Does your In-Law live with you?
By hjalj1221
@hjalj1221 (46)
United States
May 31, 2007 1:01pm CST
My Father-In-Law lives with us for about 8 months out of the year, and we do not get along at all. He puts me down for the way I cook, clean, raise my kids, and interfears constantly with our relationship. Do you have an In-Law that lives with you? And if so, how do you deal with everyday conflicts between the 2 of you without destroying your relationship with your spouse?
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
31 May 07
no, but my parents live next door, and they were just as bad!
I finally had to put my foot down with my kids and my mother. When I would get onto them for something, they would run next door and "tell on me". Then my mother would come in and start yelling at me.
I finally just told her "Look, they're my kids, and I'm raising them the way I want to."
Then I threatened the kids with bodily harm if they tattled on me when they were in trouble again.
You need to start by talking to your husband. Let him talk to your father in law and explain that it is your house, and he won't allow him to berate you anymore.
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@hjalj1221 (46)
• United States
31 May 07
It makes me very happy to hear that i am not the only one, sometimes i feel like maybe i am just crazy!!! That is exactly how it is here everyday...like you said, my kids tell on me, to they're grandpa, and then he gives them ice cream, or candy, as if he is rewarding them, and he tells on me to my husband!!! I do threaten my kids with bodily harm:)), that doesnt work either, they are smart enough to know i will not do any major damage, so they are not scared anymore!!! I will take your advice and, talk to my husband yet again...maybe this time it will make a difference. Wish me luck!!! Thanks for the response!!!:0)
@tseavellanosa (52)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Although we don't get along with my mother-in -law, but still I am much willing to let them stay in our house, and even my father-in-law too.My husband's came from a well respected family, and they are not willing to stoop down, but what else can I do if time comes that they grow old? who will take care of them?My husband is an only child now and although they are mean to me, I am still willing to shoulder them.
They can live with me...but I don't want to live with them.
