Do people change after marriage?

@djmarion (4901)
Philippines
June 5, 2007 11:43pm CST
i believe that marriage changes everything, and married people often change. it can be for better or for the worse but one thing is sure..they will change. what do you think?
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@tredale (1313)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
Yes I think they do, Some more than others but I have asked this question to my friends and they all have said there partner changed after being married some for the better and some for the worse. Its funny what a little ring can do to a relationship. My hubby changed for awhile then went back to normal thank goodness but he still changed.
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i hope your hubby changed for the better :) good luck on your relationship. all the best :)
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• Philippines
8 Jun 07
the changes must be for the better. the responsibilities alone will be a burden to face and that will make the couple more mature. they know that they are now on their own as a couple and thus will have to face life that way from then on.
@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
I believe that no-body ever stops changing, and I guess marriage adds to that as it is such a different life style, but everyone keeps on changing and when two people are married I guess you just have to hope that you change together and keep heading in the same direction.
@misste78 (539)
• United States
6 Jun 07
That is a great way to put it lilaclady.
@misste78 (539)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I don't think people change after marriage, I believe that people change with age period. Now situations occuring in the marriage can change a person attitude .
@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
thanks for the opinion. :) happy posting
@aaamm3003 (398)
• India
10 Jun 07
i think so that it differs from person to person, but i think so that no ones want to get seperated from their family after marriage but its the situation that changes them
9 Jun 07
I have been with my partner for nearly 19 years and although we got engaged, had 2 kids we never got married. I honestly believe that if we did get married now, it would change things, maybe not for him but I do feel it would for me. I like to still feel independent, have my own name and have the sense of freedom to be able to leave the relationship without the hassle or heartbreak of a divorce. I have heard of couples who have lived together for years, then decided to get married and within a year they have split. I would hate for this to happen to me, so I feel marriage is not a necessity, or something I desperately need to do. Maybe when we are both old and grey and hopefully still together it may be something to think about!!
• India
9 Jun 07
Yes, i agree with your openien. People must change after marrage.
@laiyongjun (1337)
• China
8 Jun 07
hi, djmarion, nice to meet you. i am so intersted in this discussion. hehe, in my opinion,i also believe that marriage changes everything, and married people often change. my friend chenqiurong who have married for two years.he told me that marriage is the end of single,the end of go to bar together with girls,the end of come back to home at after midnight... but it begin to think about future, think of family, take a lot of responsibilities...hehe. actually, i think everything will be changed for some reasons or someone. when you get married, you will change. when you have child, you also will change. when you become old, you also will change. hehe.everything will change with time. thak you for your discussion.
@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
There is only one thing certain in this world and it's CHANGES. My mother always told me that I would only know my boyfriend well as soon as we live together. He may show most good things to me but may not that much soon. People tend to hide their real personality and feelings during the early stage and would come out once he think it's the right time to show off. I guess my mother is right for this fact. Hopefully I would overcome the changes that would happen in the near future.
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
definitely, people will change in terms of attitudes and behavior once they are married. this is because, they are not single individuals anymore. the deep commitment in marriage must have caused this. the plans as to how to do things are greatly affected, too. the couple will now be thinking in terms of building their own family and are doing and undertaking some steps to prepare themselves for the coming forth of a family very soon. every married couple whom you will interview on this matter will all tell you that it will never be the same after having gotten married.
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i definitely think that people change when they enter the married life..! well for one they should be more mature in handling situations and they make decisions together..! :D
@sunita64 (6472)
• India
7 Jun 07
I feel people do not change but they adjust in accordance with the circumstances after marriage, so it seems they have changed. Compromises and adjustments make people mature and change or rather transformation is invitable.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
6 Jun 07
Well, i do agree with u.. I do think that people changes constantly.. For the better or worse, for definite we dunno... The only constant on earth is changes... So does people... So after marriage, one might be committed to the family, some maybe not.. Some are good fathers, so are bad... But i believe as time goes by, people do change.. But i believe too that its certain things tht makes people grow up and change... So i guess we have to be tolerant with out parteners and get through every stage with them.. =)
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
6 Jun 07
They do change. Only a few people remain unchanged. The loved ones want in a person certain changes. Some woman even separate the husband from family and she wants husband to concentrate only on her. She tries to put a stop on certain expenses husband has been doing