Forbidden Love

Philippines
May 25, 2007 11:10am CST
I have a question thats been bugging me.... I hope you could give me advice and feel free to share your ideas. Because when it comes to love i'm a bit afraid to take a risk and get hurt in the process, thats why i'm still single and unattached eversince. It's because of the things i hear and witness on the people that surrounds me, be it my family, friends etc... The situation is this, Why is it that when you're ready to experience things and try it out, something happens, just out of control it happens? What is a forbidden love? How can you say that it's forbidden? Can you give an example? And if you think you're in that situation, how will you handle it? Are you willing to take the risk? please bear with my questions, just really wanted to be enlightened... tnx!
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9 responses
• Philippines
25 May 07
Getting hurt is all part of life and you should not be afraid. No guts no glory, so they say. Forbidden love is a situation like loving someone who is married to someone else or someone who is in love with somebody else. Or maybe somebody who has a different religion, or a close relative (like a cousin or an uncle).
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• Philippines
26 May 07
thanks for the reply... it meant a lot.
• Philippines
26 May 07
It is forbidden when it's against the law of the Almighty, it can be a romantic relationship between relatives of 1st or 2nd degree, it could be a relationship with a married person.. among others. I am married but my husband and I separated ways 2 years ago. Now I'm living alone, though still legally attached. I was forbidden to have another relationship with other guys because I'm still married.. the problems is I fell in love with another guy, and I fell really deep. How I handled the situation? It wasn't simple, but it has to be done. I weighed things over my head. Which is more important? The guy's love? or God's love? I don't wanna lose God's love so I had to sacrifice my feelings for the guy, right? No, I didn't take the risk, I don't wanna risk it. I don't know what I'll do if God gets angry at me, the punishment will hurt....
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• Philippines
26 May 07
Thanks for sharing... going against the laws of God and people is really hard. Thats what is happening to me right now, weighing things over and before it gets too far, i'd rather consider the downsides of my actions... so i'll just ask for HIS assistance in this matter.
@JcHitomi (100)
• Nepal
26 May 07
Forbidden love is when you involved in the situation that the other person has been committed to someone. Basically the common of this is when you are in love to married man. It is a situation that cannot be concluded for "forever thing". Its just love loving someone at the wrong time. Thats why when loving someone you indeed risking yourself and willing to accept the trials bec. of love and the question will you cope with it? are you willing? Its a choice if you continuing loving a person and should accept all the risk and consequences might happen. Thats love is, fighting back and holding it on. Though its hard, bec. when you chose to love a person you indeed chose to be hurt, theres only a saying that no once could you without your consent.
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• Philippines
26 May 07
thanks for the response... i do agree with you, and taking a risk i don't think i am ready for it. but in due time i will find a better way for the both of us that no one can be hurt... or rather i'd be hurt than hurting the people around me.
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
26 May 07
i am not quite sure.. may be loving somebody that have somebody else, she already have husband and family.
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• Philippines
26 May 07
Thanks... same as that but not in that situation.
@Wanderlaugh (1622)
• Australia
26 May 07
Forbidden love is a contradiction in terms, as far as being in love is concerned. As for getting hurt, don't worry about it. It's like being hit by a nuclear weapon, just more accurate. You don't get a choice. It's almost the exact opposite of talking yourself into thinking you're in love. So when I say "forbidden" love is a contradiction in terms, I mean it's something you really can't contradict, within yourself. You can't even argue with it. Anyone "forbidding" it is irrelevant, and not going to be considered, as far as what you do about it. Enjoy!
• Philippines
26 May 07
Thanks... it's really hard fighting something you know you can't that you'd end up hurting inside but also the same with when you'd go with the flow... i think i'd have to think things over and over and over again... tnx!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 May 07
I think forbidden love is when you fall for someone that is already taken or there is a conflict like being related. Run if you are in that situation. You are only asking for heartache and you deserve to have something that can be out in the open and a love you can enjoy!
• Philippines
26 May 07
Thanks...(",)
• United States
25 May 07
Forbidden love would be being with a married man. Having a relationship with a brother or sister. It does happen. Having a relationship within the same family. If you never go out and love you are missing one of the most beautiful things on this earth. Yes, you might get hurt but that is all part of living. There are no guarentees in this life. I don't know who said this but I have heard a saying that is very true. Better to have loved and lost than not having loved at all. I have been married to my husband for 34 years soon to be 35 in August. Over the years we have had some pretty rough roads to travel at times. There was one time that we thought it was the end of the marriage but we just kept on struggling. Love is a emotion that has to be given freely and with the knowledge that the other person may not return it. Open up for a experience of a life time and you will never regret opening your heart.
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• Philippines
26 May 07
thanks for the reply... and congrats on ur anniversary.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
26 May 07
Forbidden love? It's like getting involved with someone who's already married. It would be wise to avoid situations like that. Otherwise, go ahead and take the plunge. Anyway almost anything in life carries with it some form of risk. Almost everyone gets hurt at some point. And if it does happen to you, just don't let it be the end of your world. There are many guys out there! Just treat it as a learning experience.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
26 May 07
So you haven't experienced falling in love because of fear? How can you feel the fear if you haven't felt it...i think you really don't have the fear..ahm... because knowing and hearing those things from the others must have aroused your curiosity and you would have wanted to feel the pain in reality... Well, that was how it went through with me..i felt so much pain and now had the fear of feeling what i felt again.. forbidden love is the love that you feel feel is right but really is wrong...wrong person, wrong place, wrong situation...etc...like me... i fell in love with a girl (lesbi)...just that..i don't want to remeber anything.. did i answer your question? well, i hope i did help you.. ^^,