on long term relationships...

For me a great relationship can last a lifetime. No matter how long or short the relationship is, if it is great-can last a lifetime. Settling down is a decision to make, with both positive and negative weighted with a commited and mature manner of judgement. I think I can't relate yet hehehe am single. LOL!

In our 8 years relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend, there was a point in our life when we feel tired and cold of one another. I guess it happened in our 5th or 6th year. It is my boyfriend who started showing me this, I can't understand it at first. He was assigned to work so far away from me. He started to lose our communication even if I try to reach him. I feel very disappointed that time and it really hurts me alot. I'm thinking alot of negative things until I decided to stop what I'm been doing. If he never wanted to talk to me why would I have to wait for his call? I try to forget everything about him and look for new friends on chat. After 8 months, he turns back the same way as before. It's not easy for us to turn our relatiobship back to normal but then after moving on we survived from this trial. Right now, I'm the one who would like to be settle down. My boyfriend would like to prepare everything before doing so.

Well its ok with me. I am not in the point of rushing things with my boyfriend, we are taking our time together and when the time comes we are ready we are going to decide. I take as getting to know each other more. My ideal ,arrying age was 29 but I am already passed it now I just hope I dont get passed 40.

Settle down? That's up to the couple involved. When it's time to settle down, you'll know. I don't think that going together for a long period makes you grow tired with each other. As a matter of fact, I think it's the opposite. The longer you are together, the more you know about the other, the better you can be together. My husband and I dated for 2 years before we got married. We had planned on dating for 4 years (and wait until after we graduated college to get married) but that summer between our Sophmore and Junior years seemed right to us. It felt right. Now we've been married for almost 9 years and I love him more now than I did when we got married. We have discovered more about each other over the years, likes and dislikes, opinions and desires. It has been wonderful learning so much about this person. Even if you try NOT to keep secrets about each other, you do, it has taken 11 years and I still do not know everything about my husband and he doesn't know everything about me.