Crying to sleep?

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@pajmaz (134)
United States
June 1, 2007 3:07pm CST
Do you think it's okay to let your toddler cry themselves to sleep sometimes when you know they're tired but just don't want to go to bed? I sometimes let my daughter cry herself to sleep and I usually feel so guilty about it. She's usually really good about naps and usually she tells my when its naptime. Everyday at the same time! but on occasion she just throws a fit. Am I wrong to let her hack it out on her own?
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I don't know about toddlers. But I have always heard that it wasn't good to let a baby cry it out. I know I would never let my son cry it out and he gets cranky. He is 16 months and if he is fighting a nap, I will just hold him or pat his back until he falls asleep. I can't imagine letting him cry it out. It would be so hard on me. How old is your daughter? And how long has she been fighting naps? I guess it's your choice as the mother. How long does she usually scream before she falls asleep? Not long, I hope.
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@pajmaz (134)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Shes almost 2. She usually doesn't fight them, just sometimes. She only cries for a couple of minutes. If she gets hysterical, which is rare, then I go get her.
@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
1 Jun 07
No you are not wrong. The funny thing with my son is that during the day at the sitters he takes a nap fine but for me at night during bedtime he crys everynight. I feel so bad but it is the only way he will go to sleep.
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@pajmaz (134)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Thanks for your response. I'm glad I'm not alone
@wendee (359)
• Canada
1 Jun 07
I let my son cry hmself to sleep. He is just crying becuase he doesn want to go to bed and will only cry for 5-10 minutes. He is 18 months old now and I have been doing this since he was about 11 months.
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
2 Jun 07
pajmaz You are not wrong to let your toddler cry her self to sleep. Some times they get over tired and can't get to sleep in the usual calm way. My oldest daughter was this way. There was nothing to do for her but let her cry it out. Holding her or rubbing her back or feet, there was just nothing to do but let her cry but sometime she would become hysterical. I soon learned to give her an aspirin when I put her to bed. It helped her relax. This was before we know about ryes syndrome. There is nothing wrong with letting her cry as long as she doesn’t become hysterical.
@pajmaz (134)
• United States
2 Jun 07
I used to try comforting her but she would just get madder. Thank you for responding. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
• United States
3 Jun 07
Mine has trouble letting go of the day too. And, just lays in bed and talks to herself for hours. She makes up funny doll voices and carries on entire conversations. But, when she was going through the toddler stage, she would often cry at bed time. It got easier once she learned how to talk and speak English. Then I could communicate with her and explain that she needed to be quite and go to sleep. After just a bit of fussing, she would settle down and pass out! Also, I've heard that chamomile tea will help a child to sleep. Never tried it myself, though. My best advice is to do what feels right for your child. You know her best.