Teen girls dating older men

@Swtrose (3399)
Canada
May 30, 2007 7:56pm CST
What do you think about younger girls dating older guys? While older guys can seem glamorous to a younger girl, these relationships can lead teenage girls into risky situations. How would you feel about your teen dating someone older? Have you voiced these concerns with your daughter?
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
31 May 07
Well,yes,there are so many teen girls who like dating older men.Some of them go for their money.Cuz there are so few successful younge men.So these girls dating older men to have a better life.Others go for older men's mature.It is a little stange,but these girls are attracted by older men's mature.Even these guys already have their own families.Some of the guys do not have much money,some even broken.But they use their mature,their experience in relationship to cheat those teen girls.This is really bad. So those who have daughters must be cautious.Tell them the truth faces of those guys.
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
31 May 07
I dont have a teen or a daughter, but did this as a teen. I ran into some bad situations, including getting married at 17 to a 28 year old. If I had a teen I would be SO upset if she did this and I would make sure she knew my concerns and why I felt the way I did. I think it's a pretty serious thing and more people should talk to their daughters about this. Teens rarely see the dangers that could be waiting.
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• Philippines
31 May 07
i don't older guys.. about 3-5 years older.. :D other than that, it's a no no..
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
31 May 07
I guess that would depend on the age of the young man and the relationship that you have with your daughter....while a few years seem like a lot when they are young....it does not seem so distant when thwy are a little older.... For instance...my husband is 10 years older than me...if I had met him when I was 15 my mother would have had an absolute fit....but when we married nearly 20 years ago the age distance was not that far apart.. I hope that this makes sense.... I know that you are close to your daughter...so your judgement will be the correct one... Good luck with this, my friend.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
31 May 07
Um, my daughter is not dating an older man. lol I was not speaking from my experience. I was just speaking in general. My daughters ex-boyfriends have all been a year younger than her thankfully.
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• United States
31 May 07
Well, I guess that I assumed that you were referring to your daughter or one of her friends since I know that you have a daughter that is a teenager..... I mean when I was 7, my husband was joining the Marine Corp. and making plans to be shipped off in a war....and I was in second grade.....if we had met then he would not have even paid any attention to me and rightly so...I was just a kid......but jump forward, now I am 24 yrs of age and that 10 years is no longer as important.... So the difference of ages can be so much more relavent when they are younger.....hope that makes sense..LOL
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
31 May 07
Nope, I was not referring to my daughter or her friends and you and your husband are both grown adults. You are not a 13 year old girl dating a 23 year old man.
• United States
31 May 07
I was one of these teens. When I was 16 I dated a man who was 27. I ended up pregnant and he left never to be heard from again. At the time I thought my mother was a mean uneducated wholly-roller that was only trying to stop me from having love and a life. Boy was I wrong!, I wish I had listened to her. I was faced with this same situation not too long ago with my oldest daughter. She knew what had happened to me (it was her father that left me when I was 16) and I explained how rough it was and I really hoped she wouldn't make my mistakes. She said almost the exact same things I did to my mother. In the end I let her go her own way with the warning that if she did this against my wishes she would never be able to come back to my home and live. Tough love is so hard at times. It just about killed me to see her make my mistakes all over again. Lucky she didn't have a child out of the deal. I made mistakes in my parenting of her but I learned from those mistakes and can honestly say I won't be repeating them again. So when my other daughters reach the age of boys it will be a firm no and if I have to I'll lock them up lol. But honestly I think that young girls that date older men are actually looking for a father figure. If there is a good man in their lives (father or father figure) they are less likely to search for that type of love.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
I has a good man in my life yet I dated older man.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
That came out wrong. lol I had a loving father in my life yet I dated older men.
@wolves69 (756)
• United States
31 May 07
Well, my daughters are too young to date, but as a Dad, I know I'll have a problem with them dating anyone. Especially if they are older; however, that's where the missus will politely remind me that we were 7 years apart and we were 18 and 25 when we married. Regardless of age, I hope to have taught my daughters enough to avoid dangerous situations and recognize when enough is enough. These situations are just as dangerous if the guy is younger or older.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
31 May 07
A 14 year old girl is easily manipulated and I don't know about you, but I would have had a HUGE problem with my daughter at 14 dating a 19 year old man. I would have an issue with her now dating someone over 20. Now maybe in a year, my opinion may differ. Many young girls, have a unique view on reality and an older man can seem very exciting when reality it isn't. So, you think if you teach your daughter how to avoid dangerous situations, she'll never find herself in one? My good God, think again!
• Canada
31 May 07
I thinkit should not be a problem so long as ther eis a respectable age difference between them and they are both atleast with in 4-5 yrs but a 30-40 yr old male or female dateign a 13-17 yr old i have a real problem with as the teen has not had a chance to grow or develop into an adult.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
31 May 07
So you see no problem in a 14 year old girl dating an 19 year old young man or a 16 year old dating a 21 year old? I have to wonder what a 21 year old man would see in a sixteen year old or an 19 year old in a 14 year old. According to your opinion than you see nothing wrong with a 13 year old dating a 18 year old? Here in Canada a 19 year old male can go to the bar, he is legal age to drink, while the 14 year old is just starting high school.
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• Canada
31 May 07
I have a real problem with it but thought it I was clearer than what I thought I was so long as the person has had time to develop into a person adn becoem a person who understands a little more of life. yes 14 yr old dating 19 is a bit extreme as neither has really lived as a person by themselves..
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• India
23 Feb 08
How old is this older man? 40? Well, teenager dating a 40 year old man, I think, is not a good thing. Even such marriage may not really work cos the father figure kind of thing will surface. I am not married and so I have no daughter but if things like that happens to my sister I would be disappointed.
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
I think It's alright :)