Which would you prefer from this two statement?

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May 28, 2007 11:46pm CST
Which statement for you is appropriate: I love you because I need you or I need you because I love? And why?
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@gasmas100 (588)
• India
29 May 07
i guess- I NEED YOU BECOZ I LOVE YOU, sounds less chauvenist and demanding and comforting that the other.....agree??
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• Qatar
29 May 07
You're quite right gasmas. The latter statement is more appropriate because the need for the other is out of love while the former statement is that love is there because of the need for something take the need and the love is gone. The former statement is like a parasitic attitude while the latter is of dependence for the love of the other. God bless.
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• India
29 May 07
u hit the nail on the head, mate !!!! cheers n God Bless u too.
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@april_02 (82)
• Philippines
29 May 07
i think it's "i need you because i love you" because it sounds more secure for me. also the meaning of the statement is heartwarming..
• Malaysia
29 May 07
love - nothing rules love and love rules all things
i think it's more appropriate to say I need you because I love you! if 'i love you because i need you' - that literally means that once u stop needing a person then you'll stop loving them too. which shouldn't be the case. love doesn't require a reason^_^
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
31 May 07
I think that whatever statement we take the end result will be the second statement i.e. "I need you because I love you", I'll explain.. All what we need is because of our love for something. We need water, food, health and job etc to LIVE. It's our love for our life that creates this need. We need home, dresses, a car, telephone, electricity, gas, education, household things and every thing that doesn't come in essentials to facilitate ourselves. It's our love for our body or this world that make these things a need for us. So, need itself is created by our love for something. Hence it can be logically concluded that the second statement does make sense while the first one is an indirect restatement of the second statement:-)
• Qatar
31 May 07
Hello kamran! I think the first statement emphasizes the existence of love in so far as the need is present and if you take away that need the love also goes away. Like for example i have to love someone because she/he provides me with luxury and affluence but if this things that keeps me from loving that person is lost or becomes unavailable my love for that person is no longer necessary. While on the latter statement love is the main reason for needing someone whether that person has something to provide me anything or not is just secondary. IMHO. God bless.
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
31 May 07
you probably mistook my opinion jessemt35:-), I was really emphasizing that in any case second statement remains true and valid. I was not taking it on a person's level but in general for every thing in this world. My vote remains for the second statement:-)
• Qatar
1 Jun 07
Hello kamran! I get your point regarding the generality of these statement when it comes to things that we need. We need food, health, job and money in order to survive in this world because it is simply a necessity attached to our human nature and instinct. Love for our life makes this things indeed a necessity, but I emphasize my post more on the personal level, the relational one. So in your opinion which one of this statement is appropriate in matters of personal relationship? God bless.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
29 May 07
it depends from where one is looking at love.there are people who believes that they love someone because it is a need for them.they have something that one does not and somehow all of us do fall in that category that we love someone because we see not our similarities but each has something to offer to the other person e.g if one is too logical and the other is too creative then each one may have been attracted to each other because each one lacks the qualities each has.on the other hand, needing someone because you truly love the person means it is more of a self sacrifice that you would do everything to love that person but then if trully love the person that person must have something that made you like him.thus, making the first premise is true.we love someone because we need them.
• Qatar
31 May 07
Hi tiger! In your own opinion which statement for you is more appropriate. Indeed it depends upon where one is looking at love but it seems to me that the first statement is more of needing someone because I can profit from her/him and if that need is taken away love will fade. Kind of a selfish attitude towards others IMHO. God bless.
• Philippines
29 May 07
The term "I love you because I need you" sounds so immature and selfish. Its like loving a person only because he could give you favors. The other one, "I need you because I love you" is a sign of a mature love. Regardless of what or who the person is, you would always want him around not becoz he's been doing something for you but becoz you love him and cant afford to lose him.
@banta78 (4335)
• India
29 May 07
I am diehard romantic, softie at heart. So ofcourse for me i would profess my love to my beloved by saying that i need you because i love you. I feel that is the most appropriate and obvious thing to say. As love is beautiful feeling and you love that person as you have deep feelings for the person not because what that person can do for you.
@tesllian (68)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
of cos because I love u...... i'll feel much more appreciated!