So he's gay... a shemale ... and then?
By pinks0da
@pinks0da (328)
Philippines
June 11, 2007 10:54am CST
This afternoon at the office, we had a little game.. It's called bring me, the managers on their stations are sending messages to the whole office for things/persons to bring. One funny bring me was this "bring me a confused gay". I have a lot of gay friends inside our office and I myself is dubbed as "built in gay" because I jive with them. They sent that because they wanted one person to really admit that he is indeed gay but don't want to admit it in public though everyone is saying he is and some confirmed it. I wonder why he doesn't want to be himself so to be free. Personally I have nothing against gays or shemales because I am surrounded by them, some are even sexier and prettier! They really make me happy. Whenever I'm bored, I just go talk to them and they surely cheers me up. I admire those people who admits who they are. My questions mylotters are these:
1.) Do you judge gays/shemales? Do you think they won't go to heaven because they are not living the way they are created?
2.) People who are men outside but are really gay, what stops them from coming out in the open and admit the truth?
3.) Do you have gay friends? How do they make you feel?
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5 responses
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
I am a f*g hag. I love gay men and women. I admire the courage it takes them to be different from the norm. I knew this guy once and had no idea about his personal life he was just a friend. One night he pops in at work to see me and my hubby and he was dressed as a woman and told us how he was a pre-op transexual. He was still our friend and we let him know that. Same guy, different clothes. I had a roommate before my hubby who was gay. We used to fight over men! I admit he won a lot! We sure had fun though! He was such a blast. I work with a guy who is gay and he is the most fun to work with and has a wicked sense of humour. It makes me sick that these people are ever treated as less than others because of who they choose to sleep with. I don't believe in god so no they won't go to heaven and neither will anyone! That is a whole different rant though. I wish that everyone felt it was okay to be who they are and not have to hide the fact they are gay, but in a world full of gay bashing one cannot blame them for hiding it. The only thing about shemales that bothers me is most of them are way better looking than me!
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
12 Jun 07
I found that the first part of your discussion really detracted from the rest.
I don't see what you are describing as being a game or funny, I see it as being nothing less than harassment. Why should someone be hounded to admit something he clearly doesn't want to and why should his sexuality matter to the managers anyway?
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Thanks for the response pilbara. Nobody gave that "game" a big deal, for everyone it was just a fun day for us.. Perhaps I can say, I'm glad that happened not in US, otherwise it's gonna be a HUGE problem. Here, everyone's cool about it, nobody was offended, nobody felt harrassed.. I know because until now, everyone remained friends and happy, that was just a regular fun day for everyone.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Sorry, pinks0da, I can't answer your question because there seems to be a closed-door policy here on MyLot regarding certain subjects. I would suggest, though, that you ask some of your "shemale" friends.
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I never judge gays or shemales, I find them to be a little more attractive and more talkative. Plus they give better advice and they are pretty as females. I don't think that one should be judged on that. I believe they will go to heaven because they are good people. God made us all different and we should not be afraid to accept who we really are.
Some men are afraid to come out because they are scared of being judged, made fun of, or even losing their jobs. Some feel their families will shun them. I had a gay friend,he was not openly gay, but he told only me because he knew I would not utter a word. He said his family would hate him because they had once said that gay people should go to hell. Plus his family was very religious. I felt very sad for him.
I had a few gay friends in the past and they always made me feel better about myself that non gay friends. I felt happier and prettier around my gay friends, I knew they would never judge me at all.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Right curvychick. Most gay I know are smart and principled. About those who are not admitting it due to fear of being judged specially by their families, I must say it's really hard. I have a gay friend like yours who is not open about his sexuality to his family, only us his friends know about it and her 1 sister. The rest of his family didn't know, I had to be very careful in talking to his other sister because she had no idea! But I don't know what happened one day he just told me that he already found the courage to tell his parents and I'm glad they accepted him for what he is, now he 's free from that anxiety. I'm so happy for him. :).. I hope more people and families will be like his family who understands that being gay does not make their son less of a person. :) Thanks curvychick!!!
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
12 Jun 07
1) I do not judge anyone. I don't have anything against gays. It's not me who is gay, they are the ones to choose if they want to have a serious relationship with their own gender.
2) I can't tell you. Maybe they are afraid. I don't know, why this fear? I have no fear in telling that I am a man, and I love a girl. Must be hard to them.
3) Nope, I do not have gay friends.
