Have you tried to have your hair relaxed?

@Zelmarq (11508)
Cebu City, Philippines
May 31, 2007 6:51pm CST
I have tried it once, I thought it was good to have my hair treated coz when I stepped out of the parlor I feel great and I felt beautiful. But after a few weeks I have noticed that my hair was not as healthy as before coz there were split ends on every hair. It took so long for it to be healed from the devastation that I have caused my hair. It was really a wrong decision and it was costly. I have promised myself that I will not be hasty and if I plan to do it I should think about it a thouand times and make sure that the one who will perform is a reliable beautician. How about you mylotters have you been into this kind of situation?
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19 responses
1 Jun 07
try spreading your hair our on an ironing board, cover hair with brown paper only and iron it. It really works, but dont try this with short hair. Also keep out of the damp weather or you will return to looking like candy-floss (english expression for cotton candy). its sooo cheap to
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
2 Jun 07
wow, this sounds wierd, I need someone to assist me with this regimen. Thank you for the advice.
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• United States
1 Jun 07
I have very long straight hair, so that has not happened to me. However, many years ago, I tried a perm. What a mess. All my hair dried and split. So, I just let it be as is now. God blessed me with this type hair, so I will be thankful for it as is.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
2 Jun 07
Wow thats nice, I had the same experience.
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@nandhinir (154)
• India
1 Jun 07
So sad on hearing this...this is a good information to all..All must be very careful with making them beauty...
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
2 Jun 07
yes very much, its a lesson that we learn from these experiences.
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@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
i'm so grateful i have naturally straight hair i really don't need to have it relaxed or rebonded. if i would have been given a different type of hair, i don't know if i would even consider going to a salon for relaxing or rebond for that matter. i am just too stingy for these kinds of hair treatment, LOL!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
1 Jun 07
i also have a natural straight hair. but i still pamper it once a year and let it undergo the "half" relax treatment and a hot oil afterwards. result is great!
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
I also have natural straigh hair, the problem is that my best friend went to the parpor and I accompanied her and she persuaded me to get the treatment so I was not able to say no.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
2 Jun 07
I guess that is different for everybody. It works great on my hair and I prefer to get it relaxed whenever I can afford it.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
4 Jun 07
Thats good for you, me I was victimized with the relax and my hair is damaged.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
1 Jun 07
i always have my hair relaxed once a year. i do have a straight hair already. but since i tie it most of the time, it gets waves, too. so, having them relaxed helps in putting back it's beauty. but unlike other, i don't get the total relax treatment since i know it contains very strong chemicals. so, i always ask for "half" relax and my beautician understands it already. it's not that expensive, too and it lasts for a year for me. it's better if you consult an expert beautician and ask for opinions. atleast, you don't need to get back to that person all the time plus it will not be that expensive, too if you had the right one for you.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
2 Jun 07
Yes, I have learned my lesson well and next time I want to make sure that nothing bad will happen.
@huahua (33)
• China
1 Jun 07
yes,i had. it's a strange experience
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Yes, its strange but Im glad i have recovered from that nightmare.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Sorry to hear about that. I have my hair relaxed at least once a year. My hair is naturally frizzy and ever since I have had it relaxed/straightened it has thinned out quite a bit, which is what I like. A lot of treatment can cause my hair to dry out sometimes and I find it breaks as well I just use the pantene products to help with the dryness and breakage. I'm sure I could be doing more with it though.
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Yes thats a good remedy you could also use herbal hair spa which is available in stores which could also help moisturize the hair.
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Yes, I have tried that before. It feels great the first time I have it with my hair. It seems like I'm beautiful enough for my new hair style. It changes my feature alot but after some months, I notice some changes with my hair. It started to dry and have been damaged. I feel sad about it. Until now, my natural hair don't come back to it's original form.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Dont worry my friend I was on the same situation before, I just kept trimming my hair during those times and now its back to its original condition.
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
I have tried it twice and I'm not really satisfied neither the two attempts with relaxation of my hair. I always wanted to try stuffs in my hair since I'm the natural "wavey hair" girl so you know the feeling of jealous with those straight hair but anyway the first time i tried it..it was a disaster in a way that my dad almost sue them hehe for being to careless 'cause they have left the medicine on my hair more than what it should be so it turn out after the washing my scalp got irritated and it causing fluid and wounded. Then on my second time last year.. it turned out nice and I didn't encounter anything bad at all but after I wash my hair it seems like nothing happened. It was the same old wavey hair. It was a costly treatment and wrong decision, so i told myself the next i'm gonna have those "whatsoever" treatment with my hair or anything in my body I should choose a better/well-known salon.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
For wavy hair a friend of mine tried rebonding and until now its nice but its quite expensive but the result is very good, why wont you try it.
@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
I did and I'n still sufferring it's after effects of splitends up to this day. ewwwss! ;( I don't know. I try to cut my hair as often as I can so that natural waivy hair comes back and without spiltends.. ( hopefully!) Dyah think there's still a remedy for my already damaged hair? ;(
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Well, trimming more often would be hlepful for it cuts away those split end that is not so good to look at.
• Singapore
1 Jun 07
Is this discussion for ladies only? Anyway if it is unisex, the answer is no. I just use conditioner if I feel my hair is getting tough. It is usually ok enough. Then again my hair is short and I don't keep touching my hair. :P
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
yes this is for all lorwarwizard! I only know a few guys who had their hair relaxed. I saw my landlord relaxed his hair he looked funny.
@omz4abi (16)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
I've started having my hair relaxed since 1st yr in college..at first i like it because the effect was great.. after years of doin it.. i was disappointed because my hair is damage..
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
yes thats the problem with relaxing, it costs a lot and it could make a permanent damage to our hair.
@rtydata (80)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
I recommend rebonding than relaxing as relaxing still uses the old process of hairstraightening with just a little less of formula. Rebonding gives a much more natural look although a lot more expensive than relaxing. I heard that extenso is good as well as milk rebonding. I achieved great results with milk rebonding a year ago.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Thank you for your recommendation rtydata, I cant afford rebonding I guess its too much for me. I will try it when I have the budget.
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
I have tried it many times and I had the opposite effect. However, I do put other things with my hair that it just feels soft and have very little or no split ends. I have a natural curly hair and since I don't like to look like a 'bruha', I have it straightened or relaxed every 6months. I even have my hair colored yet it hasn't affected my hair and it is still healthy. The hair straightening and relaxation only costs me P500 and it's with hot oil already from 'Freshaire' and since its being done only once every 6 months, I consider the cost very affordable.
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Thats good, I am glad I have heard good expereinces from you. It was actually me and my best friend who expereinced the same but her case was more serious.
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Yes, I have tried it already for at least 3 times a year and just like what you described above that it's kind of unhealthy to our hairs after it's being relaxed and is more hard to comb at first, but later on after few days then it will back to normal and I can able to comb it better well.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
yes, I have already learnd my lesson and when i do it next time I will be very careful.
@jlara_gtr34 (3493)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
hi there. :) i have had my hair relaxed and glossed many times already but i havent really encountered your experience. my hair is fine, even until now and i am loving it. i am having my next hair relaxing session this june 28. i do it anually now because the effect lasts for a year. :) i think the bad effect on your hair was caused by many factors and one of those is the salon that you went to, maybe they had really harsh products there which caused your hair to be dry and brittle and to have split ends. and then, another factor maybe would have to be the quality of your hair, originally. maybe it wasnt that strong enough to handle very harsh chemicals. i suggest that you try palmolive hair repair shampoo and conditioner because that's what i have been using on my hair and honestly, my hair is really fine looking up to now, its up to my waist and i get a lot of compliments from it. :) good luck on your hair dillema and i hope that i have helped you. :)
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
wow thats very nice to hear my friend. It was a history I already have a new and healthy hair. That expereince was last three years ago and my ihair is back to the smooth and shiny condition. I dont use conditioner very often I am now using extra virgin hot oil fo my hair instead. Its really nice and very affordable.
@kokopelli (4843)
• United States
1 Jun 07
you got that right, you have to make sure your hair is being done by a reputable hairdresser, someone you know you can trust. i had a horrible experience before when i got my hair relaxed by someone i was not really familiar with. t'was not planned, just a spur of the moment when my boardmates prodded me to join them having their hair done that time (home service). my hair came out very straight all right, but became as hard as stick, no conditioner was able to soften it right away (urgh). i went to my own hairdresser the following day to seek some help and got his/her (he's gay, hehe) scoldings. til now i wonder what med that terrible hairstylist used, so strong i even had worrisome hair fall for awhile after that. i learned my lesson, as usual, the hard way :)
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
I have heard that some of them are putting muriatic acid on the formula thats why they immediately react when you tell them that its itchy. We should be very careful and really ask the beautician the contetns of their formula.
@maehan (1445)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Sad to hear that. I did perform a Rebonding to hair that part of step is relaxation. I had done it twice which is once a year. My hair is still the same. It is actually smoother than before. Do you check with the hair stylish on the aftercare. For my hairstylish, she recommended me to use the rebonding shampoo and conditioner to maintain the texture.
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@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Jun 07
Yes, very sad really. But I am glad that my hair already recovered from that trauma. Yes he did told me to have this so and so but still the damage has been done.