, what's YOUR preference? Someone OLDER? YOUNGER? Around your SAME age? Does it matter 2 u AT ALL? If all OTHER things are 2 your liking, would a significant age DIFFERENCE be a "deal breaker", or NOT even a CONSIDERATION, 4 u? I'm quite curious!
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15 responses
@Melody1 (968)
• India
23 May 07
I'm not "hung up" on the age as such.But with a wide age gap of,say,more than 20-25 years,I feel(no judgement here,mere assumption)compatibility is difficult to be found between the two.I know i am wrong,pardon my mental block.:-D But mostly it depends upon the couple,how they think,feel about each other and intellectually interact and vibe with each other.Physical attraction is another vital aspect.One might find the other very attractive,inspite of very ordinary looks.What I mean to say is that attraction and physical/inner beauty of a person lies in the eyes of the beholder.When two people are attracted towards each other and fall in love,it just happens.Its the chemistry (physiques too,lol)and the mutual bonding between the two which does the magic.Its here where age difference has no important.
• United States
23 May 07
So true, so TRUE, Melody1! And yes, the physiques ARE important, 2 MANY! I've seen physiques, "figures" on women of ALL ages, that I've appreciated, and been attracted 2! As 4 falling in LOVE, YES, I believe it "just happens" as well! We NEVER KNOW when "cupid" is gonna SHOOT that "arrow", and "hynotize" us with that FEELING 4 someone else! When THAT happens, age, as u said, has NO IMPORTANCE! Great response!
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
23 May 07
Hi, creativemind. I have never had a specific plan when deciding to be with someone, it usually just worked out that we had a very strong mutual attraction. The last two men I was with were more than ten years younger than I, and we never had an issue about age. My last relationship lasted for almost 2o years. We probably would still be together now, but I made a conscious decision to change my life and we chose different paths. Still very good friends though. No, age is not the important factor in a relationship-having a common bond; mutual respect; and desire to please one another is.
• United States
23 May 07
I couldn't have said it better myself! I appreciate your response, worldwise1! U sound like u R very WISE!
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• United States
23 May 07
When I was younger, I always dated men who were around my same age (within 2-3 years difference at the most). However, after my divorce, I started hanging out with an older crowd and fell head over heels with a man who is almost 15 years older than me. We are still together, and I can honestly say that this has been the most mature and best relationship I have ever been in. We get along fabulously 95% of the time. I have the benefit of his life experience and he gets the benefit of seeing things from a different generations point of view. It's all about the person, not what year they were born :)
• United States
23 May 07
My sentiments EXACTLY! 95%...that's an EXCELLENT percentage! I say u don't wanna go lower than 90% (the lowest "A" u can get, in school)! So, u sound like u have the IDEAL relationship! That's a BEAUTIFUL thing! Thanks, SereneDragon!
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• United States
23 May 07
I like men who are older than me. I feel like I can learn more from an older man. I'm not talking older like 15, 20 years older than me. For instance, my boyfriend is 5 years older than me. I've dated younger men before and I feel like I can dance in circles around them. lol.
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• United States
23 May 07
I feel your sentiment, candiec2005! I prefer OLDER women as well, as I've said! But, I will REMAIN open 2 ALL possibilities, 'cuz u just NEVER KNOW what AGE "package" the RIGHT 1 will show up in!
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@timou87 (1643)
• Singapore
23 May 07
yes age is nothin but a number! my mum is well over 50 but trust me when i say she looks like she was just past her late 30s! age is nothing compared to how you feel about yourself
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• United States
23 May 07
Good point, timou87! I say u're ONLY as "old" as u FEEL! It truly IS nothin' BUT a number!
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23 May 07
Ok hun, I am 55 years young and my partner is 29 years old. I don't look or act my age, while my partner defintely prefers older women as he says he can't really relate to women his own age. We have been together for a while now and are very happy, so the age difference means nothing to us at all.
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• United States
23 May 07
I LIKE, recycledgoth! I'm 36, and I could DEFINITELY go 4 a woman YOUR age! And what u just described, as far as NOT LOOKING or ACTING your age, THAT sounds IDEAL 2 me! That's like having the "BEST of BOTH worlds"! I love it!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
22 May 07
I think that it is most of the same things you mentioned to make a relationship work at any age. But especially in a relationship that involves an age difference. If you don't let it bother you, then it won't, but if you let the stigma of age get mixed up in the relationship then it will cause problems. I have always been attracted to older guys but the oldest guy I ever dated was 10 years older than me, it wasn't a deal breaker but we broke up for other reasons besides the age difference.
• United States
23 May 07
That's what I say, mamasan34! I don't think people break up over AGE, unless they just have a "hang-up" about it 2 BEGIN with, in which case, they probably wouldn't even GET in a relationship with the person at all! Usually, it's the personality CLASHES that "undo" the situation. Thanks 4 your response!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 May 07
I agree with your comment, most people who have age issues don't get into a relationship with a person much younger or older than they are themselves. I think it is much deeper than that when a relationship ends and it is not the age alone that is the problem. Thanks for the interesting discussion!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
23 May 07
age is just a number. i have many friends who married men more than 10 years old than them and they are happy with their married life. as for me, age does not matter much. well, personally, i am now with a man who is just a year old than me. i think, it's not much about the number. but it's more on how you deal with each other. how you give importance to one another, how you treat each other, how you mend things together, how you understand each other. age is just a number and it won't effect a relationship that much unless one is so sensitive with age.
• United States
23 May 07
Another eloquently expressed response! It's good 2 c so many people DON'T have a "hang-up" about this! Thanks, maryannemax!
@Tatsuya (1150)
• United States
23 May 07
I agree to an extent. I am 23 years old and have always gone for older guys, because they are more mature. Although the aspect of dating a 50 year old male does turn me off just a little. I would probably date someone who was 30-35 being the oldest. I understand it's just a number, but while I'm still young it doesn't really appeal to me. But I agree, it doesn't matter if you get along with the other person. I know someone who is 24 dating a 48 year old.
• United States
23 May 07
Well, u certainly CAN'T control WHO u're attracted 2, I believe! So, if a man THAT much older than u DOESN'T appeal 2 u, then so be it! At least u're still OPEN 2 the idea, though. I think that's GREAT! Thanks, Tatsuya!
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
23 May 07
No, age has got nothing to do with it, (as long as its legal), you cant help who you fall in love with, just the same as you cannot change age.
• United States
23 May 07
Again, I agree completely! Thanks, Calais!
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
23 May 07
I am like you. Age is just a number. As long as there is chemistry I think that there is a chance for some kind of relationship. My fiancee is about ten years younger then me. We have alot of things in common so we are able to make our relationship work. I have never allowed age to make a difference unless their underage.
• United States
23 May 07
Exactly! As long as they're 21 and OVER, I'm cool with it! Good post, castleghost!
• United States
22 May 07
I think that is correct age does not really matter! It is love that we talking about anyways. Love meaning like when you love sombody it does not matter how old they are or like how they look. The personality that counts the most. Basicly i think they should not judge about the age anymore!
• United States
23 May 07
I'm with u, AnimeSeller! My PREFERENCE is OLDER WOMEN, but as long as I truly CONNECT with a woman, then age IS "just a number"! Good response!
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@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
22 May 07
age doesn't matter at all in love.. you can't blame anyone if you fall for someone older or younger...love is such an inevitable feeling.. though as for my personal preference.. id say sumone my own age...or perhaps a year older will do... jz someonewho can relate to me...whom i can connect to...--well ive found dt sumone lucky me..
• United States
23 May 07
Yes, lucky U, myahw20! I agree! U can't help WHO u "fall" 4!
@hezoid (2150)
22 May 07
I find men my own age in general are too immature, and just don't have the sort of experience or respect for women that i'm after. I prefer older men, which is fortunate for me as my fiance is 17 years older than me! Still, i agree that age is jsut a number, and we don't have any issues about our age difference at all.
• United States
22 May 07
Well, I guess u're 1 of the "lucky" 1's, hezoid! Of course, u know that "immaturity", AND RESPECT, come in ALL ages!
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• United States
22 May 07
I do not think age should be an ssue as long as the people love and care for each other. I do not like people who will purposely date or marry someone much older in hopes of striking it rich when they die. My boyfriend is 7mths younger than me. So basically he is my age. I've dated guys who were like 6-7 years older than me. It's never been an issue and I do not see why it should.
• United States
22 May 07
I don't c it as an "issue" either, coconutpatty, as I've already said. But, I know that ALOT of people DO, which is why I'm curious 2 c HOW many do! Thanks 4 your response!