Feeling Lonely Can be very Depressing

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
June 7, 2007 4:40am CST
I was going through a hard time when I lived alone. I would lie staring at my ceiling. I'd think to myself, anything could happen to me right now and no one would know. I hated the silence and played my stereo really loud just to feel like I had some company. It felt like I lived in my own silent little box with four boring walls. I seemed that outside of my box the world was happening and I wasn't a part of it. How do you take loneliness in your life?
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25 responses
• United States
7 Jun 07
I agree I live alone and i absolutly hate it my doc has me on ,medication for depression and im sure the lonely ness contributes to it
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I have not gone to the extreme of getting medication for my loneliness yet. I still have mylot friends to accompany me for a chit chat.
@adijam265 (769)
• India
7 Jun 07
definitely feelin lonely can be very depressing, i think mylot can give you a solution to this for a certain extent, its like there are many people around and you are not the only, one i would tell you that you should never feel lonely, it can affect your mental health, always you must always look at being happy
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
My looks can be very deceiving. I have a joyful outlook but deep inside me I am lost and valueless. This is where I come to make friends like talking and releasing my tension. I love to be in mylot for these reasons.
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@paywise (500)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 07
I was lonely like you. Now, never. I've got a depression too. Now, never. Do you know something? You have to face the world by opening your positive thinking. Going easy is the best way to answer your lonely day. Make a good thing, find the sollution of your bad life with other friends or families. Good luck....... Don't be lonely. You're not allone.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I have read books on positive thinking but it just doesn't register in my mind. Only when you have something to do with your hand that you feel happy. Happiness is the art of living, the purpose of our existence. Without happiness life is dry and meaningless.
@paywise (500)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 07
The best way are fight your fear and making sollution by yourselft. Dont be wait the others help your destiny. The Only one can help you, do u know? Yourselft is the answer. I've done and it worked. For example, if you don't have enough money for your life, find an idea to make money. If your partner made you unhappy, talk to him and discussion.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I think its true, its only me that can help to solve my own problem.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Being alone is wonderful. Your own space and everything in its spot that will not change unless you do something to make it so. You eat what you want and do not have to share. You can decorate it girly and not have a man to complain. You don't have to worry about thievery from a room mate. You can listen to rock or opera and no one has an opinion and no one asks you to change it. The remote is all yours and any channel you select is watchable. If you wish some company you take a class or go to the mall. Shop or visit family or friends. Puzzles and puzzle books are great ways to fill time. Also you can sleep like you wish as long as you wish. There are many things good about having your own space.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Alone and lonely can be very scary at times. I feel there is no meaning to my existence even though I do what I loved. There is no one to compliment what you have achieved, no one to share your ups and downs.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Not sure why we need someone else to complement us. We are unigue amongst all. We share commonality and yet we are special. Up and downs everyone has and not sure if they should be shared always. I hope you find the joy in life again and that you nurture it and find that people will come to you like a moth to flame.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
7 Jun 07
well I wouldnt stay inside I would get out and walk look around talk to people . I garden alot and read but I do alot of this outside. when you are outside and hear the birds sing you are never truly alone!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I try to do it that way. Thanks
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
8 Jun 07
cool do that might help you hugs
• Romania
26 Jun 07
yes...feeling lonely is very depressing,but you should find a way out of this.for example,meet your friends,go out with them(it's imposible not to have at least one friend and if you don't have one make one).we usual feel lonely if we don't have a partner of life,somebody to love.don't despair!each of us has its half on this earth.think simple!think positive!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 07
Thanks for the advice.
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
8 Jun 07
May I ask you that who has created this four-wall box? Means who is responsible for this loneliness penetrating feeling? Who is stopping you to go out and share your time with friends and relatives and make yourself busy and active?? I hope these questions may lead you for real conditioning you have created! Well, I enjoy loneliness: To be with myself is gaining for me! I have learned that loneliness is not unhappy situation but it is positive thing that brings you the golden moments to be with your own self! If once you learn this then you will seek more and more time to be with you! Otherwise make yourself easy for going out and to be with friends and what ever you like positively. And ensure that to get you out of the feeling of depression!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I can't really figure out who, why or what makes this lonely feelings in me. I guess the sudden disappearance of my chidren have brought about this deep seated loneliness. They only come home once a year and when they return to their place of work, this feeling of lost and loneliness creeps in. I have taken up meditation to make me understand more of myself and the peace that it radiates through this meditation. It helps me a lot more now, discovering the true meaning of life.
• United States
8 Jun 07
I guess I'm lucky enough to have 3 teens right now but at some point I will be "alone" but I can honestly say that while I'm sure I'll have "lonely" moments for the most part I think I will enjoy the solitude. I really have a passion for life & while it can be nice to share that passion, I also enjoy being completely free of anyone else's needs & desires. I hope you can find the passion in life that allows you to be happy with or without someone else.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Very often when we are lonely, life seems dull and meaningless and it makes me wonder what we are pursuing or living for. Luckily my interest in mylot leaves me little time now to worry. At least I don't feel bored when I'm surfing.
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Its truly hard to deal with loneliness because our enemy here is our own self. I usually deal with it by crying for a few minutes but I dont indulge. After crying I would usually do my typical works because I dont believe loneliness should keep me down then I try to do something that would sooth me like listening to music, going out with friends, and making the internet an outlet to release it.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
You really know how to kill loneliness. It can challenge the feeling of loneliness if it has crept into your life.
• United States
8 Jun 07
I had to try and find as many activities as I could.It seems that I couldn't keep friends around.They would pick up my bad mood and responded negatively to my attitude.I still struggle with it but with medication and karate and going to work.I have found some purpose for my life.It may not be a whole lot but it is something and I can't let anyone take that from me.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Developing new activities and skills can be of great help to lonelinss.
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
There are times when it seems to feel right just 'wallowing'. However I would think of things that would keep me busy and get my mind off loneliness. First, I'd play my favorite music (the oldies) to cheer me up, then putter around the house. You'll find there's always something to do -- tidy up, do albums, etc. Or else, if you don't feel like doing those things, write/email or call friends and family. Maybe go out and try a new haircut or have a manicure, pedicure and massage. Just get up and get going! Life is beautiful.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Yes life is indeed beautiful but what is life if you're lonely and passing time not knowing what to do.
• United States
8 Jun 07
I am depressed as it is and being lonely only makes it worse. I always fear someday of being alone and it scares me. I very seldom am alone now that I have 4 kids at home all the time with me, but there are times that even though the house is full I still feel alone as they are doing there own things.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
It is not so bad when the kids are still small and are there for you as a company. I enjoyed being with my kids and seeing them growing up but soon they left on their own and the feeling of emptiness almost rock my insanity.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
I truly understand the feeling of being lonely.But sometimes,it depends of the choices we have.In the first place,that is the life we choose.To live in a place where we are alone.So no matter how it is hard for us, but we stay for it because we need to stand what we want for our lives. I usually watch dvd,listening to music, cleaning my house everyday.And sometimes, i call my friends to visit me.Lol!!!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
There is sure to be a certain period of life where you find all your friends are gone and you are left without the companion you used to have.
• United States
8 Jun 07
i feel for you. i understand to a point about that but i am married now.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I am not out for a companionship as I am a fully married woman but what I am saying is when my husband is out drinking with his buddies, it leaves a void in my life.
@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
I kind of feel the same sitting in my room hearing the buzzof the morning traffic going by or in the afternoon when I see school kids returning home or in the evening when I see couples holding hands with that spastic glow of love around them and wonder....What am I doing here?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I have found that puzzling moment in me when lonliness sets in.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Being alone can be very depressing at times. I have been living away from my family since I was in high school. I love being alone because you can do whatever you want or be whatever you want without anyone saying a word. But when you need someone to talk to, you can't.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Being alone sometimes can be an advantage but being cut off from the outside world will not have any meaning to our existence.
@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jun 07
I understand how it feels. As I lived alone some years ago. My life was quite simple. Every morning I went to work. After the tiring work, I went to the market to buy some foods and cooked at home. I enjoyed cooking but actually I ate it by myself most of the time. After that, I would go to have a shower and then sat in front of the TV or computer. Sometimes I played the games very late. I didn't go out so much. This life was OK but sometimes if I was not happy at work or met something bad, I would feel very loney and probably I would cry. At that time I realized that it's better to have someone to share with you.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
When I'm alone I really haven't got the appetite to eat. I will either read books or surf the net. I don't like to watch tv. Glad you share your experience here.
@mamacathie (3929)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I don't have the problem of loneliness. I don't get many days alone at all. I know many older people that say they just sit and look at the four walls. I can find so many things to do or crafts to do to keep myself entertained.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
Well I have not come to old age yet but the problems of loneliness experienced by senior citizen is what I am starting to experience. Poor me, I think I have to start to mingle around to shed this oldies tag.lol
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I agree. I feel lonely because my daughter moved out and liv with her hubby's parents house and now I have no one to talk to and I have been crying for few days and I am trying not to think about it and I know she will come and visit but still I am loney and my hubby is at work so I am here at home alone with the computer.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
I am exactly in your shoes. There are people in your life but not around with you always. So loneliness sets in. Luckily there is this computer to fill the gap.
@MyoanBiz (140)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Have been there & done that. Even went outside of the 4 walls to sit on the front step & realized I was watching the world pass me by. So I went back inside in order to avoid seeing what I saw. When being alone is not a choice it can become really overwhelming. I choose now to live alone, but I'm not lonely.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
Actually I'm not alone in the complete sense. I have a husband, children and cats in my life but my sons are away working, my daughters are in bording school and my busband is a drinker and choose to be with his friends always. So I'm left all alone in the house. My only companion is here mylot friends.