Stuck in a Rut and Feeling Aimless?

@jennybianca (12915)
Australia
June 8, 2007 12:25am CST
If you are stuck in a rut & feeling aimless, try a simple exercise: Think years ahead to a time when you are living your ideal life, you are happy & have everything you want. Now think about the differences bewteen then & now. Write down the key things that were making you so happy. Next to each thing draw an arrow pointing to a brief desrciption of what you did to get there. I tried this exercise, & it really made me postive. I thught ahead 8 to 10 years. My husband & I would both be retired, living off our superannuation & investments. We would have bough a nice caravan, with a toilet, & were travelling around Australia. How did we get there? By having a common plan & ideas of what we want when retired. By both of us having superannuation, & not spending too much of my investment. I can't wait!
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@Fishmomma (11523)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I agree its important to have a plan for the future. My husband and I made a plan several years ago, as we have two daughters that we wanted to help get through college. Our youngest daughter is in college now. The plan has been going well and each year we look it over to see, if we are saving enough for the future. My husband plans to retire in three years and we are going to be able to travel and see several countries that we have always wanted to visit.
@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
We would do much the same, although I think overseas travelling won't work for us due to my husbands severe food allergies. I think we would have yoo much trouble accessing what he can eat.
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
8 Jun 07
It is hard for me to think of a time where i am happy tonight but i know that my future happiness is all about my childrens happiness. my youngest is not quit 2 and i am only 27 so retirement is a ways away for me so i would start with being able to send them to college and helping them get their lives started, then a little farther out seeing them with their families and being sttled into life, then hopefully i would of had a job that i was able to retire from and live for my grnadchildren then, i had thought about traveling at some point in my life but i am not one for planes or boats so if i went anywhere it would have to be reached in a car. But making sure my childrens lives were better then what mine is would make me the happiest. I am not sure how i am going to get there right this second but i know that it is possible.
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@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
You are totally focussed on your children, which is great, as I know I focus a lot on my daughter. But you need time to yourself, & hobbies, etc.
• United States
8 Jun 07
What good advice. I am enjoying a comfortable retirement because I planned every step of the way. Once I reached a stage in my career where I could get a decent salary I made it a rule never to accept employment with a company that did not offer a pension plan and good benefits. Some jobs offered higher salaries but I did not accept them and now I so glad I thought of the future.
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@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
Very good thinking & planning. A very good pension plan is a must nowadays. I want to get out & about.
@charms88 (7545)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
I keep aiming for so many goals and yet, I have my two little ones who need my time and attention. I have been mastering the art of positive thinking for weeks now. It was difficult at first but eventually I was able able to slowly put my perspective in line and at the same time started planning ahead. I do have something in my mind of what I'm going to do when I'm old and gray. Buy a small cottage house away from the city, tend to my gardening and raise more bunnies.
@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
That sounds wonderful. Doing gardening & raising bunnies would be relaxing, but fullfilling. A good aim.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
8 Jun 07
This is interesting to say the least. But when I'm in a rut I look to what I had before that kept me out of the rut then go back to achieve that same thing to bring me back up. Thanks for the idea. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
9 Jun 07
Nothing wrong with that. Looking at how you were in the past, compared to now, is as good as looking towards the future.
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
8 Jun 07
wow. this is one good exercise for us to atleast forget the sad times we had before and move on thinking about our future, too. there are people who love to dwell in their past and having no dreams at all for their future. and so, this discussion is really very helpful for most of us here. i will start thinking of my aims in life and think of ways on how to make them all come true. with the help of my boyfriend and my family, i will be able to get there. just like you jenny... i can't wait, too!.. anne
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I hope it does come to pass that way for you. We too were working toward such a dream and now it is gone. All of it. We are starting all over from nothing essentially. Life can change and I hope that life goes smoothly for you. There are no guarantees.
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9 Jun 07
As always Jenny, excellent advice! It can be so easy to get stuck in a rut and not see past the problems of today. What seems impassable today can be looked back at in good spirits a week/month/year later. The joys of human nature, we can overcome most things.