Is it right to accept expensive gifts?

Philippines
June 17, 2007 3:40am CST
I have a boyfriend who showers me with expensive gifts. Not just the ordinary expensive gifts like branded watches, bags or stuff...but expensive gifts such as luxury cars, house and lot, trips abroad and cash for my own shopping sprees. Is it right for me to accept all these? I don't ask for it. He just gives it to me. He tells me that's how much he cares for me and well he's earning a lot and can afford it so he doesn't mind giving me all these. But when other people learned about this, they have been giving negative comments about me. Is it my fault? I'll be glad to hear your thoughts.
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
17 Jun 07
Very few things last forever, so while he can why not... How can it be your fault. When my boyfriend can then he buys me expensive gifts as well. It is not all the time, but at least once a year and I appreciate it and it is his way of showing me that he cares and loves me. Often he tells me he wishes he could give me more, but I am really happy with what I have and what I get. So enjoy it while it lasts and be grateful for them... Do not take it for granted that it will always be there and that you will always receive. Keep and maintain perspective about it. Enjoy! :)
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• Philippines
17 Jun 07
yes, im really very grateful.
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
17 Jun 07
Great! Enjoy!
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@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
17 Jun 07
don't feel guilty accepting them. you aren't asking for it anyway. plus, even if you will try to say no to these gifts, i'm pretty sure he'll force you to get them. so, get them. hehe. for as long as you're not using him, you don't need to listen to people around you. they can say what they wanna say about you. they are just jealous and envious of how lucky you are. don't let them make you feel bad about you being happy. just get on with your life and be happy... anne
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• Philippines
18 Jun 07
thanks anne :)
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• India
17 Jun 07
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i guess its not correct to receive expensive gifts , and we should say no to the frends who give us expensive gifts
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• Philippines
17 Jun 07
why do you think it's wrong?
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• India
18 Jun 07
well your boy friend is expressing his love whynot thats how men are.Why do you care others,if u want it you take it or otherwise say no.But think before accepting it becoz its like he has almost purchased you.if you treat him as your husband to be then whats wrong thats your right.but give this relation a name very soon otherwise you will be in trouble.Take care.......
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@federickp (607)
• India
18 Jun 07
Look there is a difference between boyfriend gifting you an expensive gift and any other person gifting you an expensive gift. If he would have been just your friend then i would have said that you should out an limit on the gifts. But if he's your boyfriend,then if he will not gift you, then you else he will gift? Next time he brings you a brand new luxury car, tell him to gift that to the girl next door! HE HE! Accept his love and gifts, and try to tell him that gifts dont matter, love matters. SO that he will not concentrate more on gifts.
• United Arab Emirates
18 Jun 07
Yes but there are some limits which we have to decide. It is very wrong to only keep accepting gifts without giving one. I hope you are planning to get married in future. Good luck.
@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
wow how lucky you are that your boyfriend shower you with both love and expensive gifts. anyway if he really that rich and can afford that then there's no problem. i think its one way of showing that you are important to him and that is you are part of his life, isn't it?
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@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
18 Jun 07
well, for me it depends on how serious our relationship is... if the relationship is very serious and i'm pretty sure that he is the one for me and i will get married with him, then i will accept all his gifts... but if i just know him and i'm not sure where the relationship is going, then i don't dare to take it as i don't want to feel indebted to him when the relationship doesn't work out... i won't really care about what other people is saying... the most important thing is the two of you who are going through the relationship... you are very lucky to have a bf like him...
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@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
18 Jun 07
If I were you, I would not accept such expensive gift. How long do you stay together? Do you love him? Can you get married someday? I think every girl will be very happy when her boyfriend send an expensive gift to her. It means how much he cares you. Now I know a rich man, he says he loves me, but I have a bf, and I can't love him. I think I will be a friend of his, but now a gf.
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@tamikotan (483)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
I think its okay to accept expensive gifts, so long as that person won't be asking for anything in return. There are really people who take joy in lavishing their loved ones with things, and I see nothing wrong in that. You yourself mentioned that you didn't ask for it and he said that he could afford it. Its not acceptable to accept "expensive gifts" when it was given by just a person who you don't really have a relationship with. That would be "indecent". Those people who have been giving you negative comments must learn to be open minded about things. As far as I could see, they are just envious of having such a generous boyfriend.
• United States
17 Jun 07
those people are stupid, dont listen to them, theyre just jealous. and im serious. why are they giving negative comments, while youre getting what others would want? see?? its not your fault. and its not your boyfriends.
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@egortizv (225)
• United States
17 Jun 07
From my point of view..i dont think it is wrong. You are loved. Feel special. You must be to get suck luxurious gifts. But if you dont love him they same way you think he loves you...you should tell him how you feel.It just wouldnt be fair to him. Or tell him your not to comfortable with getting such gifts..not yet at least ;) if you think you will last forever and maybe even get married than even better, more power to you!! but if your planning to dump, be nice. But its your business and if he can afford to spoil you, well hey, nobody's complaining! =)
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• India
17 Jun 07
Before accepting the costly gifts, you should be aware of his nature, source of income,background, & intentions.This may be start of the luv with you.Nothing happens in this world without reason.
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I don't think it's wrong. If he wants to give you gifts like that, that is his perogative. I mean, as long as you love him and are not just staying with him BECAUSE he offers you those things, I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. As far as the negative comments from other people, maybe you should consider the source. Look at these people's lives and see what is going on with them. They are probably just jealous that they don't have someone to buy things like that for them. I think you're lucky and you ought to just tell people to keep their opinions to themselves, ever heard the expression, "opinions are like @ssholes, every one has one", well nay sayers ought to keep it to themselves.
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@SunnyDays (1071)
• Bahamas
17 Jun 07
Obviously he can afford it now and wants to show you how much he loves you . Enjoy it while it last and do not ever take it for granted
@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jun 07
I will feel nervous to accept it. I think perhaps I won't accept it as it's just too expensive. It seems that I will owe him something if I accept such expensive gift. You can accept it if you think it's fine. If I accept it, perhaps I can't live him any more as I got some expensive things from him.
• Pakistan
17 Jun 07
I think its not bad until he can afford from his own money but if he is into something wrong then dont accept but if he is earning and want to give you what ever he want then its ok and another thing is that "A gift is a gift even its a plan or just a pin" and gifts do not have a price tag :)
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@olyngurl (149)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
You are lucky considering you have a boyfriend who is willing to give you an expensive gifts.. It is okay to accept it for as long as you don't abuse his generosity and the his gifts come from his heart. I mean he give it to you willingly and not waiting for anything as a return... Just ignore those people who keep on giving negative comments about it.. It isn't your fault.. It's not your fault to be pretty and be loved by somebody like your boyfriend...
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• India
17 Jun 07
you can accept it whats wrong in that , he loves you and he gives you , you are lucky to have such a boyfriend really go on with it
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@senthil2k (1501)
• India
18 Jun 07
Personally, you should only value the Love with which the Gift is given. Not the value of the Gift itself. With that in mind, I dont think you should worry about the cost of the gifts given by your BF to you. If you are very much confident, that your BF truly loves you and is true to you, then I dont think you should worry about the costly gifts. Just enjoy your love life.