hold on or let go?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
June 3, 2007 12:01pm CST
What would you rather choose? what's better? to feel the pain and hurt because of holding on or feel the pain because of letting go and the thought of forcing yourself to forget?
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9 responses
@unishwetabh (1032)
• India
3 Jun 07
Ok thats really a hard one. I think that i hold on for the things until its really hard to hold on and then let it go. At least i dont have any pain of letting it go because i tried my best to hold it on. Sometimes i give up very easily as i dont see any point of holding it on.but yes it does pain sometime to see things you want going out of your reach. But its a gamble of life that we all have to do. You get something and you lose something. But i have noticed one thing that if you have a friend or someone with you to just help you morally then holding on is not that painful and many times you find success in achieving your aims.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
so you chose holding on or letting go?
• India
3 Jun 07
I said that it depends on the problem. If i can or if i have the will power to then i hold on. Generally i always try to hold on. But if it gets out of control then there is no other option than to leave it.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
well, making your mind, not your heart, decide for this is the best because sometimes when you feel like holding on,it still is the best to let go because holding on makes it complicated and hurting people around you can happen...but sometimes it's really for a person to go and go to not have resentful "if only's and what if's and what could have been's" after they choose to let go that easy,right?
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
It depends. I'll hold on if there's still love that I'm fighting for but I'll let go if I'm only fighting alone. If my partner doesn't love me anymore, I'll try to let go though its really hard but I don't want to be loving alone and hold on to something that he's not happy to stay with me anymore. Love is sometimes about letting go. I'd rather go than let my heart abuse. :)
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
that's totally what i have in my mind to be correct.. ^^,
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
if only i can add another best response, i'd choose your reply too..
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Thanks kharen. :)
@Neriz69 (1042)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
I would rather feel the pain of letting go. With letting go healing can set in. I would not want to feel never ending pain while holding on. Pain in letting can make you feel stronger in the end rather than pain in holding on where your energy is depleted and can cause you your health.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yup, with me it really caused me pain and my health too... i've been so stupid that i held on without knowing that the person i held on so much already let me go a long time ago.. and it caused me my health, i felt that it's the end of my world that i can't go on...i didn't want to breathe and don't want to stand up or do anything and don't want to eat..i just want to stay in a place and just look at one place and don't want to move.. my tears just flowed and until the day that all my tears were gone..i don't cry for any small things and problems anymore..i felt i became numb..
• China
4 Jun 07
I'll hold on as long as I think it's what I really want and it's not completely impossible no matter in the aspect of career, feeling and life ~anyhow, I may be regretful one day for abandoning a dream just because of some temporary difficulty. Hold on ,and the despairing situation will be turned into hopeful~life in in the control of yourself
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
ahm..actully, i was talking more about a love situation..hehe.. ^^,
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
4 Jun 07
I guess its the situation that u r in, which will let u feel the extreme and let u decide what u really wanna do? For me, i have been in both situations and definitely both situations are awful.... It hurts so much, tears wouldnt stop flowing... I dun even wanna recall the pain...
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yup, it's both hard... and painful..
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I choose letting go. If you stay in a relationship that constantly hurts you, you are doing an injustice to yourself. When you let go, you get hurt and then you grieve, and then you move on. You pick yourself up, you rise above it and start over. And then you don't hurt anymore.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
i agree with you.. ^^,
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 07
Sometimes it helps if you ignore the pain and pretend that you are not in pain, the pain will gradually subside. Keep on saying I am not in pain and it sort of relieve you of the pain.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
yup,i have and all my emotions subsided making me kinda numb..but maybe not totally..
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
hmmm.. That depends on the situation. If you are feeling the pain because you are holding on into something worth it then by all means I am willing to feel that pain because I know in the end I could say that I didn't let go. But if you mean someone you deeply love who has someone else then I would say, i will go for feeling the pain because i am letting go because it's hard to hold unto something that's not really for you, or into someone who has moved on with his life. I would rather feel the pain of letting go because I know that's the only way to move on.
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
its much better to just let go when you feel that the person you love is no longer holding on.indulge yourself with activities with family and friends which will make you feel your importance.