Ok..this will spark some contraversy..but why ..why do women have to do so much

United States
May 27, 2007 5:46am CST
Why do women have to paint their face.. make up..to be able to appear in public.. Men do not have to wake up and put paints and colors on their faces..so why have women become the ones who have to do this.. Why does this amount of make up make such a difference.. I have seen all kinds of this ..Some women have it light and others have it set on so heavily that it looks like a mask.. What is it ..what law..that says women you have to do this to be pretty ..? Who started this trend and why??? I know women in general would not go out of the house without spending time .hours..putting on this.. Is it necessary or a trend that women can not break away from? Finally how much money do you spend on what you put on your face??????
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17 responses
• Philippines
27 May 07
Why do women love make-up? Blame estrogen. After menopause a woman can feel relaxed without it unless she has to look her best at work or social events. Why do women have to wear it? Competition, I guess. And if you were a personnel ofcr, who'd seem more motivated on the job - a slob or someone who looks sleek and slick?
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• United States
28 May 07
I had to wait till I stopped laughing..please excuse me..I am on the onslaught of menopause ..and I don't feel any need to put on the make up..or cosmetics..this is not an estrogen thing..LOL..it's a matter of what you have been instilled to believe.;)+
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
27 May 07
I am the one to wear- make up I love it, I don't go out of the house without wearing Make-up. It is a ritual for me I have been wearing make-up since I was 16, so I am the one to wear it. I think I wear it well. everyone saids that I do. I have been putting it on for 35yrs. and It only takes me 5 to 10mins to put it on.I will best the best, I don't like cheap make-up, and I will pay money for my make-up. I war Fashion Fair, that is for women of color. I also wear, Lancome, Elizabeth Arden. a of the name brands. I might wear Maybaline. cover girl. some Avon, Mary kay. I love the lip gloss with the different colors. Blush, eye shadow but not all the time. Mostly foundation. lipstick, and Masscara. I always wanted to be a make-up Artist.
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• United States
27 May 07
Though we share different opinions..I don't condemn those who feel they can't go without it...When we appear before God..we wont have to put that stuff on;)+
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• Nigeria
27 May 07
i think thats the way it has always been since we had what we call women. I do think its something peculiar to them alone
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• United States
28 May 07
But I wonder why it begun ? Why it's so one sided..??That is wearing makeup..Can you imagine men with eyeliner and lipstick? But wait...some do wear it now dont they..but it's not to attract women ?+
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@ram_cv (16513)
• India
27 May 07
Let me add some fire to the controversy you are trying to work up :). Women make their own choices to do so. I have seen females literally abuse their faces with lipstick and makeup just to make sure that they look good and attractive. Believe me, from my personal perspective I get more attracted to females who do not have any makeup on their faces or have very little!! Too much makeup puts me off!! Apart from the money perspective, there are other subtle things which people miss. Makeup does harm your skin. Whatever this cosmetic industry would like you to believe, the skin does get affected by the makeup you put. Also the excess lipstick which actually gets consumed with food and drink is also not good. In the good old days, when they did not use to use makeups, most females used to age gracefully, now the moment a woman crosses 40, the wrinkles on her face starts showing up real bad. This leads them to spend more time in the parlour and so on!! Come on... All animals try to attract mates by showing off that is ok... But, they show off natural stuff and don't polish or varnish themselves to look attractive. How's that for an inflamatory answer? Hoping to get a lot of kudos and brickbats as replies :) Cheers! Ram
• United States
28 May 07
I never saw it that way: abusing..but I guess with realization of what it all can do to your skin and body..yes maybe... It is awful that women have to feel they are pretty only when they paint over what God has given them;)+
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@ram_cv (16513)
• India
29 May 07
Thanks for the best response. I was hoping some one to come back real hard on my response. This is a welcome surprise. Cheers! Ram
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
27 May 07
Women don't have to put makeup on, it is just something that many get in the habit of doing. I quit wearing makeup years ago. I don't own any makeup now and if I do wear it on a special occasion. I'll borrow my daughter's eye liner and lipstick, but that is it. I think women look better without makeup.
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• United States
28 May 07
swtrose: great..glad you have found that there is no need to get caught up in the restroom for hours with eyeliner and mascara;)+
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• India
28 May 07
the answer is simple men admires a woman who looks more beautiful some are born beautiful and some use makeup to be one so i guess many are ugly so they do make to become beautiful
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@Lvdeckape (320)
• United States
27 May 07
it isn't a "law" it is a choice to do this and for me it makes me feel good and to add color to my white complection and it makes me feel better about my selfesteem. I mean there are people out there that do not know how to add makeup properly, but that is their choice on how to apply it. I know men don't have to and that is a great thing about being a woman because we can add something so simple and it makes such a difference. -Lora
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• United States
28 May 07
So your self-esteem is affected by what you put on? I wonder why ..Don't your self-esteem is something within and has to be handled there? I mean if you realize how beautiful God made you ..that is good self esteem..if you need to add to it that means you are not happy with how you look ..you feel your beauty is inadequate?
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• United States
28 May 07
Sorry..I am not open minded to that..I don't agree that painting my face will make me feel better about myself..Neither do I paint my nails or put on jewelry etc.. I am very simple and believe that what is more important is not how you look on the outside..although you must be clean..but what you are in the insided..To do something like you say would be a compelte contradiction of my beliefs and make me a hyprocrite As I say..If it makes you happy great..It don't make you any better a person inside however...+
• United States
28 May 07
Yes it does have to do with self esteem, it is like putting on a cute outfit or doing something different with your hair. You speak a lot about "god" which is great, but do you shave your legs and do things to yourself that make you feel good about yourself, such as painting your nails or even gardening or any hobby that you might enjoy because it makes you happy and helps with your self esteem and actually there are men out there that do wear makeup, such as actors and it is for their appearence and for mine and it does not cover up your beauty it is to enhance your beauty. I just feel you are just totally against this subject and should be a little more open minded about this subject. Everyone is different and this is how "god" made us and to take care of ourselves and to love life is to do those little things such as adding makeup to make us feel great and that just makes us unique!
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
27 May 07
I had a terrible experience in when i was a teen with makeup and havent wore it since.The only thing i wear is lip gloss and sometimes maybe lipstick.
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• United States
28 May 07
Good for you..I know many people that just wear a litle lipgloss or lipstick too..I wonder what they create these lipsticks out of ..do you know?:)+
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
27 May 07
well here is a woman who never wears make up at all. I honestly dont like the feel of it and find it reprehensible that i am expected to conform to their ideas of what is atractive. Selling stuff and telling women they need gunk on their faces is just another example of the exploitation that is capitalism blessed be
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
27 May 07
Cute posting. My first thought was because men and women are made different. Men tend to look at the surface to be stimulated and women look for the emotional attachment. Also...men age much better than women, and maybe we try to keep up with them. Another thought...in nature, like birds...it is the male who has the more colorful plumage...the ones who strut their stuff...it makes a funny mind picture to think of our men being the "pretty" ones.
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• United States
28 May 07
But who is the determining factor in what is "pretty"? I mean does make up make you look more pretty ..perhaps if you like that artifilial masky look then yes it does.I simply can't get into it;)+
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@ctv101103 (859)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I do put makeup on but not all the time. I usually put some on when I'm going to work or attending a function/party. And when I do, I try to make it look as natural as possible. I don't like heavy makeup. It makes me look like a different person. Other than those times, I don't bother.
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• United States
28 May 07
Well..as I said..I don't condemn people who wear makeup I don't see any need for it though and am not backing down on that:)+
• India
28 May 07
dear littlefranciscan, i agree with your opinion. And in India, it is not only the face make up, women do host of the household chores apart from a job, if she is into one. hence it is a double/triple burden of work on women folk.
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• United States
28 May 07
I am happy to see that others share my opinion..I wonder though how many in the USA can say this?:)+
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• United States
28 May 07
I don't know who made the rule, but I grew up to be a very huge rule breaker! I did wear make up for a while in high school, but I don't anymore. My dad is the one who started me out on this. When I was a teen and experimenting with make up and hair styles, my dad asked me one day- why would you want to cover up such a pretty face, and spend all that money on getting your hair done when you look very pretty without it? So, I very rarely wear any makeup and I very rarely curl my hair. I am not vain, I know that I am not beautiful, but, my husband loves me just the way I am. If I happen to wear makeup for a special occasion, he always asks me why I painted my face!
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• United States
28 May 07
Well it's all about who you are trying to please and whom..If people don't accept you for who are and only for what you wear then they are not really good people..:)+
• United States
28 May 07
I have never understood the NEED to wear make-up. I will go out with or without it. I also think that wearing so much that you take on a totally different look is sad. Makeup is designed to enhance one's features, not disguise them. If and when I wear make-up, I use a little eyeliner and neutral (browns) eye shadow and a light lipstick. I do advocate caring for the skin with moisturizers and such, but not covering up what you have been given.
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• United States
28 May 07
Yes..moisterizers are very good for your skin and eating proper food;)+
@eiencafe (155)
• Italy
27 May 07
I don't know why women have to paint their faces, I don't so I wander, too... I always thought "natural beauty" came first in all day life so I don't spend hours in front of the mirrow trying to mask my face. How much money? zero :)
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• United States
28 May 07
Good for you ..Glad to hear you are not afraid to go without it..People have not seen me in any other fashion..Perhaps they pitty me..but I am happy with what God gave me and continues to give ..however little or lots it is:_+
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
27 May 07
I am the one to wear- make up I love it, I don't go out of the house without wearing Make-up. It is a ritual for me I have been wearing make-up since I was 16, so I am the one to wear it. I think I wear it well. everyone saids that I do. I have been putting it on for 35yrs. and It only takes me 5 to 10mins to put it on.I will buy the best, I don't like cheap make-up, and I will pay money for my make-up. I wear Fashion Fair, that is for women of color. I also wear, Lancome, Elizabeth Arden. all of the name brands. I might wear Maybaline. Cover Girl. some Avon, Mary kay. I love the lip gloss with the different colors. Blush, Eye Shadow but not all the time. Mostly Foundation. Lipstick, and Masscara. I always wanted to be a make-up Artist.
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@craz2max (254)
• United States
27 May 07
I feel that putting on makeup is a personal choice and not a mandate. I personally don't use makeup and it has not kept me from getting boyfriends or jobs. But I know many women who say they feel 'naked' without their makeup. My sister puts on makeup to go shopping, to work, to the doctor. I just have never felt the need.
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@jolly223 (73)
• United States
29 May 07
I am very self concious about my skin complexion, so i usually always have make up on.