A question for those who loved and lost and loved again.
By LRB1111
@LRB1111 (356)
United States
June 10, 2007 2:54pm CST
I have heard all the sayings.
-True love comes to those who wait.
-Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
-If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it dosent, then it was never meant to be.
-Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I try to remember the truth in these sayings but it is difficult to let love go if it still lingers in your heart. I met someone who i feel i am still deeply in love with but who i am not sure feels the same way about me anymore. I sometimes have the thought that if they truly loved me or were meant for me that they would feel the exact same way that i do NOW and not tomorrow. But i know that love does not work that way. It is unpredictable and it can brings us blessings when we least expect it and heartache the very next moment.
Has anyone ever had to let love go only to find love with that same person again at a later time?
Or has anyone lost a love and thought that it would never feel the same way with anyone else, only to find a deeper and more meaningful love with someone else?
I would love to hear your thoughts and responses on this.
Thank you.
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10 responses
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I thought I had met the love of my life my junior year in highschool. We were together until 4 years later. I was devastated. Completely heartbroken, and at the time, I swore that I would NEVER love anyone else ever again. I would never be with anyone else and I would never be happy if I was. Well, just 2 1/2 months later, I met the father of my child. He and I connected on a level that my first love and I never did. He was more mature, more grown up, much older than me, very attractive.......we could actually talk, which was something my first love and I could NOT do. So, yes, I found something much deeper. I found my forever love!
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I've always said "whoever said 'it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' must never have loved and lost"...
I haven't yet lost a love and found someone better, but I hope to. I think that once you love someone they'll always have a place in your heart, whether they broke it or not...their place will still always be there. You just always have to make sure there is room for someone else.
I had an english teacher when I was in high school who my class used to ask all sorts of crazy questions. Once we asked if she was married and she told us that her fiance was killed in a motorcycle accident a few months before they were supposed to get married. After that she never wanted to marry anyone else because he was the only man she'd ever loved.
On one hand I always thought that was super sweet... on another I always hope that I have room in my heart for someone else.
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@urbangirl (1456)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
I have lost a love only to find something deeper and more meaningful with someone else. I also think that you have to be with that person for love to grow deeper. Holding them dear in your heart is great but the really getting to know them inside and out takes time.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
10 Jun 07
I've loved two girls previously before I met my wife and I can say that it does grow and become stronger.
Meaning it doesn't matter for me because those wasn't right or true love. My wife and I are young and we've been together since we was sixteen. I do think this time It is true love because I took my time to allow us get to know her.
~Joey
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@gracelee114 (215)
• China
11 Jun 07
Hello LRB111: I agree on this. I have two bfs before ,and the time i lost them one by one ,i felt so despair,Just felt that everything on the world is grey,I can`t find my love this lifetime .But now ,I realized i was wrong,because i have found my best one,he is the greatest darling that i have never encounted before.So ,each time i think of this ,i feel i am so lucky. I appreciated to the former ones who give me the love experience,I am sure i loved them before ,but now ,i have found my beloved this lifetime,and they also tell me how to tresure ur spouse.
So ,if u lost ur love or found ur love but thougt u can`t love him\her as before.No need ,U can have ur strong passion on him\her if u real give ur whole heart to.Don`t worried ,the best is waiting for u.
@lei_go888 (1)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
What can i share with u is that:LEARN TO LOVE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE WILLING TO LOVE YOU. FORGET THE PEOPLE IN PAST AND THANK THEM FOR HURTING YOU, WHICH LED YOU TO LOVE THE PEOPLE YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW.
Hope this can help you so much and make your life as HAPPY FOREVER......
@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Jun 07
i completely agree with you. All these sayings seems to be ideally true. But in reality it really becomes hard to accept all these. It true when love goes away and you still have that feelings lingering in you, it makes you sad, it hurts you.
Again let someone cheats you, can you really forget taht and also all the good things associated with it.
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I have been through 2 marriages and now have someone else I love. I have been through times where I have been alone, but they end. sometimes it is with a friend, I have had some women who were friends, sometimes it is with guys I know.
Eventually it comes around and there is someone who is there for you, and you will get together with them, somehow. It may not be the big romantic love, but the love of cuddling together, of late night talks, watching a movie, or just dinner or lunch, or breakfast together. That truly is love, when it feels good with them.
@kfamini (92)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
i hev my first ever boyfren since i graduate from college.i dont like to hev any relationship when i was studying.but when i gradtuate and have work imediately i met this guy.i love him so much but one tym we broke up because i realize one thing.then after a month one guy knock on my heart then i fall in love again, so i lost my first love but theres one guy who catch me when i fall down. its very diffrent from my first love.
